Steps in coaching yourself (and it can be used with others too)
by Pat Mathews - 2020.5.5
See and acknowledge your own reaction (witness)
- When you acknowledge, you move from operating in a fearful reactive place to a more thoughtful and deliberate place.
- Denying your reactions or stressors actually triggers the brain to keep "pinging" you about the thing that you are trying to avoid
Use your reaction to achieve your goals - connect with what matters most to you to change your response (choose)
- Connecting with your values allows you to use your emotions to connect with the things that matter most
- How might you change your reaction to better facilitate your goals and your purpose (reframe)
Own your reaction - connect to your values and goals (allow)
- By owning your reaction, you connect to the personal value behind it
- Try using this sentence:
" 我之所以会对_____有这样的反应，或是因为我很在乎________。”
Use your reaction to achieve your goals - connect with what matters most to you to change your response (choose)
- connecting with your values allows you to use your emotions to connect with the things that matter most
- How might you change your reaction to better facilitate your goals and your purpose (reframe)
The inter games runs the outer games！
