日期：2021.02.24
【人物学习】
弟弟：
昨天下午去弟弟家住，赶今早的飞机。
弟弟在家里，特别爱喝饮料和吃甜的东西，家里人为了怕他牙不好，有时候就得藏着点，不然放桌上就没有了。
可能也是长身体，特别的能吃，还特别爱吃肉。小姨吃饭的时候说：明天还能吃一顿羊肉臊子，就没有了。弟弟则说：没有了再买呀，再做呀。果然小孩子，啥没有就说买，而不会思考为什么不买的背后原因。
小姨夫说，我们要打算买房了，你要做好几年省吃俭用的准备哈。还哪里的羊肉可吃。一斤就40多，这一天基本就能吃1斤多，哪里还能天天吃的起呢。但孩子不会去在意，他们在意的只是没有了可以买呀。
然后他写作业，结束后看了会电视，弟弟问我，姐姐你平时看什么电视，我说什么都不看呀，他说那你看什么。都不看吗？我说不看呀、他竟然特别不能理解，我笑一笑，很想说平时哪里还有什么时间看电视呢。事情都做不完，哪里有那么多闲工夫呢。但我回复，就是不看呀。留他一个人在那里思索。
要睡觉钱，拉着我下了两盘五子棋，结果因为我都赢了，他就不想下了。又开始和我聊天，各种问题都指向一个问题，就是这个大点的孩子总想知道是真的假的，对的还是错的。比如他会问我，姐姐有外星人嘛？ 姐姐人有灵魂吗？等之类的。他想要一个肯定的答案，但我也给不了。我只是说，可能会有哦。或许，10来岁的孩子，眼里只是二分类，对与错，真与假，而没有介于两者之间的部分，所以才会如此疑惑。又喜欢去看各种神奇的事情，就更加的想要去弄个明白所以然，却也没有弄明白。
也知道说，一个小孩的家庭，其实孩子也蛮孤独的。孤独到没有人可以说话，和爸妈说吧，爸妈总是敷衍要么就不让说；和其他哥哥姐姐说，有时候会被嫌弃烦，而不听。所以，抓住一个人，就能说好多好多，把他脑袋里所想的东西，都一股脑的倒出来给你。突然就，好心疼弟弟，觉得他怎么有那么一点点可怜。或许也是对自己的一种可怜吧。自己也是独生子，一直想要有个弟弟妹妹，可无奈也是没有。但好在，我有疑问的时候回去上网找寻答案，而弟弟则还停留在想要有个老师一样的人来答疑解惑。可他并不知道，那样的老师其实是不存在的。而最终自己得是那个去答疑解惑的老师。
【作品学习与读书】
萨古鲁：家庭是一个让你超越好恶的训练场
Sadhguru: There are many associations we make to conduct our life process. We make associations of business, nationality, community. But among all these things, family is a fundamental association. You must understand family for what it is, and conduct it for what it is. The problem is we get overwhelmed with emotion and raise it to another place, which it is not. In many ways, my mother never tried to influence us in any way. By not wanting to influence us, she was the biggest influence. What human beings have to offer you, and what you have to offer them should not be trampled upon. But the illusions we create around them must be trampled upon, otherwise we will miss the beauty of people coming together and sharing things.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：我们建立了很多组织来构建我们的生活。我们建立商业、国家和社区。但其中，家庭是最基本的组织。你必须理解家庭是什么，并以此来引导家庭。问题是我们被情绪淹没了，并把家庭引向了另一个地方。在很多层面上，我的母亲从不试图以任何方式影响我们。借由这样的“无为”，她做出了最大的“有为”，她给我们带来了最大的影响。那些人类可以提供给你的，以及你可以奉献给人类的，不应当被践踏。但是，那些我们在人们周围所制造的幻相必须被摧毁，否则，我们将错过人们聚在一起相互分享的美好。
In many ways, family means “the closest association.” That means you have to constantly step on each other’s feet. When you constantly step on each other’s feet because you are sharing the same space, it brings a certain level of understanding and maturity. Suppose you have a Facebook family. You can have a family of 10,000 without any problems because you don’t have to share anything with anybody except pictures. It does not challenge you. Suppose you do not like someone on Facebook, you can just click and they are gone! That is not the case with family. One moment, they do something and you hate them, but you can’t click them away.
