先摘抄一段“Mindful Parenting”的定义:
Definition of Mindful Parenting:
“Mindful parenting is an ongoing creative process, not an end point. It involves intentionally bringing non-judgmental awareness, as best we can, to each moment. This includes being aware of the inner landscape of our own thoughts emotions and body sensations, and the outer landscape of our children our family, our home, and the broader culture we inhabit. It is an on-goingpractice that can grow to include
(1) greater awareness of a child's unique nature, feelings and needs;
(2) a greater ability to be present and listen with full attention;
(3) recognizing and accepting things as they are in each moment, whether pleasant or unpleasant;
(4) recognizing one's own reactive impulses and learning to respond more appropriately and, imaginatively with greater clarity and kindness.
From “Mindful Parenting” (Susan Bögels, Kathleen Restifo 2014)
"正念育儿”是一段不断创造的历程,并非一个终点。它涉及到尽我们所能,有意识地将没有评判的觉知带进每一个时刻。包括觉知我们自己的内在世界:想法,情感和身体感知,以及我们的孩子,家庭,以及我们身处的更广大的世界。它是持续的修炼
1) 对孩子独特的天性,感觉和需求更灵敏地觉察
2) 提升活在当下和全神聆听的能力
3) 在每一个时刻认出和接纳事物的本相,无论其带来愉悦或不愉悦的感受
4) 更清晰和慈悲地看到自己无意识的反应模式,学习更恰如其分和充满想象地对当下作出反应
昨天晚上和女儿讲故事时,能够觉察到自己想三下五除二搞定,看自己的书,睡自己的觉的匆忙。身体的能量不够,支撑不了“活在当下”的理念。
今天要早点回家,何必拖着疲惫的身躯?提醒自己记得做5个正念练习:
1)”Child as Raisin”, 趁孩子不注意的时候,在一旁全神观察他/她,以第一次见到他/她的眼光好好看看他/她,或把自己当成刚从火星降落,以前从没见过眼前这毛孩。
2)选一项日常活动,将全部的感观觉知带进整个过程
3)留意进食中“第一口”的体验:看见/闻到/嘴里感觉到/尝到什么?咀嚼和吞咽的感觉是怎样的?
4)任意一项滋养自己的冥想时刻
5)身体扫描(睡前,把audio准备好,估计需要40分钟)