The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck CH6

CH6 You are wrong about everything

Guiding Question

1.Why “we are wrong about everything”?

Because we always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection.

2. What caused “false memory syndrome”?

The memory that will gradually change just like telling a story from a person to another, after telling several people, the story is totally different from the origin.

3.Tell us a story where you had adamantly thought you were right, but later you found you were wrong.

I was easily get angry with my parents at before, and I thought it was all their fault. But now when I seem to get angry I ask myself why I got angry, most of the time it was my own problem. So I 'm trying to calm down when I felt agitated.

4. How to be a little less certain of yourself? Please include a personal example.

Ask yourself the following questions:

What if I'm wrong?

What would it mean if I were wrong?

Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others.

For example, if I get angry with my parents, ask myself these three questions, myself would doubt my previous reactions. This is a perfect way of reflection.

感想

看这一章的时候我一直都在想去年看的Beyond feelings这本书提到的内容:我们要审视自己的评判标准,比如今天中午和同事谈到最强大脑里的“水哥”,他可以在几十杯水中找出那杯一开始选中的水。同事说这完全是天分,如果在以前我也会这么认为。但是当看过《刻意练习》这本书以后,我对天赋的作用有了新的认识。水哥画了很多年的画,他自己也说他把每杯水气泡的不同位置和样子看成一幅画。这是他的方法,后续他必定经过了大量的练习。我们看到惊人的结果时总看不到其他人背后的努力。

所以应该经常去反问自己:为什么会有这种想法?为什么这样的评判标准?如果我有一个另外的判断是不是会让自己或者他人都更开心?

总之,永远保持一颗谦虚的心和学习的心,这样才能看到更多种的可能。

字词

1.chip away at sth

I chip away at how wrong I am, becoming less and less wrong every day.

chip away at something

to gradually make something less effective or destroy it: 削弱,毁坏

例:Fears about the future chipped away at her sense of well-being.

造句:Unable to be focus chipped away our working efficiency.

2. be reconciled (with somebody)

Consumed by guilt, she spent the rest of her father’s life attempting to reconcile with him and other family members through constant apologizing and explaining.

be reconciled (with somebody) to have a good relationship again with someone after you have quarrelled with them:

造句:The couple had a fierce fighting, but reconciled soon.

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In everyday English, people usually say that two people make up rather than saying that they are reconciled:

They had a fight, but they seem to have made up now.

3. root out

This therapy involved a therapist putting a client into a trancelike state where she was encouraged to root out and reexperience forgotten childhood memories.

If you root out a problem or an unpleasant situation, you find out who or what is the cause of it and put an end to it. 词根除;杜绝;彻底解决

造句:The country is trying out to root out racialism.

4.uproot

A month later, she invited me to uproot across the country and move in with her.

to remove a person from their home or usual environment 使离开家园(或熟悉的环境);使迁移他处

造句:Many people from village uprooted to make a living.

5.saddle sb with sth

It can cement you into a strict role and saddle you with unnecessary  expectations.

to make someone have a job or problem that is difficult or boring and that they do not want:使某人负担,承担难题

I’ve been saddled with organizing the whole party.

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