Bonding :A Cyclical Process of Moving to the World and Back to the Self
回到世界和回到自我的循环过程
It is important to know how a client bonds. If a client tries to
make you a well-ordered logical person and you aren't, you could look for the function of his projection. Is the function to distort reality so he feels safe? It may be a statement about himself projected onto you in order to take it back.
——生命的内在真的是很有意思的，越来越感觉到我们看见的都是自己。来访者看见的逻辑，不是治疗师，正是TA自己，是一个关于TA的故事。我时常在自己的体验中会发现这是断了联结的过程，如何“接住”而不失去也是艺术。
If a person sees you as logical, you can talk about how he uses his own logic. He can then take back what is his and you can admit that you aren't very logical.如果一个人认为你是合乎逻辑的，你可以谈论他如何使用自己的逻辑。然后他就可以收回他的东西，你就可以承认你不是很合乎逻辑。
——我在我以为的以为里，我的的以为却不是TA的以为，自以为“是”，缺少了核对。
Bonding has to do with the therapist's ability to understand
himself. A therapist may find that a client sees something in him that he doesn't know about himself. Perhaps the client sees the therapist as a cold, rejecting person. If the therapist has a stake in seeing himself as warm and accepting, then he must deny the client's projections.
——突然想到了一致性，我们有多少的时候是一致的呢？
Perhaps this client had a mother who always wanted him to be warm, and he resented that, so he now makes the therapist cold so as not to be trapped as before.也许这个来来访者的母亲一直希望他感到温暖，他对此感到不满，所以他现在让治疗师变冷，以免像以前那样被困住。
——治疗师的智慧，能在自己的体验中体验到，也在工作中运用出来。
The main tools a therapist has are his own responses.
一个治疗师所拥有的主要工具是他自己的反应。
