H/A = Human Adulthood 人类成人
人类成人是杰德提出的概念，可以理解为一种顺流的状态。
区别于开悟（了悟自我的非真实性/解除对虚假自我的认同/彻底终结梦境），人类成人是一种“在梦中醒来、与存在协同创造”的状态。
杰德认为人类成人是值得追求的，它提供一个“更精彩、冲突更少”的游戏（在梦境里愉快地玩耍）。
而开悟则意味着着一切自我价值的终结，因为根本没有一个“我”能存活下来并得到任何东西或头衔（没有一个叫做“我”的真实的、实存的主体可以来开悟）。
Your H/A rating
你的人类成人评级
作者：Jed Mckenna
翻译：Kamiko
你有没有想过你在人类成人这条路上到底走了多远，又或者，某个人在通往成人的路上到了哪个位置？经过多年的研究、观察和体验，我发现这里面有个统一的标志。
戏剧就是一个人得不到他想要的东西：失望，损失，匮乏，渣父母，娃坐牢，总之就是关于某个人求而不得的任何情形，更惨的是，其他人求仁得仁了。
戏剧基于“应该”、“本可以”、“不愿意”、“需要”、“想要”等几乎任何跟如是发生背道而驰的东西。如是发生的就是其所是的样子，再怎么否认也无法改变它。
想象一下，你正为生活挣扎，突然你的隔壁邻居容光焕发地出现，告诉你他赢了彩票，哟吼~他爽得跟辛普森一家似的，嘴巴快咧到耳朵上。
辣么，我想问的是：你对此感想如何？
撇开那些“你应该”和“不应该”，你到底会怎样反应？你真实的回应能清楚地显示你有多“成人”。
想象你打开新闻联播，播音员用金凯瑞般的语气对电视观众说：
“晚上好亲们，内啥...今天没什么大事发生，基本上老样子，跟昨天差不多，嗯，又刮了个台风，不过就跟第一个似的...喔..听说俄勒冈州的谁谁谁和谁谁谁又得了个孙子，男娃...恭喜这个家庭...好滴...今天的内容就是介些。明天我大概还会在这儿，不过，不用期待有什么振奋人心的新消息哦~明天见~爱你~”
然后你换台，收看你最爱的狗血剧《当胃袋翻滚时》。这是最新一季的第一集，劳拉和南希边喝咖啡边聊天。南希被杰森这个登徒浪子迷得七晕八素。
劳拉说“嘛，你直接跟他表白，问他愿不愿意和你结婚不就可以？”南希说“你觉得这么做能成？” “哎哟，最多也就是被他拒绝嘛。”
南希鼓起勇气找杰森表白。他说“好滴~”...他们就这么结婚然后无比神奇地幸福到金婚。
当然，狗血剧要是这么写，九成九被砍+编剧走人。
但戏剧不是这么运作的。
在戏剧版本里，南希向杰森表白，杰森说他已经深深爱上劳拉了，不能和南希结婚。当然，劳拉是姬佬，她深爱着南希，杰森拒绝求婚正中她下怀。然而劳拉也不会得偿所愿，毕竟南希是箭一般的钢铁宇直。本集完。
大多数人的生活更像戏剧。人们喜欢看电视，并且真的相信里面的内容...每天花好几个小时看狗血剧或类似的东西，比如论坛或者博客，那种能引发争议和热论的内容...这么做拉高了吃瓜群众和始作俑者那虚幻的自我逼格。
所以，好好看看你自己和别人。
被戏剧吸引的程度清楚地显示出你有多“成人”。对邻居中彩票的感想会告诉你关于你的大部分信息，只要你去倾听。
有什么是你想要却得不到的？有什么东西别人都得到了，唯独你求而不得？有什么是你不想要却反复出现在你生活中的？
进一步讲，你如何知道你想要或者不想要某事某物？是什么让你知道你的好恶？你能完全确定你想要或者不想要某样特定的东西吗？
不妨花点时间，去“想要”这个当下你切实拥有的一切。有法律规定说你不能“想要”眼前升起的一切吗？
什么或者谁是那个评判对错的终极审判者？你脑袋里那个小小的声音真的是你的吗？也许它来自于你父母中的一方，早年学校里的某个老师，某个牧师，某个你仰慕的朋友什么的...
然而，我不听命于任何不是“我的”的声音，这意味着我脑袋里响起的声音实在没几个...而当它刚好在说点什么时，我会仔细倾听。
所以，你到达人类成人旅途的哪个位置了呢？尽管我们在讨论这个话题，但人类成人对你来说真的重要吗？你真的需要在意这个？
我可以回答你（对，我就是这么狂）：因为你不快乐。这解释了一切，所有你“想要某事某物”的理由，说穿了就是这个...
