2024-02-12
一，不对等故事。
1.student-teacher师生故事 ：love is a relationship between a student and a teacher.
2.牺牲故事。只求给予，不求同等的回报。只有他是给予者的时候(而非获益者)，他才会感到快乐。
3.government政府故事:(a) autocratic .one partner dominates or controls the other;(b) democratic ,two partners share power equally.
4.police警察故事:you are got to keep close tabs on your partner to make sure he or she toes the line,or you need to be under surveillance to make sure you behave.
5.pornography(色情故事):love is dirty,and to love is to degrade (贬低)or be degraded（被贬低）.
6.horror恐惧故事:relationships become interesting when you terrorize or are terrorized by your partner.
二客体故事。
2.1把人视为客体。
7.science fiction科幻小说故事:feeling that partner is like an alien-incomprehensible 外星人无法理解and very strange.
8.collection收藏故事:partner viewed as "fitting in" some overall scheme方案;partner viewed in a detached way.独立的。
9.art艺术故事:love of partner for physical attractiveness;importance to person of partner‘s always looking good.
2.2把关系视为客体。
10.house and home家庭故事:relationships have their core in the home人际关系以家庭为核心,through its development and maintenance.
11.recovery（恢复）故事:survivor mentality（幸存者心态）;view that after past trauma,a person can get through practically anything.
12.religion（宗教）故事:views love either as a religion or as a set of feelings and activities dictated by religion.
13.game游戏故事:love as a game or spot.
三协作故事。
14.travel 旅行故事:love is a journey.
15.sewing（缝纫故事）:love is whatever you make it .
16.gardening园艺故事:relationships need to be continually nurtured and tended to.
17.business商业故事:relationships as business propositions（业务） ;money is power ;partners in close relationships as business partners.
18.addiction成瘾故事:strong,anxious attachment; clinging behavior粘著行为 ;anxiety at thought of losing partner.
四叙述故事。
19.fantasy（幻想故事）: often expects to be saved by a knight in shining armor or to marry a princess and live happily ever after.常常期望被身披闪亮盔甲的骑士拯救，或者嫁给王子
20 history历史故事:events of relationship form an indelible record ;keep a lot of records,either mental or material.
21science科学故事:love can be understood ,analyzed,and dissected,just like any other natural phenomenon.
22.cookbook食谱故事:doing things a certain way (recipe)results in relationship being more likely to work out;departure from recipe for success leads to increased likelihood of failure.
五类型故事。
23.war战争故事: love is a series of battles in a devastating but continuing war.
24.theater剧院故事:love is scripted,with predictable acts, scenes,and lines.
25.humor幽默故事:love is a strange and funny.
26.mystery（神秘的事物）:love is a mystery , and you should not let too much of yourself be known.
