今天跟大家分享一句话，子曰：“可与言，而不与之言，失人；不可与言，而与之言，失言。知者不失人，亦不失言。”
意思是：可以跟他说，却不跟他说，就会失去人才；不可以跟他说，却跟他说了，就是说错了话。聪明人既不会失去人才，也不会说错话。
它告诉我们待人处事，说话第一。要知道怎么讲话，更要知道说什么话。什么话该讲，什么话不该讲，应该明了于心。进一步讲就是说交流沟通要看人，该说不说，可能会错过朋友，与机会失之交臂；说了不该说的，可能引起误会，酿成大错。
换个角度说，想要了解对方是不是聪明人，从他的语气、语调、说话方式，面对不同人有不同的沟通交流技巧看出来。
有智慧的人在正确的时间对着正确的对象说正确的话，而犯糊涂的人在错误的时间对着错误的对象说正确的话。所以沟通一定要看场合和看对象，好话也得对着好人说才行。
能张嘴把事情说清楚，这是智慧；能闭住嘴不说，这是更高级的智慧。
英文版：
To share with you today a sentence, Confucius said :" can with the words, not with the words, lost; not with the words, but with the words, lost. He who knows does not lose, nor does he lose his word.
If you can talk to him, but if you don't talk to him, you' ll lose your talent . can't talk to him, but you can talk to him. wise men will neither lose their talents nor speak wrong.
It tells us to treat people, talk first. To know how to speak, but also to know what to say. What should be said, what should not be said, should be clear in the heart. To speak further is to say that communication depends on people, should not say, may miss friends, and opportunities to miss; said should not say, may cause misunderstanding, resulting in a big mistake.
In other words, to understand whether the other person is a smart person, from his tone, tone, way of speaking, facing different people have different communication skills.
The wise say the right words to the right object at the right time, while the muddled say the right words to the wrong object at the wrong time. So communication must look at the occasion and see the object, good words also have to say to good people.
It is wisdom to be able to open your mouth to make things clear; it is higher wisdom to be able to shut your mouth and not to speak.
