早上把幸福课第二课听完后，简直是醍醐灌顶。迫不及待想打电话给弟弟分享，可是他不在，趁着记忆尤新，我赶紧把它记录下来吧。
心理学家通过研究那些获得成功的孩子时，发现他们身上都有以下几个特点：
1. optimistic and always believe in themselves. Even things are awful now, they believe that it will be better later. Even this time I failed, but it will be well later.
2. internal idealism.
3. pro-social. not hesitate to help others. helping others= helping self
4. set goals for themselves.
5. have her own role model. imitate the role model and want to be like that.
6. social support. They do not bowl alone. I am tough enough to reach for help. Have the ability to admit weaknesses.
Seek support from the person who could give you the real support.
7. question creates reality. ask questions like 'what are my strengths', instead of 'weaknesses and deficiencies'. If you keep asking your weaknesses, you will focus on the bad things and be upset.
Marva Collins-- Positive Learning. Tell my brother more like this: You can make something and I know you will. You can succeed. Stop blaming and take your responsibility because no one is coming. You are the people who need to fix problems of your own life.
对我而言，这一集感触最深的就是相信自己、多关注自己的优点和长处，减少质疑，相信未来总是好的，即使这一次失败了，但是以后一定是好的，因为我对未来深信不疑。将这一点放置我自己的生活中，我最近比较担心的事情就是减肥和工作，我有的时候就是过度担忧，那按照今天所学，我应该对自己有信心，对未来充满信心，因为我知道我一定能瘦下来，我一定能找到一份好工作，即使没有找到即使没有收到理想的样子，但是以后也一定能达到我想要的样子。
当我相信自己的时候，我可能就会减少犹豫挣扎的时间，更快地进入状态。
还有，我发现role model 应该是非常有用的，有了这个，我就不会轻易满足于现状，因为我知道自己离这些role models 还差得远呢。他们那么谦卑，不断学习，对社会做出极大的贡献，我可能就会继续努力，让自己和他们站成一排。
今日名言：
无为其所不为，无欲其所不欲。
