FOMO
FOMO, or "fear of missing out," is a real phenomenon that is becoming increasingly common and can cause significant stress in your life.
FOMO，即 “害怕错过”，是一种真实存在的现象，且越来越普遍，会给你的生活带来巨大的压力。
The fear of missing out refers to the feeling or perception that others are having more fun, living better lives, or experiencing better things than you are. It is often exacerbated by social media sites like Instagram and Facebook.
害怕错过是指感觉或认为别人比你有更多的乐趣，过着更好的生活，或经历更好的事情。而这种感觉经常被Instagram和Facebook等社交媒体网站加剧。
However, FOMO has only been studied during the past few decades, beginning with a 1996 research paper by marketing strategist, Dr. Dan Herman, who coined the term "fear of missing out."
然而，FOMO只是在最近的几十年才开始被研究，从1996年营销策略师丹·赫尔曼博士的一篇研究论文开始，他创造了 “害怕错过” 这一术语。
Social media has accelerated the FOMO phenomenon in several ways. It provides a situation in which you are comparing your regular life to the highlights of others' lives.
社交媒体通过不同方式加速了FOMO现象的发展。它提供了一种情境，在这种情境中，你将自己的正常生活与他人的生活亮点进行比较。
Therefore, your sense of "normal" becomes skewed and you seem to be doing worse than your peers.
因此，你对 “正常” 的感觉变得歪曲，你似乎比同龄人做得更差。
Fortunately, steps can be taken to curb your FOMO if it is something you experience.
幸运的是，如果这是你所经历的事情，可以采取措施来遏制你的FOMO。
Change your focus. Rather than focusing on what you lack, try noticing what you have. You can change your feed to show you less of what triggers your FOMO and more of what makes you feel good about yourself.
改变你的关注点。与其关注于你所缺乏的东西，不如尝试注意到你所拥有的东西。你可以改变你的信息流，少看一些引发你FOMO的东西，多看一些让你自我感觉良好的东西。
Keep a journal. It is common to post on social media to keep a record of the fun things you do. However, you may find yourself noticing a little too much about whether people are validating your experiences online. If this is the case, you may want to take some of your photos and memories offline and keep a personal journal of your best memories, either online or on paper.
写日记。在社交媒体上发帖以记录你所做的有趣事情是很常见的。然而，你可能会发现自己有点过于关注人们是否在网上验证了你的经历。如果是这样的话，你可能会想把一些照片和回忆下线，并把你最美好的回忆写成个人日记，无论是在线上还是纸上。
Keeping a journal can help you to shift your focus from public approval to private appreciation of the things that make your life great.
写日记可以帮助你把关注点从公众的认可转移到私下欣赏那些让你的生活变得美好的事物上。
Seek out real connections. You may find yourself seeking a greater connection when you are feeling depressed or anxious, and this is healthy. Feelings of loneliness or exclusion are actually our brain's way of telling us that we want to seek out greater connections with others and increase our sense of belonging.
寻求真正的联系。当你感到沮丧或焦虑时，你可能会发现自己在寻求更大的联系，这是很健康的。孤独感或排斥感其实是我们大脑告诉我们要寻求与他人更大的联系，增加归属感的方式。
Rather than trying to connect more with people on social media, why not arrange to meet up with someone in person?
与其试图在社交媒体上多与人联系，不如亲自与人们见面。
2025年1月17日于经典龙苑
