It’s a romantic fairy story. I can hardly believe that it would ever happen in reality. However, it doesn’t stop me exploring a bit more into the topic – husband and wife tie. My comments might stir up arguments or fight
In most cases, love starts with smile and ends with tear. That explains why we went through so many relations before we met Mr. Right. Mr. Right, well, maybe close to or halfway through Mr. Right. I would put more blame on men than women.
I strongly believe that the male species is more likely to break the love-one-girl-in-a-lifetime promise than the female species. As a result, the girl ends up with the half Mr. Right or she would find herself in a situation where her happiness is at stake. It is sort of grounded at biological level. When it comes to choosing a life partner, piles of books will tell you that men get turned on by appearance while women get hijacked by characters like being responsible, being thoughtful, being loyal… That echoes what the article is saying: “She was deeply touched!”
After walking through the whole story, I have a mixed feeling towards the girl. I am happy for her, of course. She made a right call and married a guy who put having-her-with-him in front of everything else. I am sure she had been taken care of full-heartedly by her husband. As we all march towards the expiry date on our life, this is what counts in the marriage, at the end of the day, for most of the girls.
At the same time, I am a bit sad for her. For the whole life, she has been with a guy who was not exactly what she thought he was. Be it small or big, be it white or black, lie is lie. There shouldn’t be any room for any kind of lie for the sake of both parties in marriage. The weight you carry with the lie along the marriage could become so heavy that it is no longer unbearable.
What makes it even worse is that she had been kept in the dark and doing things every day to contribute to his distaste for morning coffee. If the husband were honest about his preference towards coffee, all of that could have been avoided. A man like him deserved a better life, no?
I have two further questions to ask before I go.
Why didn’t he have the balls to tell the truth and ask for a change when he was still alive? He was not confident on the tie they built up between them. He might put the marriage at risk. Love is because of who the person is instead of what the person did, no?
If he believed a marriage is better with the white lie, why couldn’t he let it go? He could choose to keep it to himself for good. My explanation would be that he wished she knew everything about him. The urge of being present as a whole in front of her got suppressed inside him and he somehow found it disturbing.
That’s all for today. You may consider me as a person from the other planet. Maybe I am
