要是你害怕失败,问问自己这七个问题

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Everyone is afraid of failing. It hurts our ego, finances, relationships and our vision of who we are. Here’s the thing though, you never get to take a swim with the big fish if you don’t take that first leap. The key is to ask yourself key questions before you jump!

每个人都害怕失败。因为那会很伤自尊、不利于经济收入、不利于感情、还会有损我们对自己的认识,这些事很困难,要是你不能迈出第一步,你永远都无法像鱼一样自由的遨游于大海。在这之前问问自己这些重要的问题才是关键。

What Would You Attempt If You Knew You Could Not Fail?

要是你明知自己可能会失败,你还会愿意尝试吗?

Think big, wild and fun! Where would you go? Who would you connect with? What venture would you pursue? Every decision has the potential for failure, but dreaming about the amazing opportunities that you could make or take helps guide you towards your future decisions.

尽可能的发散自己的思维,你会去向哪里?你会联系谁?你更倾向于利用那种风险?你的每个决定都可能蕴含着风险,但是幻想一下那些可能会带你走向美好明天的好机会吧。

What If I Fail – How Will I Recover?

万一不成功--我要怎么做才能重振旗鼓?

Failure is inevitable if you take a multitude of risks. Think about learning to ride a skateboard. The first time you get on the board you are a bit wobbly. In fact, you will probably wipe out more times than you can keep count, but eventually you will get the hang of it and be riding around with ease. The thing about falling is that you have to know how. You roll with it instead of letting yourself crash flat onto the pavement and you start to get back on the board not letting fear get hold of you. When you are taking a risk you plan for a failure and how you will negotiate your way back into the game.

在众多的风险面前,失败是不可避免的。想想学滑板的过程吧,第一次踏上滑板时,你不能掌握重心。实际上,在你掌握重心之前你肯定会失败很多次,但是,最后你总会掌握窍门,最终运用自如。关于失败,你得明白要怎么去做。是你在控制着滑板,而不是让滑板带着你滑到人行道上去,你开始学着战胜自己的恐惧、找到滑滑板的诀窍。当你的计划有失败的风险时,你将如何自处,如何掌握全局。

What If I Succeed?

要是我成功了呢?

Success is often the real reason people don’t take risks. We are afraid of our own power, abilities, and strengths and how that will rock the boat in our current lives. What we are afraid of isn’t our success, but the unknown. Your success will bring about new and exciting challenges that you can’t possibly predict.

成功往往是在人们认为那个风险是自己无法承受的时候就来到了。我们不相信自己的力量、自己的能力、自己的优势,也害怕那些风险会完全的改变我们目前的生活。我们害怕的不是成功,而是对未来的未知性。成功会带来你无法预知的全新挑战

“We fear things in proportion to our ignorance of them.” Christian Nestell Bovee

“我们会害怕很大程度上是由于我们的无知。”---Christian Nestell Bovee

What’s Truly Worth Doing?

真的值得那样做吗?

Options! That is often what stops us from taking a risk – too many good things in life to do! You have to just choose something and move forward. You can make a list of the pros and cons of each idea, but eventually you have to choose and not regret the decision that you made. Taking a risk is better then being in the forever pattern of wondering what to do.

又是一道选择题。选择经常让我们放弃了冒险的机会---生活中很多美好的事都没法去尝试。你只能做出选择,然后在你所选择的这条路上前行。针对每个意见你可以将各自的优缺点列出来,但是到最后,你还是得做出你的选择,并且不要为自己做出的决定感到后悔。抓住机遇才是更好的选择,然后就在一直思考要怎么做的过程中让自己不断前行。

What Went Right In This Failure?

这次失败后要怎么补救?

Since failure in life is inevitable, if we do anything, it is important to reflect on what went right. Those are the things that you will keep when you take your next risk. Just like when you got on that skateboard and fell off, you quickly figured out what was working while you were riding down the path and you refine that over and over letting what didn’t work go. That refinement and reflection prepares you for your next leap!

生活中,不管做什么事,失败往往都无法避免,反思下次要怎么做才是正确的就显得尤为重要了。当你下次在遇到这种问题的时候,这些经过反思得出的东西就能让你避免做出一些不恰当的行动。就像你在学滑板摔倒时那样,只有当你摔倒了,你才能很快明白要怎么做才会做的更好,在一次又一次的摔倒之后你就会知道哪些事是不应该那样做的。为你下次的进步多准备一些这样的经验。

What If I Didn’t Care What People Thought?

要是我不在乎别人的想法呢?

Thinking about what your parents, friends and family think is often what keeps us back from taking a risk on something we are passionate about. If your risk doesn’t impact them financially or their security it doesn’t matter what they think. People often don’t move forward because they are afraid someone is going to make fun of them or think they are crazy or stupid. Don’t stop yourself from living your dreams because of someone else’s opinion. At the end of your life you don’t want to regret doing what you really wanted to do.

想想那些一直支持我们做自己喜欢的事情的父母、朋友、家人。要是你的决定不会影响到你的经济,也无关乎安全问题,那就不要在意别人的想法。人们停滞不前的原因就是害怕被别人嘲笑,害怕被别人当做傻子、蠢蛋。不要因为别人的看法而停下追寻梦想的脚步。在生命的最后,你才不会因为没有做到自己想做的事情而觉得后悔。

What If I Don’t Have All The Answers?

对于这些问题,要是我都没有答案呢?

You never will. It is that simple. You can prepare, plan and scope out your future with as much caution as you like, but you are not ultimately in control of everything. Life happens and it is so much better when you throw a little caution to the wind and ride with it!

你绝不会那样的!这些问题都很简单。尽管你不可能完全控制你未来生活的发生发展,但你可以准备好、计划好、只要你想,你也还可以仔仔细细的构思属于你的未来。只要你小心翼翼地御风飞翔,生活总是能朝着好的方向发展的。

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