Tal的故事:
曾经因为压力大,病的比较严重,初步检查完后,医生半夜来电,让立即去最好的医院治疗。在去医院的出租车内,Tal想到了生死,他想如果只剩下一年的时候,在这一年中会做些什么呢?生活上,他会用所有的时间跟家人一起度过,但是职业上呢?他第一个反应就是要留下一系列的课程,一个向人们介绍积极心理学的系列课程。
看到Tal的经历,突然就想到了乔帮主:
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
乔帮主在17岁的时候读到一句话:“如果你把每一天都当作生命中最后一天去生活的话,那么有一天你会发现你是正确的。”从那时开始的三十几年,他在每天早晨都会对着镜子问自己:“如果今天是我生命中的最后一天, 你会不会完成你今天想做的事情呢?”当答案连续很多次被给予“不是”的时候,就知道需要改变某些事情了。
这是最好的提醒自己的方式,因为在死亡面前,所有的外界附加的东西都为零。外界的认可、名望、害怕失败后的窘境等等,在死亡面前都不重要,只剩下真正对你有意义的人和事。
反观下自己:
1、时间这么宝贵,用在无聊的人和事上,太不值得了。抱怨领导的二逼,后悔哪句话说错伤到玻璃心的人,后悔没有按照三年前的规划走下去,担忧将来的职业发展……stop,努力去做有意义的事吧,不要想太多。
2、对于自己真正热爱的,你付出足够的时间和耐心了吗?难得选择的职业也算是自己喜欢的,但你对喜欢的人和事付出足够的时间和耐心了吗?一万小时理论,热爱的事做到极致才会产生价值,不管现在是否能给你带来财富、地位,再喜欢的东西也需要耐下心来慢慢打磨成自己想要的样子。问问自己:如果你只剩下一年或者一天的时间,你最想做什么?除了陪伴家人之外,什么是你想坚持的?你对这件事付出足够的关注和耐心了吗?
3、现在的你,已经处在当年幻想的时间里,曾经坚持的你,想追的梦还记得吗?
每天问问自己 “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”直到此时我们才会去关注生命存在的终极意义吧。生命三万多天,哪怕有一个小时浪费在无意义的后悔、抱怨、担忧上,都太不划算了。