powerful psychological prescription:

1.four times at least a week of thirty minutes of physical exercise,at least.

2.mindfulness meditation-if it's good for you. If not ,at the very least a few good breath strategically place thoughout the day

3.Eight hours of sleep at night

4.five,ideally twelve hugs a day

bring us back to our base level of well-being

love   (no person is an island)

our nature need

the root of the root     the bud of the bud

《in her shoes》

the lagsania principle(find your quota)

1. working hard   1no focus on finding 

2. remain active:relationship rituals

3.expressing ourselves rather than trying to constantly impress

david schnarch:"intimacy(亲密) is about letting yourself relly be know"

introversion and extroversion

a physiological base level of where we are compared to the optimum.

the optimal level of arousal(OLA) 

a restorative niche. a place to restore and that would be a place where we will spend time one-on-on with someone or some hours of solitude f recovery

the problem:we don't have recovery.need some time on their own,some time one-on-one.There is no right or wrong.