日期：2021.02.26

【人物学习】

王熙凤：蒋勋老师讲红楼系列

最近又开始听年前没有听完的蒋勋老师讲红楼系列。对王熙凤有了不一样的认识。

先前的理解就觉得，王熙凤泼辣狠毒，刁钻，暴脾气，不敢惹，却忽略了其超强的管家本事。

透过蒋老师的讲解，才发现，能操持这么一个大家的人，岂是任何一个人都胜任的？自然不是。

从秦可卿去世之后，王熙凤开始同时管理两边，事务更加繁忙和重，但却被她理得头头是道。且看看她是怎么管理的。

首先，宁国府那边一团乱麻，上上下下也都黄了阵脚。王熙凤，去了，先是把所有要做的事情都安排了管理人员，缺什么先指定找对应的管理人员，然后再让这些人去分配做事情，这样一来就不会存在不负责任，有没有安排到的地方了。对于审批的部分，也固定了每样的截止时间，过时不候，制定好规矩，按照规矩行事。虽然一个字都不识，记忆却是超群，仅凭借下人们的描述，就能听出个所以然来，恐怕可只有王熙凤可以了。 对于触犯规矩的人，不是视而不见，也不是歹毒恶恨，而是以此来警戒所有人，不可以触犯，不管出于什么原因，也让下人们乖乖听话而不再犯。

起早贪黑，事务繁杂，哪怕同一时间遇到好几个事件，也不会黄了阵脚。而是按照重要紧急程度来吩咐叮嘱下去。不仅能安排的下人们条条是道，也能够即使体谅和向长辈们汇报，体恤他们的心情并送去范食，及时汇报当前情况。做事情确实是个好手。

但唯独一点，就是太贪婪，放高利贷敛钱财。聪明反被聪明误。也因为对贾琏管教太严，导致其总觉得被束缚反倒更容易偷腥。

所以，适可而止很重要，管束也一定分场合和分角色。

【作品学习与读书】

萨古鲁：新的一年，如何活出最佳的生命？

Sadhguru: There are two ways to address your life. One way is to set goals and go for them. What kind of goals will you set? Something that you are impressed with in the world, something that you have not yet done, something that is yet to be in your life. You are trying to be like someone else or do something that someone else is doing. Whatever goals you arrive at, they are all in some way within the limitations of what you already know, or maybe a little exaggerated versions thereof. Is it not tragic to spend a whole year trying to achieve what you already know? My intention is things that you do not know should happen to you. Things that you have never imagined should enter your life. Only then will your life be truly enriched. What is the point of only doing things that you already know?

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：有两种对待生命的方式。一种方式是设定目标，为之努力。你会设定什么样的目标呢？那些让你留下深刻印象的事，那些你还没做过的事，那些还没在你生命中发生的事。你在尝试变得像其他人一样，或者去做别人在做的事。不论你达成了什么目标，它们一定程度上都是在你已知的局限内，或者可能比你已知的略微夸张一点而已。花费一整年试图达成你已知的事，这难道不可悲吗？我的愿望是，那些你不知晓的事应该在你身上发生。那些你从未想象过的事应该进入你的生命。只有那样，你的生命才会真正丰富。只做那些你已知的事有什么意义呢？

If you become conscious, you will do your best.

如果你变得有意识，你会尽到最大努力。

When it comes to financial or physical things that you want to achieve, maybe if it matters to you, you can set up such goals. Personally, I think even that is a waste of life. Suppose you have a million dollars and your goal is to have a billion dollars by the end of the year. If it doesn’t happen, it’s a good thing because you have lived in that hope. But if it happens, let’s say in January itself, then what will you do? You will want to make it ten billion dollars. There was a time when you could be happy with one dollar. Now for the same happiness, you need a million dollars. That’s called inflation. That’s not enhancement of life.

至于那些你想要获得的财务上或物质上的财富，或许，如果那对你很重要，你可以设定目标。在我看来，即便那也是浪费生命。假如你有一百万美元，而你的目标是到年底拥有十亿美元。如果这个目标没有实现，那是好事，因为你一直活在那个希望里。但如果这个目标实现了，比如说1月份就实现了，那你还要做什么呢？你会想要再挣一百亿美元。曾经，有一美元你就可以很开心了，现在要同样开心，你需要一百万美元。这就叫做“通货膨胀”，这不是生命的提升。

All that you do with life is create inflation. Inflation is neither good for the economy nor for your life. In physics, inflation means filling up something, like you inflate the tires of a car with air. But in economics, inflation means certain parameters go out of control. Now you are consciously causing inflation in your life – that is not an intelligent way to go about it. By setting time-bound goals, you may achieve a few things, but it will be of no consequence to the life that you are.

