本文转自Scott H Young的博客
What is the biggest source of failed goals, dreams and ambitions?
Is it luck? That you just didn’t have the right cards, and so there was nothing you could have done?
Is it talent or method? If you were just smarter and used the right technique, you could have made it work?
I’d like to argue that the vast majority of our struggles in life come down to one simple problem: our actions don’t match our intentions.
The Action-Intention Gap
Think about the last goal you struggled with. Maybe it was losing weight, learning a language or starting a business? Why did you struggle?
Sometimes you do everything right—you make a plan, put in effort exactly how you intended to, and things still don’t work out. That can hurt, but most of the time, this isn’t the case.
Instead, our projects flop and goals fail because we had some intention to do something, and we didn’t follow-up.
You started the new exercise habit, but gave it up after three weeks.
You thought about trying to learn a language, maybe even downloaded some apps, but then life got in the way.
You’d like to start a business, but you’re not sure what to do, and you never made progress.
This is what I call the action-intention gap. It is the difference between how we would intend to do things, and what actually happens. It’s the difference between a great idea and great execution. This is where most of our struggles, failures and frustrations originate.
How to Close Your Action-Intention Gap
Closing this gap isn’t easy, but there is a fairly straight-forward process. It has three steps.
Step One: Understand Your Intentions
The first reason people have a gap is that their intentions weren’t very clear to begin with. If you aren’t even sure what you intended to do, how could you possibly stick with it?
So many dreams die because they were never more than fantasies. If you want to have any chance of improving your life, it needs to start with being clear about what you intend to do, even if you’re still imperfect about following through on those plans.
Example: “I’d like to learn French” = no clear intentions. “I’m going to buy this book and try to study fifteen minutes every morning” = clear intentions. The latter person may not actually follow through, but the first person’s goals are so ill-defined she can’t possibly succeed.
Step Two: Understand Yourself
The next step is harder. It’s not enough to set goals, intentions or plans. You need to understand who is the person that will be acting on them.
What are your strengths and weaknesses? Why did your goals fail in the past? What obstacles will get in the way and how can you work around them?
If not having intentions is the first cause of failure, the second is imagining an idealized superhero is actually going to act on your plans. That person doesn’t exist. There’s only you. So you’d better align your intentions with the kinds of things you can actually follow.
Example: You typically start projects with a lot of motivation, but give up after a few weeks. Why don’t you try to set a very small minimum amount of work you’ll do each day? Then, even if things get busy, you won’t completely drop the ball.
Step Three: Align Your Intentions
Your end-goal has two parts. The first part, is that your intentions, if followed, should get you where you need to go. If you’re trying to launch a company, learn a language, graduate from college or lose weight, the plan you set has to at least have a decent chance of working out.
The second part is that your intentions need to be engineered so that you can actually act on them. Knowing yourself, and what things in your life, personality and habits will interfere and support your intentions can help you design your project to accommodate your situation.
Alignment is an ongoing process of examining these two parts and responding the feedback. While you’re working, you see how your intentions are working out, you also look at how well you’re following through on your intentions, and you adjust both to make progress.
Example (Aligning Intentions with Goal): You want to lose weight, so you’re trying a habit of filling up your exercise meter on your fitbit every day. But you’ve been trying it for months, and you haven’t lost any weight. Therefore, you adjust your intentions to something more effectively, like cutting down on portion sizes.
Example (Aligning Intentions with Action): You’re now trying to cut portion sizes, but you find you end up overeating a lot, especially at restaurants. You redefine your plan to eat half your meal, and wait twenty minutes before eating the other half (only if you’re still hungry). Now you’re able to follow-through better on your initial idea.
Make it Happen this Year
This is the first lesson in a multi-part series I’m giving to kick-off a new session of my course, Make it Happen!
This course is all about closing your action-intention gap.
How can you set intentions that will actually get you where you want to go in life? Are they too weak? Unrealistic? Misguided? This course will help you design plans that actually work.
How can you make sure you act on your intentions? How can you understand yourself deeply so that you can overcome your past struggles and failures? How do you design the systems in your life so that achievement becomes automatic?
Over the next week, I’ll be giving more lessons like this one. After, if you’ve found these lessons helpful, I encourage you to join our full course, Make it Happen! where we have many more lessons and in-depth worksheets to truly make the things you care about happen in your life.
