I learned that
我学会了：
Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.
即使最善良的人也会冰冷无情。
Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.
即使你坠入爱情、无法自拔，也要用大脑思考，不要一味走心。
You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.
永远不要将自己的幸福放置在别人手中，因为你不知道这个人什么时候就会离开。
The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.
你越是表现的爱这个人，他们就越会看轻你和你的爱意。
It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.
人性本就容易将别人的付出当成理所当然，尤其是两个人相处久了的时候。当热情渐逐褪去，两个人总是寻求新的、更好的目标。
Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.
恋爱关系不应该仅仅依靠爱情来维系，更重要的元素是信任、理解、成熟和自尊。
The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.
当你丢掉自尊的那一刻，你就会觉得自己配不上爱人。你会将TA送上神坛，做TA的奴隶。绝不要失去自尊、丢弃自己的尊严。
Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.
学会两性的能量平衡，那会使你有能力掌控整个关系。
If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.
如果你经常性表现出自己的爱意和关心，TA们就会把这当做理所当然。
Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.
时不时也和爱人分开一段时间。这会让你有机会在更好的角度审视自己的爱情。
Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.
爱情中有两件东西绝不可少：信任和沟通。如果缺其一，你的爱情不会长久。
Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.
过分依赖不是个好主意，因为它会将你的另一半逼走，会减少对你的爱。
The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.
爱情中，爱的少的一方掌握主动权。寻求这其中的平衡很重要，不然，你们中的一位必然受伤。
If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.
如果你的幸福掌握在别人手中，你寻求的爱就是有条件的爱情。如果他们离开你，你将孑然一身、难过、压抑、无望甚至想自杀。这世上没有人能掌握你的幸福，如果有，那就只能是你自己。
The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.
你伤害自己伴侣的那一刻，你就永远的改变他们了，即使你极力尝试将他们原来的样子拼凑起来。
Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.
即使你将自己的心给了那个人，他也可能不会对你做相同的事。
The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.
如果对方显示出对你的冷淡迹象，相信这就是真相吧。不要试图说服自己他们只是暂时的“丧失了理智”或“只是进入倦怠期”，不要沉浸在相信一切都会好起来的假象中。
What’s meant for you will always be yours.
是你的绝不会走掉。
Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.
有时候上帝会将一个人突然从你身边带走，那只是因为：如果他还在的话，就会给你带来危险。
If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
如果你放弃了一头热、有毒的、消极的、低律动的感情，你就胜利了。
And the list goes on…
还有很多条可以写……
Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.
最重要的一点是，要在自己的感情中保有力量。天下没有不散的宴席，是你的就不会离开。即使最低沉的时刻也要坚强，绝对不要让伤感成为你的一切。
Edit: I didn’t expect so many people to respond so positively to my answer. I’m so glad that so many of you can relate to this post. It proves to everyone that we are never alone going through hard times.
编辑：没想到会有这么多人给予我这么多积极的回应。我好开心大家都能对此感同身受。这表明，即使身处黑暗，我们也从不曾孤单。
It makes my heart smile to know that through my heartbreaks and hardships, I had the chance to learn enough to bring you all such relief, reassurance and understanding about your relationships and love life. Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what! :)
我真的很高兴，我的那些伤心和难过的经历可以让我收获这么多。而这些可以成为你们感情生活中寻求宽慰、安慰和共鸣的材料。心怀信念，笑对人生吧！：）
Anna说：
同一个世界，同一份烦恼，
在涉及人性的时候，没有种族和国界之分。
珍惜身边人，
愿你被这个世界温柔以待。