你用生命所做的一切就是制造通货膨胀。通货膨胀无论对于经济还是对于你的生命，都不是什么好事。在物理学里，膨胀意味着把东西充满，比如你把空气充入汽车轮胎。但在经济学里，通货膨胀意味着某些参数失控了。现在你在有意识地在生命中创造通货膨胀，这不是一种智慧的生活方式。通过设定时限性的目标，或许可以让你达成一些事，但这对于你这个生命来说没有任何意义。

Instead of setting goals for the whole year, just set this one thing: By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better. This will not work as a goal – it is better to look at it in retrospect. Tomorrow evening, just check, “Am I a little better than yesterday?” Just look at these twenty-four hours – it will make you more conscious. This is not about you being joyful or peaceful. This is about you being conscious of as many aspects of your life as possible.

与其为一整年设定目标，不如就设定这一件事：每一天结束的时候，你必须要更快乐了一点儿，更提升了一点儿，更好了一点儿。这个作为目标行不通——应该去反观。明天晚上，就看看，“今天的我比昨天更好了一点儿吗？”就看看过去这二十四小时——这会让你更有意识。这不在于让你变得快乐或平和。而在于让你对你生命的尽可能多的面向有意识。

By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better.

每一天结束的时候，你必须要更快乐了一点儿，更提升了一点儿，更好了一点儿。

You will do your best about whatever you are conscious of. Most of the nonsense happens because you are unconscious about so many things. All we need to do is to become conscious about everything – about our own nature, our mental states, our emotional states, our life, our physical situations, our financial situations, our ecological situations. If you become conscious, you will do your best. That’s all you need to do in life. But right now, you believe that unless you create a tension, you will not achieve anything. To get from where you are to where your goal is, you create a tension – it is like a rubber band effect. You try to keep moving from one place to another. From one level of social status to another. From one financial status to another. From one educational status to another. This is no different from how the caveman was, how hunters and gatherers were – “gather as much as you can.”

你会对你意识范围内的任何事都去尽力。很多荒谬的事情发生，都是因为你对很多事情都毫无意识。我们要做的就是变得对一切都有意识——对于我们自己的本质、我们的精神状态、我们的情绪状态、我们的生命、我们的身体情况、我们的经济状况、我们的生态境况都有意识。如果你变得有意识，你会去尽最大努力。这就是你需要在生命中做的。但现在你却认为，除非你创造一种紧张感，否则你会一无所成。为了从你的现在位置走向你的目标，你创造了紧张感——就好像橡皮筋效应。你一直试图从一个位置移到另一个位置，从一个社会地位移到另一个，从一种经济状况移到另一种，从一个学位移到到另一个。这和过去那些穴居人、狩猎人或采集人没什么差异——都只是"竭尽全力地累积”而已。

In those days, they piled up bones, feathers, and the like. Now maybe you are thinking of stocks, shares, and property. Maybe you are thinking of conquering another nation. On a material level, it looks different, but fundamentally, it is the same rudimentary thought of accumulating things. All this accumulation would make sense, had you organized transport to take all these things with you when you die. Having your own furniture in Heaven or especially in Hell would be great. Otherwise, who knows – maybe they will give you this chair with a straight back that you don’t like, so taking your own sofa with you would be great.

在过去那个时代，他们囤积骨头、羽毛等等。现在你可能在想着（累积）股票、股份和财产。也可能你在想着征服另一个国家。这些从实物角度看可能不同，但从根本上来说，都是原始的累积的思维而已。如果你死时能有办法安排好这些东西的运输的话，那所有这些累积都还讲得通。在天堂，或者尤其是在地狱里，能有你自己的家具会很棒。要不然，谁知道呢——也许他们会给你一把你不喜欢的笔直的靠背椅，所以带上你自己的沙发会是不错的。

Anything that you gather, whether it is your knowledge, your wealth, your relationships, or whatever else, is only of value for the current transactions. If you keep it active, it will facilitate a few things for you. It has social consequence, but it has no life consequence. Instead of setting goals, it is best you find ways to nourish this life that you are. If you are nourishing this life, you only have to measure the growth. Suppose you plant a mango tree. If you set the goal that by the end of 2018, it must bear a thousand fruits, otherwise you will cut it down, all that will happen is you will cut the tree. The way to do it is to see how to nurture this tree in the best possible way, and to do that. Don’t worry about getting a thousand fruits. Whatever best can come out will come out of it. If you nourish it in a certain way, it may be more than you can imagine.

你累积的任何东西，不管是你的知识、财富、关系或者其它不论什么，只对当时的情况有价值。如果你让这些东西保持活跃，它们能为你促成一些事情。它们有社会意义，却无生命意义。与其设定目标，不如去找到滋养你这个生命的方式。如果你滋养这个生命，你只需要衡量它的成长。比方说你种了一棵芒果树。如果你定了个目标，到2018年年底，它必须得结1000个果实，否则你就要把它砍掉，那最终会发生的就是，你会把它砍掉。正确的做法是去看怎样能以最好的方式培育这棵树，然后那么去做。不要操心得到1000个果实这件事。最好的结果会出现，如果你以一定方式滋养它，它可能超乎你的想象。

life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back.

