It is so hard to be aware of our unconscious,but it is such important when we want to rebuild ourselves and say ‘Yes ’to life. The most important thing,the one thing when you try to rebuild a new self is to recognize what the unconscious beliefs are.
The author of the book 《Say yes to life 》---Ms Anando came to Beijing and gave her workshop on June 25th. I participated in the workshop with a jumping pulse and harvested a lot. Her book published quite a few years ago now,she wrote that as a guide to tell people how to live a life a little easier. It is titled ‘Yes’ because she realizes that all the problems she was having in her own life , the stresses or tensions ,which all come from fighting and not accepting the reality.She was wanting things to be different. Then slowly and slowly she learned how to accept situations and how to change the attitude towards the situations and how she could change herself to live a more easier life.
At the beginning of the course, Ms Anando gave us a few concepts : Subconsciousness,Inner child and Comfortable zone. She expounded that the first thing we should do is to say Yes to ourselves, it is very important to respect and love ourselves. She tells us how to rewire our brains and unconscious ideas we have been carrying most of our life. About not being good enough,about not being lovable ，which need the tools to practice by ourselves.
The second part we should say Yes to relationships crisis. Problems happen in relationships,conflicts happen. It is about understanding our emotional reaction,it's generally from our children space.When people fight,it's usually their inner child fighting, and it's about looking to see “Is that worthy fighting? Is that worthy sacrificing love relationship just to prove that we are right or we are better than the other person?” Then instead of fighting,we can use this situation of conflict to create even more intimate relationships .When the relationship is just going along smoothly and beautifully, it doesn't go very deep. Only when we can go through the difficulties , face and deal with the conflicts , our relationship can go deep, we can have a greater understanding about the person and about ourselves. That's intimacy really start.
We should also say Yes to the possible end of a relationship.
Say Yes to other people: stop trying to change others, trying to see other people in a different way.
Say Yes to emotions: To be the master of our emotions without repressing and without dumbing them on somebody else.
Say Yes to our personal habits and say Yes to whatever life brings us,including physical handicaps 、mental handicaps、 illness and death.
In a word: Say Yes to our life, to everything!
I met Family Constellation in Beijing Xishan college in 2013. I hardly know it before,but after that I began to be much more curiosity about human 's body and mind，and also have a strong interest in Psychology. The comfotlessness of our body is quite easy to detect, then our heart is also experiencing the baptism of years together with our body,so we must treat it as carefully as body. The second half of 2017 I will strive to practice those beliefs , try to let them be internalized into action to live a more easier life.
