Once you are no longer afraid of losing 人一旦不害怕失去
your mindset undergoes a dramatic shift 心态就会发生翻天覆地地改变
When you stop clinging to the need to possess 当你不再执着于必须拥有
you no longer bend over backward 你就不会再为了留住什么
just to hold on to something 而委屈自己
When you understand 当你明白
that loss is also a part of life 失去也是一种常态
you turn your focus back to yourself 你就会把注意力重新放回到自己身上
You realize 你会发现
that relationships without pleasing 原来不用讨好的感情
are the most comfortable 才最舒服
You no longer lose sleep 你不再会因为对方一句冷话
over someone's cold remark 而辗转反侧
You learn to accept all arrivals and departures with calmness 你开始学会坦然接受所有的到来和离开
knowing that what is yours 开始懂得有些东西是你的
will remain 就是你的
and what isn't 不是你的
can never be forced 再怎么强求也没用
This mindset——free from the fear of loss 这种害怕失去的心态
is not compromise 不是妥协
or surrender 也不是放弃
but a clear——eyed wisdom 而是一种清醒的通透
It is realizing 是你终于明白
that you are the lead in your own life 自己才是人生的主角
and the people and events that come and go 那些来来去去的人和事
are merely scenery along the way 都只是沿途的风景
