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1. If you are single, do you have mandatory criteria for your Mr/Mrs. Right? why? 杨绛说：结婚之前要睁大眼，结婚后要闭一只眼。结婚前要睁大眼睛挑选适合自己的人，和自己兴趣相投，三观一致的人。结婚后反而要该演的戏要演，该装的糊涂得装，该和解的和解。婚姻本是一场合作，谁先睁眼，谁就输了。两个人的个性和背景差异，以及生活中的摩擦点都可能引发矛盾。这时候，睁大眼睛去追求完美并不现实，反而会让关系更加紧张。相反，适当地闭一只眼，选择宽容和理解，能够帮助双方更好地解决问题。
2. What is your expected relationship
3. How do you think about“门当户对”？what's the well-matched marriage? You are equal in position and material wealth, economic background. 门当户对的真正含义并不仅仅局限于财富、地位、家教、教养等外在条件的一致，更重要的是指两个人在三观、教育背景、人生经历、消费观念、生活环境等方面的相匹配。这种相匹配不仅有助于两个人在思想、三观、层次上保持一致性，相辅相成，从而让婚姻经营得更好，走得更远。In my opinion, I believe that "门当户对" is still relevant in modern society. While some may argue that love is the most important factor in a marriage, it cannot be denied that social and economic factors also play a significant role in a successful marriage. For example, if one partner comes from a wealthy family and the other from a lower-income family, there may be a power imbalance that can create tension and stress in the relationship. However, I also believe that "门当户对" should not be the only factor considered when choosing a partner. It is important to also prioritize love, compatibility, education background, culture, and shared values. A couple may come from different social and economic backgrounds but still have a strong and healthy relationship if they have a deep understanding and respect for each other.
4. Who would you like to choose? The one you love or the one who love you？choosing the one you love is like choosing a job/things you like to do, it makes you feel alive, passionate and energetic…be careful the one you love may not love you, you will feel depressed, and painful. Loving and matching each other is most lucky and wonderful thing. 人生所有的选择里，我们其实都只要选一个，就是选自己。真正爱你的人，他会懂你的底色，尊重你的坚持，除非你自己先放弃。知道你只是看中他条件的人，迟早会用条件拿捏你。而人和不喜欢的人在一起，即使大富大贵，也是度日如年。我很庆幸没有选条件最好的，也没有选讨好我的，我只是选了一个让我可以做自己的人。然后，我就发现，只要顺序对了，你不会错到哪里去。
5. Share your love story, experience of love and marriage? 喜欢未必合适，合适未必喜欢，感情从来没有合不合适。喜欢是一种感觉，适合是一种条件。
6. How to maintain a good relationship/marriage? 恋爱谈的是浪漫，看见的都是美好，婚姻是生活琐事，看见的都是人情冷暖，世态炎凉”。Chores and errands may kill off the romantic love.
7. 怎么看待不婚主义？do you think marriage is a must? 不婚主义者不是不想结婚，而是对婚姻更在乎和谨慎，他们不想将就，不想辜负爱情，不想埋葬婚姻。
