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在我看来，家暴不仅仅只有老公打妻子，父母打孩子也是一种家暴，此外还有一种语言霸凌也很可怕，至于冷暴力也有很多种，不能一概而论。且不谈语言暴力和冷暴力，起码的，首先要做到不进行手脚暴力，又或者拿工具对人身进行暴力殴打。
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𝙃𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙙𝙖𝙮 𖠚ᐝ
๑⃙⃘´༥`๑⃙⃘
🥳幸福就是，有书可读，
好友想念，不问明天！
有时候，你在乎一件东西，会达到很疯狂的地步。不论他写这个是真是假（我刚刚在路边看到一条“重金寻狗”的启示，狗主人承诺有提供狗信息的，奖励5000元，有帮助寻到狗的，奖励一万元以上），爱狗人士肯定是无疑了。
吃狗肉的朋友第一时间就会进行批判他，我先带入吃狗肉的朋友来对他批判一下。他们一定会说：“爱狗人士真是疯了，他爹走丢了，他都不见得重赏一万元找爹，一只癞皮狗丢了，却是比老娘死了还伤心的样子”。
我们再换个思路，若是换到爱狗人士的思路去就成了：“你们这些吃狗肉的人，难道家里就没有小孩子吗？小狗其实就跟小孩子一样可爱的，你们真下得去嘴，就应该像爱自家小孩子一样爱狗啊，下等人就是野蛮，什么都吃！”。
是不是很好玩的样子，这就是最简单的换位思考法，也许是那些年，我爸妈不准我说话的功劳，我在当哑巴的三十年中，不断在心里面自己和自己对话，有时，我在一个人安静的时候，甚至会不自觉地“自我交流”。我老娘活着的时候，还常常骂我这个自言自语的习惯，说我神神叨叨，脑袋“读书”读坏掉了，**儿子，**爸！
但是，我要说的是，她儿子要不是通过神神叨叨，把情绪能量都释放出去了，她儿子早就先一步去到阴间等她了。人生也许很无奈的就是，你有一堆控制欲望特别强的父母，哪怕他们去世了，你仍然时时想起，任然热泪盈眶，不是怀念他们多关心和爱护你，而是做噩梦，梦到他们老是拿榔头和皮带打你和言语辱骂你，详情请参考拙文短篇小说《诈尸》。
所以，我还是希望，全天下父母放弃所谓的“棍棒出孝子”的封建老套思想，那真是太难过的经历了！林巨老师说得对，孩子怎么爱都嫌不够，你竟然还想着溺爱坏了？从来都没有被爱过的孩子，要用一辈子来疗愈童年创伤啊！
一位硕士生护工分享工作经历，我知道你们想说啥，都硕士竟然去干护工，简直是脑袋秀逗了！这是我看到的一个美女妈妈分享的“从老看到小”的短视频故事，她分享自己护理的几位老人的故事，老人哪怕九十多岁了，回忆起来，老人的父母都不曾爱过自己，仍然会失声痛哭，仍然会遗憾，仍然会失魂落魄。
愿中国的小孩，再也不受体罚和侮辱似的教育，愿我们的父母，都能够觉醒起来，先爱自己，才有能力爱别人。你从来就不必，或者说，根本就不用，每时每刻围绕小孩转！你一直都只属于自己。还是一段激自己的英文短篇送给大家，如下：
请记住，你是唯一
You Are Special——Don't Ever Forget It
Get a Through Understanding of Oneself
彻悟自己
In all one's lifetime it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with.But it is precisely oneself that one has the least un-derstanding of.
When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself.It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach;luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they consti-tute part of your worth.When you are going downhill you tend to underes-timate yourself,mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence.It's likely that you think it wise for yourself to know our place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice,behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded.
人生在世，和自己相处最多，打交道最多，但是往往悟不透自己。人在顺境，往往高估自己，似乎一切所求唾手可得，甚至把运气和机遇，也看成自己身价的一部分。而喜不自胜。人在逆境时，又往往低估自己，把困难和不利，也看作自己无能，以至把安分守己、与世无争，误认为为自知之明，而实际上，往往被怯懦的面具，窒息了自己鲜活的生命。
To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist—aware of both one's strength and short-age.You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to ex-pect too much,for ideals can never be fully realized.You may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct your efforts.That's to way so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won't be difficulties you can't overcome,or obstacles you can't surmount.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self-appreciation.Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass,whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone,you represent a state of nature that has its own value.If you earnestly admire yourself you'll have a real sense of self-appreciation,which will give you confidence.As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you'll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it's needed.In time of anger,do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won't be hurt by its flames;in time of sadness,do yourself a favor by sharing it with your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one;in time of tiredness,do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic.
Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life.As you are aware,what a person physically has is but a human body that's vulnerable when exposed to the elements.So if you fall ill,it's up to you to take a good care of yourself.Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor,you won't be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness.To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one's life.Then one will find one's life full of color and flavor.
悟透自己，就要正确认识自己，就是说，要做一个冷静的现实主义者——既知我之优势，也知我之不足。我们可以憧憬人生，但期望值不能过高。因为现实中，理想总是会打折扣。可以迎接挑战，但必须清楚自己努力的方向。也就是说，人一旦有了自知之明，“天下无难事，只要肯攀登”。
要悟透自己就要欣赏自己。无论你是一棵参天大树，还是一棵小草，无论你成为一座巍峨的高山，还是一块小小的石头，都是一种天然，都有自己存在的价值。只要你认真地欣赏自己，你就会拥有一个真正的自我。只有自我欣赏才会有信心，一旦拥有了信心也就拥有了抵御一切逆境的动力。
要悟透自己，就要心疼自己。在气愤时心疼一下自己，找个僻静处散散心，宣泄宣泄，不要让那些无名之火伤身；忧伤时，要心疼一下自己，找三五个好友，诉说诉说，让感情的阴天变晴；劳累时，你也要心疼一下自己，为自己来一番问寒问暖，要明白人所拥有的不过是一个血肉之躯，经不住太多的风刀霜剑；有病时，你更要心疼一下自己，唯有对自己的心疼，才能获得战胜疾病的信心和力量。悟透了自己，才能把握住自己，你的生活才会有滋有味！