在许多层面上，家庭意味着“最亲密的组织”，这意味着大家难免会不断踩到彼此的脚。当你因为分享同一个空间而时不时踩到别人的脚时，这会带来一定程度的理解和成熟。假设你在脸书（Facebook）上成立一个家庭，即使拥有一个一万人的家庭也不会有任何问题，因为除了分享照片之外，你不必与他人分享任何东西。它不会挑战到你。假设你不喜欢脸书上的某个人，你只要一点鼠标，他们就不见了！但家人不是这样的。某个时刻，他们做了某些事，你怨恨他们，可你没法一点鼠标就让他们离开。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes.
家庭是让你超越好恶的训练场。
When people stay together, either by bondage or choice, they mature because maturity happens when you rise above your likes and dislikes. There are so many things that you do not like about your parents, children, husband, wife. Initially, it irritates the hell out of you, but after some time, you rise beyond it. If you rise beyond it by giving in and saying, “The hell with it!” that will not help. But if you rise beyond it consciously, you have turned spiritual. Without intention, you have become spiritual. That is the most beautiful way to do it.
当人们住在一起时，无论是出于束缚或是选择，他们都会变得成熟。当你超越好恶时，你就成熟了。在你的父母、孩子、丈夫、妻子身上，有那么多你不喜欢的地方。一开始，它让你抓狂，但过了一段时间之后，你就会超越这一切。如果你放弃了，说：“让它见鬼去吧！”，这么做不会有任何帮助。但如果你有意识去超越，你就变得灵性了。不知不觉地，你就变得灵性。这是最美妙的方式。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes. But because some people cannot get along with their families, they want to move into the ashram. I tell them, “If you find living with three people too challenging, you are not fit to live with 1,000 people!” If you are doing great with your family and you want to move into the ashram, that is great, you have passed the test. But if you cannot live with a few people, how are you going to live with 1,000 people?
家庭是一个让你超越好恶的训练场。但因为有些人无法和家人和睦共处，他们想搬到静修所去住。我告诉他们：“如果你发现和3个人一起住都很有挑战的话，那你就不适合与1000个人住在一起！”如果你和你的家人相处得很好而你想搬到静修所，那很棒，你已经通过了测试。但如果你不能和几个人住在一起，你又怎能和1000个人住在一起？
Above all, family is very important to fulfill your physical, psychological, financial and social needs. You formed an association that you call “family” to fulfill your needs. Do not forget this. Right now, you may feel like a sacrificial goat in the family. But everything that you do within the scope of the family need not work out just because you think they are your people — that is just your thought. They are just people. If you give yourself totally to them and make their lives beautiful, they will yield to certain things.
家庭对于满足你的身体、心理、财务及社会的需求是非常重要的。你创建了那个你称之为“家庭”的组织，是为了满足你的需求。别忘了这点。现在，你可能感觉在家庭中像一个牺牲品，但只是因为你认为他们是你的人，这并不能意味着你在家庭范围内所做的一切都会管用——这只是你的想法。他们只是人而已，如果你将自己完全给予他们，让他们的生命变得美丽，他们会开花结果的。
The beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion.
母性之美并非在于繁衍后代，母性之美在于包容。
More horrible things happen within the family in terms of anger, hatred and struggles than what happens between two enemy nations. I am not saying this is right or wrong. But you made your association for your needs to be fulfilled, and now you are expecting all the life that evolved out of this family to happen the way you want it to. This does not mean all of them must turn out the way you want them to be – they will not. Just remain in gratitude and do the best you can. “But they are suffering. I don’t want them to suffer.” Yes, we don’t want them to suffer. Not just because they are your family, we don’t want anybody to suffer. It is time that you enlarge your desire to all. “I don’t want anybody to suffer.”
家庭中发生的由愤怒、仇恨和斗争所引起的悲惨事件要超过两个敌国之间所发生的。我不是说这是对或错。但你组建了这个组织来满足你的需求，现在你期望这个家庭的生活完全要按照你想要的样子来发展。这并不意味着所有家庭成员都要变成你所期待的样子——他们不会。你仅仅需要保持感恩，并尽可能做到最好。“但他们在受苦，我不想让他们受苦。”是的，我们不想让他们受苦，不仅仅因为他们是你的家人——我们不希望任何人受苦。是时候将你的渴望扩大至所有人：“我不想任何人受苦。”
During the 20s, 40s and even 60s, family meant “crime” in America — the mafia. Even today, that is what it means. I want you to understand this, what you see as evil on this planet is not coming from some devilish source. It is human beings who think, “Only these three people belong to me. The rest don’t belong to me.” It is what they perceive as wellbeing for these three people that causes all the rubbish to everything else. It may be a family, community, race, religion or nation. It is this limited perspective of life that causes all the evil on this planet, and it starts with the family. Please expand your idea of family.
