伴随白话之普及与老旧礼教之淡化，【粗话】以其固有面貌，重回百姓生活之中。
于老一辈而言，粗话乃避讳之物，具精神洁癖者则更加。粗鄙之语于其而言，莫过于半道遇一狗粪，只得捏鼻绕道而行。
而于当今大多青年人而言，粗话却颇为流行。下至日常谈笑，上至事项讨论，此令老一辈厌恶之言语，竟渐生趣味。
而大多人不曾注意：粗话，于许多场合而言，作用非同小可！
作用之一：合群
对于广大群众（尤其男性青年群体），粗话使用之频繁，莫过于大海中的盐。粗话偶尔挂在嘴边，有某种降低架势之感，使人感觉更为亲切。
而倘若句句粗话，便会招致反感，可见，凡事皆应有个度。
反观那些从不说粗话之人士，无一不给人一种严肃与不易接近之感，久而久之，便可能招致大群体的排斥。
而就其本源，为何粗话会有合群之功效？
曾听闻故事一则：
一人类族群于泥巴地附近生存，性情野蛮，不洗澡，因而身上满是洗不掉的泥巴与污秽。为形象表述，暂且称该族人为“脏人”。
一日，一干净现代人被困于该地，被迫与脏人们一道生活。
为得到脏人们的接纳，现代人将泥巴抹在身上，其外表与脏人无异。
数月，待救援队伍赶来营救，现代人立刻洗掉泥巴，干净如初。
故事到此为止，在我看来，脏人，便是大群体中爱以粗话交流之人。而泥巴，则是粗话。现代人为合乎脏人之群，以粗话包装自我，遂合乎群体文化，成为一“假脏人”。
因此，当今社会大多使用粗话者，皆为假脏人，而非脏人。
然而，细细一想，便忽觉后怕：倘若假脏人于泥巴地生活过久，以至于泥巴与污秽再洗不掉，岂不成为了真正的脏人？
同理，一不说粗话者，说粗话以合群。时日一长，岂不难回初始模样？
而以脏话交流，乃一种非积极文化传播。而文化的感染会使人之行为道德、价值观，改变于潜移默化之中。
由此观之，以粗话合群，并非不可，但绝非上策。
而若不用脏话，何以其他类似途径合群？
事实上，粗话并非合群之最佳途径。
合群之最佳途径，乃了解这一群体之共同话题，随后了解该话题，以达到合群之目的。
另一途径，与粗话类似，但相对文雅，称“网络用语”。
时不时将网络用语挂于嘴边，可达活化气氛与增进感情距离之效用。
另外，若自己不说粗话，以绝对文明之方式与“假脏人”交往，假脏人也会欣然顺应该文明方式。
而倘若遇真脏人，无需废话，远离即可。
未完待续……
With the popularizing of vernacular chinese and the weakening of feudal ethical code,dirty words come back to our daily life in its old face.
To the old generation,dirty words are a kind of things which must be avoided. Hearing dirty words is no different to see a dog poo on the ground.They can only nip theirs noses and walk in another way.
However,to the young teenagers nowadays,dirty words are quite popular.From the daily conversation to the discussion of matters, the words detest the older generation, but gradually interesting for the young.
But most of people didn't noticed:Dirty words,in many cases,play an important role.
Role 1:gregarious
For the general public (especially male youth groups)，dirty words are used no less fluently than the salt in the ocean.The occasional used of diry words will make people feel more intimate.
But if a person always talk with dirty words,he(she) will be desgusted by others.Obviously,everything should have a degree.
Besides,the people who never use dirty words are no doubt that always make others feel too serious or hard to get close to.Over time,it may lead to the rejecting from the group.
And given its origin, why does dirty words have the function of gregarious?
I once heard a story:
A race of humans living near mudlands are barbaric and do not bathe, so they are covered with unwashed mud and filth. For the image expression, temporarily call this clansman "dirty person".
One day, a clean modern people trapped in the area, forced to live with the dirty people.
To get dirty people to accept, modern people put mud on the body, which make him like a dirty person.
A few months, when a rescue team come to rescue, modern people wash away mud immediately, just clean as before.
That's the end of the story. For me, dirty people are the people in the big group who talk dirty. Mud, on the other hand, is stand for dirty words. In order to be in line of the group of dirty people,Modern people use dirty words to covered himself(herself),then in line with the group culture, become a "fake dirty people."
Therefore, in today's society, most people who use dirty words are fake dirty people, but not dirty people.
However, after thinking carefully, I suddenly felt afraid: if the fake dirty people live in the mud for a long time, so that the mud and dirt can not wash away.He will become a real dirty people,won't he?
Similarly, one who didn't say dirty words at first uses bad words to fit in. After a long time, won't he difficult to return to the initial appearance?
Besides,communication with dirty words is a kind of non-positive cultural transmission. And cultural infection will make people's behavior moral and values change in a imperceptible way.
From this point of view, fitting in by using dirty words, not shouldn't, but absolutely not the best method.
If so, how to fit in in other similar ways ?
In fact,talking bad words is not the best way to fit in.
The best way to fit in is to learn about the common topic of the group and then learn about the topic in order to fit in.
Another approach, similar to bad words but more elegant, is called "Internet slang".
Use internet slang from time to time,, can be activated atmosphere and enhance the effectiveness of emotional distance.
In addition, if he does not use coarse language and associates with the "fake dirty man" in an absolutely polite way, the fake dirty man will readily adapt to the polite way.
And if you meet a true dirty person, don't need to talk anything, just move away.
To be continued……
