看了这篇文章（原文在下面），作者是个女孩子，她从自己的角度记录了父母对她产生的影响，尤为有说服力，孩子才是父母最好的评判者，是父母教育最好的见证。看完之后我很感动。 这对父母做得确实很好。
首先，他们自己就很成功，非常自律，是孩子的榜样。
其次，他们不溺爱娇宠孩子。 然后，他们也同样关心、操心孩子的身心健康。
接着，夫妻关系和家庭平和、理智、稳定。
再然后，注重培养孩子的美好品格。
此外，他们不遗余力地、不惜花费地投资教育；带孩子旅游，开阔眼界；以合适的方式来爱孩子；永远支持、鼓励、激励孩子。
所以总结起来，首先他们自己就是事业成功，有一套正确的方法论，并把这些方法论耳濡目染地传给了孩子。另外，他们教育孩子也有一套正确的方法论。
看完这篇文章，我也想成为这样的母亲。但是，对照一下，其实好多方面真的没有做到，比如说不骄纵孩子。我自己很多时候，心慈手软，没有原则。但是，我会时时看看这篇文章，提醒自己一下，要树立个好榜样。
其中下面这一句让我感动哭了。如果将来我的女儿能够这样评价我，我一定会非常欣慰的。 I don't want to appear arrogant but to say that I turned out just "okay" would be an insult to them, to their parenting. I turned out to be awesome, and my parents deserve full credit for it. 这个女孩子成为了一个awesome的人，这都要归功于她的父母。
这篇文章写得也很好，层次分明，逻辑合理；有观点，有例子，非常具有说服力，给人以启发。
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How have your parents influenced your life? (Quora)
Shohin Mukherjee, Graduate student, The Robotics Institute, Carnegie Mellon University Written Sep 2, 2014
I consider myself to be extremely lucky to have experienced very effective parenting. I know this is not the case with a lot of people. I am not talking about your parents loving you. Unless someone is a dysfunctional retard, he/she will always love his/her child. Even animals love their off springs. This is how we are programmed, there is nothing extra-ordinary about it. What I am referring to is effective parenting.
Both my parents, like most of my family, are extremely educated and high achievers in their professional and personal lives. They are both self-made individuals. I was brought up in an environment where people around me were motivated and hardworking. It was an inspired childhood. A lot of critical skills were inculcated in me very early in my life, which people don't learn in their entire lifetimes. Despite being financially very well off, I was never given gifts. To make my parents buy me my favorite toy, I had to accomplish something before, like solve a hundred math problems in an hour or to run half a mile in less than 10 minutes. I was made to realize that other than your parent's unconditional love, nothing comes for free and you have to work hard for everything else.
No expenses were spared in my education. Besides that, I was never provided with any unnecessary luxuries, I still am not. I never went to school in my parents' cars. Even when I missed the school bus, I had to take an auto to my school which was about 40 minutes away from my home, in the scorching Delhi heat. When I complained my mother used to tell me this: "To fulfill your needs, we are duty bound. To satisfy your indulgence in luxuries, we are not. That, you will have to manage for yourself." All my needs were looked after, none of my luxuries. I never understood the logic behind this then. Now, I cannot thank them enough.
I was brought up in a stable home. There were no unnecessary arguments on trivial issues between my parents. No work related problems and frustrations were brought home. Whenever they disagreed with each other on anything, they made it a point that they did so in my absence. A lot of times, they used to team up against me when I did something wrong. Then, I used to think that they both had something against me, now I realize that they in fact were on my side every single time.
They taught me how to succeed with probity and honesty, the importance of going to bed everyday with a clean conscience, and that there is no substitute to hard work. They taught me how critical it is to accept your faults, and instead of living in a state of denial and stubbornness, work toward rectifying them. They took me to places around the world, and in the process enriched me with invaluable experiences.
I know the sleepless nights my parents have whenever I have something as trivial as a fever, but they never pampered me. They made me push myself to my very limits, comforted me when I fell, helped me rise up back again and kept surging me forward, relentlessly. I don't want to appear arrogant but to say that I turned out just "okay" would be an insult to them, to their parenting. I turned out to be awesome, and my parents deserve full credit for it.
I can never forget what my father told me when I was really down one day.
Me: It is over, I am tired and exhausted. I cannot do this.
My father: It is not over as long as you have a beating heart. Whether your legacy is over when it does stop beating, will depend on what you do when it has not.
