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译者按：孩子就像家长的一面镜子，孩子的各种调皮捣蛋的问题，也许答案就在家长身上。在CureJoy网站上看到一篇非常有意思的文章，译者为之配上了中文，请您欣赏。
If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
如果你的孩子故意打扰你，那是因为你们之间通过身体接触表达爱意太少了。
If your child is lying, it means you overreacted to the mistakes in past.
如果你的孩子对你撒谎，这意味着你在过去对ta的错误反应过度了。
If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.
如果你的孩子自尊心不强，那是因为你给予ta建议多于鼓励。
If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public. Parents shouldn’t do so even in front of siblings,friends or cousins.
如果你的孩子不捍卫自己，那是因为你从ta很小的时候就开始当众训导ta。即便是在兄弟姐妹、朋友、表亲面前，父母也不应该这样做。
If you buy everything for your children still they take things that do not belong to them, it is because you don’t let them choose.
如果即便你为孩子买了所有的东西，ta还是去拿别人家的东西，那是因为你没有给ta自己选择的机会。
If your child is a coward, it is because you help them too quickly. Don’t remove every obstacle from their path.
如果你的孩子显得懦弱，那是因为你习惯急于向ta提供帮助。不要把道路上所有的障碍都替ta清除掉。
If your child is jealous, the reason might be you compared them with others consistently.
如果你的孩子有妒忌心，原因也许是你总是拿ta和别人比较。
If your child gets angry quickly, the reason might beyou have not praised them enough. They only get attention misbehaving.
如果你的孩子很容易生气，原因也许是你对ta表扬得不够。ta只能通过调皮捣蛋来引起你的注意。
If your child doesn’t respect others feelings, the reason might be you always order them – not giving importance to their feelings.
如果你的孩子不尊重他人的感受，原因也许是你总是命令ta，而没有关心ta的感受。
If your child is secretive, the reason is you blow things very big.
如果你的孩子神神秘秘的，原因也许是你总把事情鼓弄得特别大。
If the child behaves rudely, it is learnt from parents or others living with them.
如果孩子行为莽撞，那是从父母或和ta一起生活的人身上学到的。
Authoritarian: Highly demanding parents with high level of responsiveness, support and warmth
独裁型：父母对孩子要求很高，同时给予很多的同情心、支持和温暖
Authoritative: Highly demanding parents with low level of responsiveness, support and warmth
权威型：父母对孩子要求很高，同时给予很少的同情心、支持和温暖
Permissive: Low level demanding parents with high responsiveness, support and warmth
纵容型：父母对孩子要求较低，同时给予较多的同情心、支持和温暖
Uninvolved：Low level demanding parents with low responsiveness, support and warmth
放任型：父母对孩子要求较低，同时给予很少的同情心、支持和温暖
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原文作者：CureJoy Editorial
原文出处：CureJoy网站
中文译文：自由卓越的DC
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