不要成为伪装大师
我们自己年轻的时候总是把大大咧咧、满不在乎的态度作为保护自己的粘土壳。
你心中的黏土壳，就是你用来展示给别人看的那层面具。藏在面具之下的那些特质，就是你内心的阴影。阴影的内容往往与我们所展示的面具截然相反。许多时候，我们的面具实在太过完美，不仅骗过了别人，也骗过了我们自己。要想透过面具检视自己的内心世界，我们必须首先意识到这一点。当我们感到不满意、不高兴、不痛快的时候，这是我们的面具与内心阴影在相互冲突。
要想改变生活，必须首先改变观念。你必须承认面具本身的积极意义——保护你的心灵免遭伤害。面具也是你的一个方面，也是你内心世界的一部分。
当你找回真实而完整的自我时，自然也就不再需要面具的保护了。你用不着再伪装成另一个人，用不着再掩饰任何东西，大多数人之所以很难做到这一点，是因为他们不愿承认‘自我’的客观性，不愿交出对自己生活和情感的控制权。索甲仁波切在《西藏生死书》中曾说：
“我们记不起自己真正的身份——本性。因为狂乱和害怕，我们到处寻找，胡乱抓一个认同者，却抓到一个正掉入深渊的人，这种虚假无知的认同就是我们平时说的所谓的‘自我’。”
我们这里所说的“本性”就是真实的自我，当你开始发觉内心的阴影时，或许心中会出现一个声音，声嘶力竭地叫你停下来。不要理会那个声音，他只不过是你虚假的自我而已。只有推翻了对自我的虚假认识，你才能恢复自己的本性，找回真实的、完整的自我。
Don't be a master of disguise
When we were young, we always took the careless and careless attitude as the clay shell to protect ourselves.
The clay shell in your heart is the mask you use to show others. Those qualities hidden under the mask are the shadow of your heart. The content of the shadow is often diametrically opposed to the mask we show. Many times, our masks are too perfect, not only to deceive others, but also to deceive ourselves. If we want to examine our inner world through the mask, we must first realize this. When we feel dissatisfied, unhappy and unhappy, it is our mask and inner shadow that conflict with each other.
If you want to change your life, you must first change your ideas. You must recognize the positive meaning of the mask itself - to protect your heart from harm. The mask is also an aspect of you and a part of your inner world.
When you find your true and complete self, you will no longer need the protection of mask. You don't have to pretend to be another person or hide anything. The reason why most people find it difficult to do this is because they don't want to admit the objectivity of 'self' and give up control over their own life and emotions. Sukar Rinpoche once said in the "Book of Life and Death in Tibet":
"We can't remember our true identity - our nature. Because of frenzy and fear, we look everywhere, grab an identity, but catch a person who is falling into the abyss. This false and ignorant identity is what we usually call 'self'."
The "nature" we say here is the true self. When you begin to find the shadow of your heart, there may be a voice in your heart that will yell at you to stop. Don't pay attention to that voice. It's just your false self. Only by overturning your false understanding of yourself can you restore your nature and find your true and complete self.