只有当你将自己投入到生命之中，而不计较有什么回报时，生命才会以最佳状态运转。

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know. Nothing completely new will happen in your life. I think that’s a tragedy. Your dreams coming true is no good. If what you could not even dare to dream of becomes a reality – that’s a fantastic life. Results will happen depending on how well you handle the process of life, as well as on the times and on where you are. Today you may put in a certain amount of effort, and you will earn a million dollars. A thousand years ago, someone ten times smarter than you put in a lot of effort, but still he only earned a small amount. But this comparison is not the point. The important thing is that for the times he lived in, he yielded the best he could. For the times you live in, are you yielding the best you can? That is the question.

在生命的任何一个领域设定目标都不是好事，因为这样你只会做你已知的事。你的生命里不会发生任何全新的事。我认为那是个悲剧。你梦想成真并非好事。如果你曾经想都不敢想的事情成真，那才是精彩的生命。结果如何，取决于你把生命过程处理得多好，以及你所处的时代和情境如何。今天你可能投入了一些努力，然后你挣了100万美元。一千年以前，比你聪慧十倍的人也投入了很多努力，但他只挣到了很少的钱。这个比较本身没有意义。重点在于，在他所生活的时代，他尽己所能产出了最好的结果。而在你所生活的时代，你是否在产出最好的结果？这是问题所在。

I know every management school is talking about setting goals. But goals are not set for themselves – they are set to drive other people. There are a lot of people who will never do their best – they are always under par. They are not conscious enough to understand that as a human being, you must do the best you can in your life. Otherwise, life will be wasted. For such people, you have to set goals. If you are a donkey, the less you do, the smarter you are, because there are no other possibilities for you beyond eating, reproducing, sleeping, hanging around, and dying one day. Because there are no possibilities, the less you do, the better. Too many people have adopted this donkey philosophy. They think if they do less and get more, they are doing well. In reality, they are just stupid. They are missing the whole possibility of life.

我知道每一所管理学院都在讨论设定目标。但目标可不是设定给他们自己的——目标是用来驱动其他人的。有很多人永远做不到全力以赴——他们总是平平庸庸。他们还没有足够意识去看到，作为一个人，你必须在生命里全力以赴，否则，生命就会被浪费掉。对于这样的人而言，你必须得设定目标。如果你是一头驴，你做的越少，你就越聪明，因为对驴子而言，除了吃、繁殖、睡觉、闲逛，然后死去，实在没有什么其它可能性。因为没有其它可能性，所以你做得越少越好。太多人奉行了这种驴子哲学。他们觉得如果他们做的越少、得到的越多，就说明他们越成功。而事实上，他们只是愚蠢罢了，他们正在错失整个生命的可能性。

Human life really happens if you throw yourself into everything. If you hold back, you will miss life. If you do not give yourself totally to what you are doing, you don’t deceive someone else –you only deceive yourself of life. Once, bad times came upon Shankaran Pillai. He was a construction laborer, doing menial work to earn a living. He had to carry twenty-five bricks on a board, take them up three floors, put them there, come back down again, and so on. But after some time, once the foreman was gone, Shankaran Pillai started carrying the same set of bricks up and down. People who were working with him watched this and said, “Hey, why are you bringing back the bricks?” “Well, the foreman is not looking, right?” “But now you are carrying the bricks both ways, you idiot! Otherwise, at least coming down, you would not have had to carry the load.”

唯有将自己投入到一切之中，人类生命才能真正发生；如果你保留自己，你会错失生命。如果你不把自己完全投入到所做的事情之中，你不是在欺骗别人——你只是在欺骗自己，你自己的生命。曾经，山卡兰·彼莱不走运，他是个建筑工人，做着粗活维持生计。他得一次搬运板上的25块砖，然后把它们搬上三层楼，把砖头放在那儿，再下楼回来，一直反复如此。后来，有一次工头离开了，山卡兰·彼莱开始搬着相同的砖上上下下、来来回回。和他一起工作的人看到了说，“嘿，你为什么还把（已经运上去的）砖再搬回来呢？”“嗯，工头没有在看呀，不是吗？”“但是现在你往返都搬着砖，你个蠢货！不然的话，至少下来的时候，你可以不用搬。”

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know.

