In one study, we taught them that every time they push out of their comfort zone to learn something new and difficult,the neurons in their brain can form new,stronger connections,and over time they can get smarter.
Look what happened.
In this study,students who were not taught this growth mindset continued to show declining grades over this difficult school transition,but those who were taught this lesson showed a sharp rebound in their grades.
她流着泪出现在我面前说:
我就是没有那个接受成长型思维的学生
我就是因为一次模拟考试的失利就从此再也没有站起来的悲观者
我就是那个在高三教室里其他同学都在奋笔疾书而我却时常趴着桌子上默默流着泪的自卑的人
我就是那个别人在背后嘲笑说“你看她曾经多风光，现在走路都没有生气，活像一只落汤鸡”的人
我就是当年高考成绩出来让所有人都大跌眼镜的失败者，父亲的破口大骂、旁人的冷眼相待、逆袭者的安慰
…
我很久没有见过她了，但是我知道有一天她还是会来找我，说:
我知道这是你的痛处
我知道这是你最不想回顾的往事
我理解你当时的无助与孤独，我都明白，我全都明白
让我抱抱你，你好好地哭一会儿，好好地休息一会儿
此刻她哭得更厉害了，那泪水如同开了闸的水库，她大步地走向我，然后用她那细小的胳膊紧紧地抱住我，她的头斜靠在我的左肩上，她哭泣的声音就在我耳旁，伴着急促的呼吸声，一呼一吸我都听得很清晰
我看着听着揪心，这次我真的很想帮助她，我用双手环抱着她，右手时不时抚摸着她那发热的、衣服都被汗水浸湿的此起彼伏的后背
我说:
傻姑娘，小姑娘
让我告诉你一个秘密
其实后来的你过得真的很快乐，很充实，很幸福，遇见了很多同样善良的人，体验了很多不曾想过不曾有过的经历
我抱着你，让你来听一听我的最近的故事
你知道生活的本质吗？它其实是“a trade-off”，在你现在害怕的学习方面也同样适用
“If you want to reach the goals you set for yourself,you have to get at it and stay at it everyday.You have to think about it all the time.You have to get up everyday with your mind set on improving something.”
借用我最近遇到的一位人生大师-核聚老师的话，那它就是“无所不用其极地达成目标”
我知道那场考试之后你伤心、痛苦，因为
“You want your life, your work and your family to mean something.But you just failed over and over and over at that time.You stop being you,and let many people stick fingers in your face saying you are no good even a loser”
我的可爱的傻姑娘，你的经历其实都不可怕，真的，it's all too human(人之常情)，你知道乔丹吗？他说
“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career.I've lost almost 300 games.26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.I've failed over and over and over again in my life.And it's why I succeed”
你知道美国魔术大师David Blaine吗？他说
“It's practice,it's training and experimenting,while pushing through the pain to be the best I can be”
你看，这些成功人士的案例都在告诉我们
“There's no easy way around it!”
所以，不要害怕失败，不要因为一次又一次的失利而放弃自己，放弃希望，好吗？再坚持一会儿，再多走一步，也许，就到了新的转折点呢？
而且你知道吗，当然这也是我最近才知道的另一个秘密
“You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.How much you can take and keep moving forward.That's how winning is done"
年少的我们其实一直生活在温室里啊，生活中的挑战我们哪有真正的经历过呢，咱们学生时代的考试、练习、测试，这些你现在看来的让你痛苦的事情放在属于生活的这片汪洋大海中，它是没有一席之地的。
“The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows,it's a very mean and nasty place, and most people don't care how tough you are...It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it!”
"I think what happens is we make the situation more complex"
你看见了吗？"一切都是你和自己的战斗"，我的小姑娘，我的可爱的傻姑娘，你发现了吗？
"The universe is not a thing that's pushing us around.The world,people and situations are not going to push us.around.We need to bend the universe.We need to command and demand that the universe become what we want it to be."
我的小姑娘，你今天流着泪痛心地告诉我，你知道了自己为什么会失败，为什么注定失败
其实，我打心底为你高兴，真的
"The fear of failure is more deadly than failure itself"失败并不可怕，可怕的是害怕失败
我为你高兴，是因为你能直面它，尽管让你痛苦，让你流泪
更重要的是，我相信你已经知道了今后如何在未知的生活中去面对和解决
"every time you push out of your comfort zone to learn something new and difficult,the neurons in your brain can form new, stronger connections,and over time you can get stronger"
所以，我的善良的、可爱的傻姑娘
"Will you fight?For one chance,just for one chance"
"同学，醒一醒，醒一醒。你怎么了，刚刚你在图书馆睡着了，旁边同学说你在梦中哭了，没事儿吧？快回寝室休息吧，我们得闭馆了。明天再来"
