问题描述：我是单亲妈妈，四十三岁，带着四个孩子，全职工作。我蛮苗条的，定期健身，也很注意自己身体健康。这样的我，还会有男的喜欢吗？

（这是一个Quora（国外的知乎）上的问答）

李贝琦：肯定啊！！

虽然有很多男人一开始不愿意像20多的时候浪漫地认识你、了解你，（因为你孩子的原因），但是一旦你和你遇到的不同的男人相处下来，我觉得你会发现天涯何处无芳草，芳草极其多啊。

他们不仅觉得和有孩子的女人一起没问题，而且会发现单亲妈妈的独立和强大难以抗拒，性感。

而且吧，男人发现尽职尽责的母亲很动人，值得尊重，这是一个吸引点！他们知道单亲麻麻多难，责任多大，能把小孩子带好他们真的很佩服。

看着一个母亲与她的孩子在一起，让人忍不住想保护，这是很美，很让人心安的。

单亲母亲的羽翼下就好像世界上最温暖的地方。

这些女人走过险滩，仍然愿意为另一个小人儿奉献。因此，单身妈妈不太可能是自私或情感脆弱的人，男人也喜欢女人身上的这一面。

别人出了事情第一时间打给她们，借她们肩膀哭泣。她们照顾别人，是精神导师，安抚平息别人的怒火。

她们已经走过了孕期“自我怀疑”不稳定的阶段，也经历了年轻妈妈的时期，所以了解了自己，也清楚恋爱中自己的样子。当女友特别赞。

还有一个好事，单身妈妈很忙..她们不黏人，不会依赖你（或者你的爱）度日，或依靠你或你的爱，因为她们孩子一个抱抱就是爱。

真的她们更值得欣赏，因为她们本身的人怎么样，而不像一个商品给人衡量。

我的意思是，年轻单身女孩在年龄的压力下，为了组建家庭寻找爱情，浪漫地选择另一半可能是困难的。

因为年纪到了就组建家庭，然后发现行不通，出现矛盾，当初年龄的压力就是致命原因。

在单亲妈妈这里，就没有这种问题..

她只是喜欢那个与她联系的人，想花时间在她身上的人。

她不会幻想着你什么时候给她一个家，你们什么时候要宝宝。

当你们和她的孩子放假去水上公园时，她会因为你们一起玩很快乐，感到兴奋和惊醒，你们哪天要是去二人世界她甚至更激动。

有许多单身母亲的美丽和可爱的事情，撩着男的前仆后继。

我有四个孩子，我有过男人爱我。将来某个特别的男人会爱你，他的犹豫会一点点消失，他会开始发现你有孩子这件事美丽，有趣而温暖，不尴尬也不吓人。

许多人想：他们永远不要太接近一个有4个孩子的女人。原因有很多，但是真的遇到那个她，他的心剥落了另一层，里面柔软的一面他自己以前都不知道，他就想成为她的家的一分子，爱她和她的孩子。

其实，许多明星娶了单身母亲，他们有他们选老婆的方式。

（完）

翻译此文是因为文章有趣，想要分享她的思想。另一方面，也可以给想要学习地道英语的人当材料。如果打赏，我再找原答主商量是平分还是怎么样弄。目前只翻译becky lee（我翻译成李贝琦）的回答。希望大家喜欢或者受到启发~

英文原文如下

I'm 43 full-time divorced working mom of 4. I'm thin,work out regularly, & take great care of myself. Are there men who woulddate someone like me?

Becky Lee

Becky Lee

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Yes!!

Although, thereare a lot of men that would be resistant to the idea of getting to know youromantically at first, because you already have children. But once you get toknow different men that you meet, I think you will find that there are plentyof men that will develop feelings for you.

Men who not only feel that they could be with a woman whohas kids, but also find your independence and strength as a single motherirresistibly sexy. You are a lioness!!

Also, men find GOOD mothers attractive and worthy ofrespect, which Is a turn on! They know it is a difficult and importantresponsibility and doing it well is something they admire.

There's amaternal vulnerability that is comforting andbeautiful, watching a mother with her child.

Under a single mother's wing can feel like the warmestplace in the world.

These women have been through tough times and stillsacrificed for another small human being.. (or 4). For this reason, singlemom's are less likely to be selfish or emotionally fragile creatures, and menlike that in a woman.

They are the ones called upon first for advice and ashoulder to cry on. They are the caregivers, the gurus, the peacemakers.

They have already gone through the rocky "who am Inow " stage of pregnancy and early motherhood, so they've mostly learned alot of important things about themselves and relationships and that makes themvery appealing as girlfriends.

Another great thing Is that single mom's are busy.. theyaren't clingy and dependent on you or your love to get them through each daybecause they will always find love in the embrace of their child.

This makes them more appreciative of who you actually areas a manmore than the commodity yourepresent.

What I mean is that it can be difficult for women makingromantic choices when they are possibly lonely for purpose like some youngwoman can be when they feel a biological clock sort of pressure on them tofulfill their desire to start a family and find love.

That pressure can turn out to be a fatal issue in lots ofrelationships where families are started under pressure and don't work out.

With a single mom that pressure Is off..

She appreciates just being with someone that she connectswith, who wants to spend time with her.

She isn't wondering when you're going to buy her a homeand get her pregnant.

She is thrilledand awakened by the fun of you coming along when she takes her kids on vacationto a water park, and even more thrilled that you asked her out for a sexy childfree evening

There's many beautiful and desirable things about singlemothers that can inspire many men to date them.

I have four children , and I've had men love me. Someonespecial will fall in love with you and his hesitence will fade, and he willstart seeing the fact that you have children as something beautiful and fun andwarm, rather than awkward or scary.

Many men think they'd never get too close to a woman with4 kids for many reasons, but when you meet someone you catch feelings for, yourheart peels down another layer that you never knew was there, and you want tobe a part of that family and love that woman and her children.

In fact many celebrity men have married single mothers,and they have their pick of women.

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