1. 三观一致:
哥林多后书 6:14(2 Corinthians 6:14,NIV):
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
选择一个在三观上与自己一致的伴侣,可以帮助建立一个共同的精神基础。
2. 品格和美德:
加拉太书 5:22-23(Galatians 5:22-23,NIV):
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."
观察对方是否展现出真善美的果实,这些品格和美德是一个好伴侣的重要标志。
3. 共同的价值观和生活目标:
阿摩司书 3:3(Amos 3:3,NIV):
"Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?"
确保你们在重要的生活目标和价值观上是一致的。
4. 家庭背景和关系:
出埃及记 20:12(Exodus 20:12,NIV):
"Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you."
观察对方如何对待自己的家庭成员,这可以反映出他们的家庭观念和关系处理方式。
5. 沟通能力:
雅各书 1:19(James 1:19,NIV):
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
评估对方的沟通能力和冲突解决方式,这是婚姻中至关重要的。
6. 经济观念和责任感:
箴言 21:5(Proverbs 21:5,NIV):
"The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty."
了解对方的财务管理和责任感,这对婚姻的稳定性很重要。
7. 寻求祂的引导:
雅各书 1:5(James 1:5,NIV):
"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
在做出婚姻决定之前,寻求祂的智慧和引导。
8. 朋友和家人的意见:
箴言 11:14(Proverbs 11:14,NIV):
"For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers."
听取朋友和家人的意见,他们的观察和建议可以提供有价值的视角。
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