In an ideal husband, Oscar Wilde reveals the different expectations that men and women have for each other in relationships. At the same time, every character is challenging existing ideas, asking, questioning, and changing, because only then can we return to the undesired reality of life and move on. When the ideal husband's bad behavior was about to be revealed, his wife could not accept him because her husband had been perfect in her eyes. At that time, the wife said the following words .
To the world, as to myself, you have been an ideal always. Oh! Be that ideal still. That great inheritance throw not away--that tower of ivory do not destroy. Robert, men can love what is beneath them--things unworthy, stained, dishonoured. We women worship when we love; and when we lose our worship, we lose everything. Oh! Don't kill my love for you, don't kill that!
When I watched here, it seemed to me that I could feel the despair and panic of the wife. Maybe she shouldn't have imagined that her husband was perfect. And she could not accept that. From my own perspective, Gertrude is so young that she does not understand these things. In her view, everything in the world is what she fancies. As we all know, No one is perfect, and how can she ask for an ideal husband. At the same time, this is a good expectation, because of hope, our life will have vitality and life.
For one thing, Gertrude made herself crazy and even did not give Robert a chance to explain anything to her. But when she calmed down, she found that she really loved her husband. As far as I am concerned, Gertrude is too emotional, so it is easy to do things that she regrets. She is supposed to be independent , thinking of that her husband is not anything she has.
For another, Gertrude believed her husband so much that she thought her husband told him everything, so that when she came to know her husband's bad behavior, she could easily feel the whole sky falling down. That's why we have to talk about it.
How I worshipped you! You were to me something apart from common life, a thing pure, noble, honest, without stain. The world seemed to me finer because you were in it, and goodness more real because you lived. And now--oh, when I think that I made of a man like you my ideal! The ideal of my life!
Everyone is an individual, and of course there are secrets. If people don't want to tell you, there must be a reason for that, and we can be honest with each other, but we can't ask anyone to tell us everything. I think the family, the friends, this one is applicable. After all, everyone is a loney island. Of course, the husband is not all of us. In addition to family, we have friends and life, we can devote more energy to the people we love, but we must not invest too much. That's what I learned in my women stidies last year.
What' more, we should learn to love ourselves. Just like another actress said,"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." No one is rich enough to buy back his own past. Due to this, we must chrish what we have now rathe than the past or the future. Whether you live your life right or not now, you like it, and if you can't change anything, you just need to enjoy it. Believe that the good things will come, whatever it is, is an experience of life. You will go through sooner or later.
Last but not least, you must make you happy, which is the most important. Because only you yourself care about that.Even if there are many imperfect things in our lives, we still have to work hard and move on.
