闺蜜的故事——身边的故事
富兰克林和他研读社的朋友
刘强东——比较火的故事（对比）
马云和蔡崇信
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国外两位学者将人们对于朋友/友情的需求归为六大类：
· 陪伴；和朋友在一起的时候，自己会感到非常快乐；
· 帮助；朋友能够给自己及时的指导、帮助、建议，或者提供有价值的信息
· 亲密；自己可以向对方坦诚地表达和暴露自己的想法，他对此也会足够地敏感；
· 可靠；朋友是值得信赖的、可靠的，在我们有需要的时候，他会在身边；
· 自我肯定；对方与自己在价值观上是契合的，对方会让自己感觉到被肯定、被赞同；
· 安全感；在自己到了一个陌生的新环境时，他的存在能让自己感到安全。
而在此次调查中，大家对于朋友，最看重的是“能否在对方面前做真实的自己”。
3.我们拥有的朋友数量级相当，但友情的意义却大不相同。
我们发现，在不同性别、不同年龄、结过婚或者没结过婚、生育或者未生育的人群中，大家所拥有的普通朋友、好朋友以及挚友的数量级并没有明显的差别。虽然处于不同人生阶段的人，所拥有的朋友的数量级似乎并没有明显的差别，但是，朋友的意义，却大不相同。
对于尚未成年的人（18岁以下的受调查者）而言，他们最看重的是“对方是不是值得信赖和依靠的”，而对于已经成年的人而言，他们最看重的是“是否能在对方面前做真实的自己”。
She got divorced and dated with me again and again.The same story was poured to me more than five times.After that thing,I found she was different from the impression. In my mind ,she should work hard for tuture and pay filial respects for her parents.In fact,her mother who has been well past retirement age,but still worked hard due to her unemployment.But she complained about her mother's idea of saving money.Benjamin Franklin told us be slow in choosing a friend,slower in changing.As a result ,I told her about my feelings and encouraged her to find a job and start some more interest such as yoga and English.Time may make us cool down and when she becomes better,we can take deeper talking together.
According to the survey online ,compared with the young people(who are under 18 years old),they rely on the people who are reliable.However for the adults they think highly of the friends who they can be themselves in front of them.The speed of the society is fast and we suffer from the pressure and worry from the society.Find a friend who we can talk with him or her naturely which can help us better.Franklin's success relies on many friends around him.He's really a genius and good at science.He and George White Field who is a priest are good friends.Mr White is expert at preaching and persuading others to donate. Franklin don't belong to any faith and not interested in it.But the art of persuading still attracted Franklin and made him a outstanding diplomat. The persuit of faith of Mr White and freedom and indepence of Franklin built their great friendship.The demand of friendship that they can help each other make them good friends.
Rockefeller said that The friendship established on the basis of business, the resort has established a business based on friendship. Do you still remember that Jack Ma and Joe Cai(蔡崇信).He gave up his 700,000 dollars every year and worked for Jackie Ma and earned 500 Rmb every month.The decision is based on his appreciation to Jack Ma.Achievement is inseparable from their efforts.
Birds of a feather flock together.Become an active person and attract more excellent people to be your friends.Accomplish yourself and your friends.