在生命的任何一个领域设定目标都不是好事，因为这样你只会做你已知的事。

This is what happens if you try to do less – simple things will become burdensome in your life. People are having so much trouble just going to the office and doing nine-to-five work. They are not managing the company. They are not managing the government. It’s just a chunk of work that someone has given them, just for a living – how complicated they are making that! From that, they are getting high blood pressure and their heart is breaking. You must see the scenes that happen in families. Just two people living together – how complicated! Little children – how much suffering they cause! Only once in a way, they are a joy – the rest of the time, people suffer them immensely.

当你试图少做事时，就会发生这样的事——在你生命里，简单的事都将变得沉重不堪。人们只是去办公室做着朝九晚五的工作都很费力。他们不是在管理公司，也不是在管理政府，只是在应对别人交给他们的一部分工作，仅仅是维持生计——他们都弄得多复杂！就这样，他们就得了高血压，心脏也无法支撑了。你一定要看看在家庭里发生的那些场景。只是两个人一起生活而已——多复杂！小孩子——他们给家庭引发了多少痛苦！只是很偶尔，他们给家庭带来快乐——其它时候，人们都深受其苦。

Their work, their children, their spouses, their homes, their jobs, their driving – people suffer just about everything. This happens because they are not conscious enough to understand that life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back. Life happens because of your involvement, not because of what you get. What are you going to do with what you get? The only sick pleasure you could have is if you compare yourself with someone else who has less than you. If you want to know and enjoy life, if you want to explore the full potential of this life, the only way is through absolute involvement. Let us see what will come out of it. If it is winter, nothing comes out of the earth. In springtime, with a little effort, a lot comes out. The same goes with life.

工作、孩子、配偶、家庭、工作、开车——人们几乎对一切都能感到痛苦。这种境况的出现，是因为他们没有足够有意识地去看到，只有当你将自己投入到生命之中，而不计较有什么回报时，生命才会运转得最好，生命因你的投入而发生，而非你的所得。你要用你的所得做什么呢？你能有的唯一病态的快乐，是将自己与那些拥有得比你少的人进行比较。如果你想要知晓和享受生命，如果你想要探索这个生命的全部潜力，唯一的方法是通过绝对的投入。然后让我们看看会有什么结果。如果是冬天，大地一无所生；可是在春天里，只要很少的努力，就会产出很多。生命也是同样的道理。

The biggest mistake people make is to be goal-oriented. If you set yourself the goal to get enlightened by 2018, you will be totally messed up by the end of the year. If you just do what you have to do, life will naturally flower.

人们犯的最大的错误就是以目标为导向。如果你给自己设定了目标——2018年要开悟。到年底的时候，你会一团混乱。如果你只是去做需要做的事，生命自会绽放。

May the coming year bring the Best to you.

祝愿来年把最好的带给你。

【思考】

元宵节：

今日元宵节。老话说过完今天就过完年了。好好开始学习啦。

从昨天开始，就发现上学的小朋友们都提着各式各样的灯笼，有的看样子像自己做的，有的看上去像是买的。风格各异却趣味横生。看到一个小朋友拎着用各样红包黏贴而成的灯笼，恐怕是在说看看我的压岁钱有多少吧。哈哈哈。也有仿古式圆灯笼，下面有个长穗子，大红灯笼高高挂起的感觉。也有用画纸糊起来的灯笼。小朋友们都小心翼翼的拿着，生怕一不小心破坏了的感觉。

突然就想到小时候的我自己，虽然没有做过灯笼，却着实买过很多漂亮的灯笼。而且会在元宵节这一天去赏烟花看灯会，好不热闹。记忆当中，买过皮卡丘的小黄灯，买过很大一只孔雀灯笼，其他的也有买过可记忆不深了。尤其那只孔雀灯笼，一直放在我的卧室，直到后来被弟弟妹妹去我家玩的缺胳膊断腿的，再后来就送人了，然后就不知去向了。

因为拿着灯笼，还会随着灯的闪烁而出声音，就好像是在告诉别人看吧，我的灯笼很好看一样，提着就很开心了。每年也很开心有一天都可以买到一个灯笼。想象，自从上学离家，已经有很多年没有再与家人一起过过元宵节了，也很多年没有再买过灯笼了。

转而看到现在的小朋友能够在元宵节制作灯笼，一种感动就油然而生。是啊，出不来外面，却可以将那种年味着实的一起小聚过一下。吃上一碗圆圆的汤圆伴着醪糟，赏赏月，也算是完美。

【每日一句】

充实而饱满的活好每一天。

【梦境】

好像是没有的

【每日反思与改过】

昨天开工第一天，早上迷迷糊糊的，下午才开始精力集中做事情。节后症还挺明显的。希望慢慢克服这种转换的不自然切换。

本来想说周末好好留下写论文，却在朋友发出邀请的时候犹豫再三。果然是待不住的人，总想跑出去。按捺不住跳动的心。嗯，约束好自己，快速做完需要做的事情再做别的事情。