令人感动的一集
主题:父亲、责任
“What's the key to being a great dad ?”
"Giving them the freedom to be whatever they want to be."自由成长
“Patience”.耐心
“Be their buddy”做好朋友
Still think....
01.
剧情诊脉:
卢克一直骑着姐姐以前的自行车,看起来很“Sally”,不仅破旧而且是女式车。
菲尔决定给卢克买一辆新的,克莱尔觉得他照顾不好一辆自行车,比如他会把苏打水倒在电脑上,把相机弄坏,不同意买。
最终,菲尔还是买了一辆给儿子。
处理过程:
"Sometimes a man gotta put his foot down and do what a man's gotta do. ""菲尔吹牛"
菲尔买了车,先和儿子约法三章:
"your mom and I are a team."维护母子关系和印象
“We feel like this is a chance for u to show some responsibility. ”"Don't make us look like jerks here."无比的信任感
“Have, like, three butt -loads of fun.”玩得超级开心
插播:菲尔在路边无意间发现一辆一模一样的车,以为又是卢克不负责任将它抛在一边。为了给他一个教训,把车子骑走了。路遇美女邻居,他帮她拿钥匙,结果车子又消失了,菲尔跑去买了一辆新的。但不敢告诉克莱尔。
菲尔去质问卢克,卢克内疚给菲尔道歉,车子果然出问题了。
big mistake刮花了,哈哈。
菲尔把车子还回去。
慢思考:
怎样满足孩子的心愿并教会他负责人?
02.
剧情诊脉:
卡姆和米奇要带莉莉去“toddler play class”米奇因为自己是基情父母本是有点在意别人的目光,所以不想给别人留下迟到的坏印象,就约束卡姆要change shirt,收敛自己,不要太张扬。卡姆觉得很委屈 不被理解。
处理过程:
亲子课中,看莉莉不抓东西,米奇很着急想表现莉莉也是OK的,把其他宝宝的玩具成果放到莉莉手里,博取虚荣欣慰。下一秒立马后悔,要逃离。
看另一对基佬玩得不亦乐乎,米奇放下小我,让卡姆去跳舞,释放自己。
慢思考:
一直觉得自己被别人歧视,太在乎别人看法,没有安全感,面对孩子的“满成长”,我们该报以何种心态?
03
剧情诊脉:
曼尼和杰的关系一直没有表面看上去好,所以歌想让他们独处,增进情感。
于是让杰和曼尼一起修风扇。曼尼的亲爸爸本来要打算带曼尼去游玩,结果来不来。为了不让曼尼对父亲失去信心,杰做出第一步改变,说了一个善意的谎言。曼尼和杰、歌共同出游,保留了对父亲的好印象,同时,更加亲近杰。
处理过程:
歌这个调和者很重要。“u r supposed to do it with him.”"It is important that we teach him how to do things for himself."
“I f u have two stubborn burros that don't like each other. you tie them to the same cart.”
杰和曼尼在一起修理风扇,虽然争吵重重,但是多了一些交流。
曼尼在苦苦等待自己的“英雄父亲”,其他亲爸只是一个好玩、爱喝、爱赌博的家伙。
杰走过去,安慰曼尼受伤的小心灵:“The plan was full and this old lady needed to get home, so he gave up his seat.”
"He just didn't want to come."
"Are u kidding me ?He wad very upset.H e was dying to see u."
"In fact, look what he sent."
(其实这是杰和歌准备去二人世界而准备的豪华轿车)
“He wsnted me and ur mom to make u to Disneyland”(维护父亲在曼尼心目中的形象)
"I told u he wad an awesome dad."
"Yeah,he's a prince."
归来时,曼尼在车上睡着,将身体移动,躺在了杰的身上。(信任与距离越来越近)
慢思考:离异家庭,如何和孩子建立良好的亲子关系? 给孩子树立怎样的父亲形象?
结束
The key to being a good dad ?
Sometimesthings work out just the way u want.
Sometimes they don't.
You gotta hang in here.
Because when all is said and done,90%of being a dad is just showin up.