我说得对么？来嘛，诚实点，被我说中了吧？既然你读到这儿了，说明有什么在困扰着你。
如果你还在读下去，让我（擅做主张地）给你点建议。
不要再参与、围观、煽动你生活中的戏剧。这些东西只能使你短暂地兴奋，类似吃甜品带来的那点快感..
最终这（停止给戏剧灌注能量）会扯落你生命的年岁，并抽掉年岁的生命。
你还没在这个梦中显化出一个被痛苦和戏剧燃尽的自我。或许你已经在自我消耗了...好好地看一看，最近你又往你的戏剧火堆里丢了什么样的燃料？
你在成为成人的路上走了多远？答案显然就在你眼前。
爱你，杰德。
P.S.希望我那死鬼邻居用他的彩票奖金买台安静点的割草机，这样我白天就能睡个安稳觉了。神愿我睡过头，我便如此。
原文
Have you ever wonder how far along the road to H/A you have come, or perhaps, looked at someone and wondered how far he or she is along the path to adulthood? Over too many years of study, observation and experience, I have found that there is one very consistent indicator.
Drama is all about not getting what one wants... about frustration, loss, inadequacies, bad parents, kids in jail, just about any situation where someone doesn't get what they want, and even better, someone else gets it. Drama is based on shoulds, coulds, wouldn't, needs, wants, just about anything that goes against what is. What is is exactly what is and not amount of denying it has ever changed it.
Imagine this, you are struggling along in life and you next door neighbor comes charging in one day, glowing like a Cali grow op, and declares he has won the lottery, who hoo! Ecstatic in a Homer Simpson way... smiles from ear to ear.
Now...my question is how are you going to feel? All shoulds and shouldn't aside, how would you react? Your actual response is an excellent measure of how adult you are.
Imagine you turn on CNN and announcer has gone all Jim Carrey on the TV audience. ''Evening folks, well... not much happened today, mostly same old same old, pretty much like yesterday, Yeh, another hurricane, but same as the first.... oh.. it seems that Bob and Better Sturnholme in Eugene, Oregon had a new grandchild, a little boy... congrats to the fam... so... that's about it. I'll probably be here tomorrow, but don't expect anything exciting. See ya then. Love ya."
Then you turn to your favorite soap, As the Stomach Turns. This is the first new season episode and finds Laura and Nancy talking over a coffee. Nancy is totally heads over heals for Jason, a real hunk. Laura says, ''Well, why don't you just come out and ask him to marry you''. Nancy says, "You think I could do that?''. ''Well, worst he could say is no''.
Nancy plucks up the courage and asks Jason. He says ''Yes''... they get married and end up deliriously happy into their golden years. Of course the soap is promptly canned and the writer fired.
But drama doesn't work like that. In the dramatic version, Nancy asks Jason and he says he is in love with Laura and won't marry her. Of course Laura is gay and in love with Nancy and delighted with Jame's rejection of the proposal. Laura is not going to get what she wants because Nancy is as straight as an arrow. End of episode.
Life is more like this than not for most people. Folks like watching TV and actually believe it... spend hours each day watching soaps and the like. Maybe it's forums or blogs, the kinds that foment argument and demeaning posts ... and in doing so lift the observer and writer up to new heights of illusory self-esteem.
So, watch yourself and others. The draw to drama is a pretty good indicator of how adult you are. How you feel about your neighbor winning that lottery will tell you plenty about yourself if you listen.
What do you want but aren't getting? What do you want and it seems everyone but you is getting it? What do you not want yet is seems to be constantly turning up in your world? A better question would be, how do you know that you want or don't want something? What informs you of your preferences? Are you sure you want and don't want certain things?
Maybe take a moment and want exactly what you have in this moment. What law says you can't want what arises to you? What or who is the ultimate adjudicator of what is right or wrong? Is that little voice in your head even yours? Maybe it's a parent, an early school teacher, a minister, a friend you look up to.. I don't know. BUT, I don't listen to any voice that isn't MINE, which means there are very few voices going around in my head... and if it happens to say something, I listen closely.
So, where are you on your journey to H/A... and while on the topic, why even bother with H/A? I can answer for you (yeah, sheesh, I actually am that arrogant)... because you aren't happy. That sums it up, make up all the reasons you want, but that is what it boils down to... am I right? Come on, be honest, am I right? You read this far so somethings bothering you.
If you are still reading, let me offer you some (non-asked for) advice. Stop engaging in, watching, encouraging drama in your life. It's only going to give you a temporary rush, like that double chocolate fudge banana split sunday... in the end it will take years off your life and life out of your years. You haven't materialized in the dream to burn yourself out with misery and drama. You might be doing that right now though... have a look and see. What have you done lately that was like throwing gas on your drama campfire?
How far are you along the road to becoming an adult... it's right in front of you.
Love ya, Jed.
P.S. I hope my friggin neighbor buys are quieter lawnmower with his lotto winnings so I can sleep in more. God meant me to sleep in, that's why I do it.
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