20、40甚至60年代，在美国，家庭意味着“犯罪”——黑手党。甚至是今天，家庭也是这个含义。我想让你们理解这一点，你在这个世界上看到的邪恶，并非来自什么邪恶的人，而是来自于人类的思考：“只有这三个人属于我，其余的人都不属于我。”正是他们认为会给这三个人带来福祉的东西，造成了对其它一切的伤害。不管你是局限于一个家庭、社区、种族、宗教或是国家，正是这种对生命有限的视角造成了地球上所有的邪恶，而这最初始于家庭。所以请扩展你关于家庭的定义。
Your children may have taken only one cell from you. But how much have you taken from this planet? How many cells? The whole of it, even if you cannot think beyond your biology! The planet and everything that comes out of it is more of a family than somebody who just took one cell from you. You may not like this at all, especially just after Mother’s Day, but the beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion. It is not because your mother reproduced you, bore you and let you out. That is not why a mother is precious. She is precious because, in many ways, she saw you as a part of herself. It is not the biology; it is the inclusiveness. Suppose your mother bore you and never bothered about you, she would be your worst enemy. It is not the biological process that is significant here. It is the willingness to include another life as part of yourself. It is that beauty we are trying to celebrate with Mother’s Day.
你的孩子从你身上拿了一个细胞，但你从这个地球拿走了多少？多少细胞？你的每一个细胞都是从这颗星球上拿走的。这颗星球和这里所有的一切，都比只是从你这里拿了一个细胞的人更是家人。你可能不愿意承认这一点，尤其现在刚过完母亲节，但我想说，母性之美不在于繁衍后代。母性之美在于包容。母亲十月怀胎孕育了你，把你生出来，这并不是母亲可贵的原因。她可贵是因为在很多层面，她把你看作是她自己的一部分。所以这不在于生物性，而在于包容性。假如你的母亲生下了你，但从不管你，她可能就成了你最坏的敌人。关键不在于生物的繁衍，而在于将另一个生命包容为自己的一部分的意愿。在母亲节我们想要庆祝的，正是那种美。
【思考】
乡愁：
年少时，从不理解乡愁是什么，因为一味的想要离开熟悉的不能再熟悉的地方，想要去另一片天地遨游畅想。
长大了，才发现，乡愁，根深蒂固在你的内心深处。走过千万里路，依然忘不了的那个地方，那个让你安心的地方。
坐在高铁上，两眼望着窗外。突然觉得，西北的荒芜，那种光秃秃的树杈，与黄土色的土地，以及带点雾蒙蒙的蓝天，竟然是如此的美，而不再是诗里永远的凋零感和萧瑟感了。仿佛这才是真正北方冬天的特色。突然觉得，是那么的美，美到不是绿能替代的。因为它是独一无二的。
以前总觉得江南水乡的冬天才富有生机，江南水乡的房子才具有特色。如今，看着一排排零散在田间的房子，脑海里全是坐在炕上的温暖，和大家聚在一团的热闹。突然之前，那种感觉就让人觉得，这才是北方冬天的红红火火。虽然干燥、虽然冷，但也就是那份燥和冷，才让冬天独具特色，才让炕舒服到替代不了。
外面久了，才发现，曾经熟悉的地方，美的地方不熟没有发现，而是习以为常就不觉得美了。有了对比才发觉确实美，确实好。
那一碗米，一碗面，吃的不能再舒服。再好吃的外卖也做不出妈妈的味道，于是乡愁更加的凸显一个人的经历。经历多了，好像只有故乡能解除一切思念。而我们，离开好像就是为了发现原本的美一样。
所以当以前别人觉得你回家很亏的时候，我很想告诉他，并不亏，每天能吃上母亲做的饭，与家人在一起，是无与伦比的幸福。。
大的地方固然可以施展才华，却没有那么浓的人情味，反而显得陌生。
【每日一句】
回家总是开心快乐而迫不及待的，离家则是无奈而负有责任的。
【梦境】
不太记得了
【每日反思与改过】
晚上由于太困，对弟弟的提问没有很好的回应，而是多以嗯，有吧等回应。本来弟弟还说的挺开心，说着说着，便也没有了兴趣。我又不太好打断他，结果最后他也困了也就不说了。其实是我觉得他正在兴致上，只是我困了，但还不想打断他。但其实有时候可以找合适的时候来表达，如果听则，仔细认真听了，不用担心不听了之后对方的不耐烦。
