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七个技巧,与任何人开启一场开心的谈话
7 Ways to make a conversation with almost anyone
感悟:
1.The first word flood gates
用第一个词打开这场对话 :Say hello with smile.
2.Skip the small talk
跳过不必要的寒暄,直奔主题,比如:名字,来这座城市几年,工作几年,来自哪里……
3.Find the me-toos
寻找你与谈话人两者的共同点,比如:来自同一个地方,喜欢同一个名人(各个领域),在教育子女方面保持一致等,这样自然而然的会得到他人好感。
4.Pay a unique compliment
对待他人付出独特而真诚的赞美,另外还要注意“赞扬免疫力”的现象。
5.Ask for an opinion
向他人征求一下很容易给出的建议,并认真倾听。
6.Be present
交谈过程要走心,全心全意的投入其中,不可三心二意,眼神交流是魔法出现的地方。
Eyes contact is where the magic appears.
7.Name ,place,animal,thing
记住对方信息的所有细节,再次重复讲给他听。
细节决定你与他人的链接程度。
A conversation is like reading a book:you can turn to any page you want, you can flip to your favorite chapter. You can read as long as you read and you can read what you want.
Every person is a really good book.