1.Don't multitask.不要三心二意。
Be present；Be in that moment.
Don't be half in it and half out of it.
2.Don't pontificate pundits.不要好为人师。
You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn.
M. Scott Peck：True listening requires a setting aside of oneself.真正的倾听需要把自己放在一边。
Bill Nye：Everyone you will ever meet knows sth that you don’t.
Everybody is an expert in sth.
3.Use open-ended questions.使用开放式提问。
Start your questions with ‘who,what,when,where,why or how’.
What was that like?
How did that feel?
Let people describe,they’re the ones that know.
And you’re going to get a much more interesting response.
4.Go with the flow.顺其自然。
Thoughts will come into your mind,
and you need to let them go out of your mind.
Stories and ideas are going to come to you.
You need to let them come and let them go.
5.If you don’t know, say that you don’t know.如果你不知道，就说你不知道。
Err on the side of caution.
Talk should not be cheap.
6.Don’t equate your experience with theirs.不要把自己的经历和他人比较。
It's not the same. It is never the same.
All experiences are individual.
And, more importantly, it is not about you.
You don’t need to take that moment to prove how amazing you are or how much you’ve suffered.
Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
Stephen HawkingI have no idea. People who brag about their IQs are losers.
7.Try not to repeat yourself.尽量别重复自己的话。
It’s condescending,and really boring.
8.Stay out of the weeds.少说废话.
Forget the details,Leave them out.
9.Listen.认真聆听。
This is not the last one,but it is the most important one.
If your mouth is open, you're not learning.
Calvin Coolidge：No man ever listened his way out of a job.
You have to listen to one another.
Listening is perhaps the most ,the number one most important skill that you could develop.
Stephen Covey：Most of us don’t listen with the intent to understand,we listen with the intent to reply.
10.Be brief.简明扼要。
A good conversation is like a miniskirt;short enough to retain interest ,but long enough to cover the subject .好的交谈就像是恰到好处的迷你裙，足够短，能吸引人。
All of this boils down to the same basic concept , and it is this one:
Be interested in other people.对他人产生兴趣。
Everyone has some hidden,amazing thing about them.
Go out ,talk to people,listento people and,most importantly,be repared to be amazed.
