This is how to make friends as an adult
成年人如何交朋友
1. The new starts with the old
旧相识可以变成新朋友
The first step to making new friends is… don't. Instead, reconnect with old friends.
结交新朋友的第一步是……不找新的朋友。相反，和老相识重新取得联系。
2. Listen, seek similarity, and celebrate
倾听，寻找共同点，一起庆贺
Studies show being likable can be as easy as listening to people and asking them to tell you more.
研究表明，要讨人喜欢，就要学会倾听他人并让他们告诉你更多。
And mountains of research show similarity is critical. So when they mention something you have in common, point it out.
其次，大量研究表明，相似性至关重要。所以当他人提到和你的共同点时，请指出来。
Finally, celebrate the positive. When someone talks about the good things in their life, be enthusiastic and encouraging.
最后，庆贺积极的事情。当有人谈论到生活中的好事情时，要热情并表达鼓励。
3. Be vulnerable
展示脆弱一面
Open up a bit. Close friends are what leads to personal discussions. But personal discussions are also what leads to close friends.
敞开心扉。亲密朋友之间可以讨论个人问题，而个人问题的讨论也会带来亲密朋友。
4. Don't be a stranger
不要让朋友成为陌生人
First and foremost: make the time. You need to keep in touch.
首先也是最重要的：花时间和朋友相处。你们需要保持联系。
5. Start a group
组建社交团体
What's the best way to make sure you're in a group? Start one. A weekly lunch. A monthly sewing circle. A quarterly movie night. Whatever works. Friends bring friends and suddenly it's not so hard to meet cool new people.
什么是确保你已经在社交小团体里的最好方法？组建一个。每周一次的午餐，每月一次的缝纫会，或者每季度的电影之夜，什么都行。朋友会带来朋友，突然之间，认识很酷的新朋友就不难了。
Source: Barking up the wrong tree, "This is how to make friends as an adult: 5 secrets backed by research"
