文/阿莲
永不霸凌自己，余生只做自己的靠山
Never bully yourself; be your own support for the rest of your life.
人活一世，
最该善待的人，
从来都是自己。
In this life,
the person you should treat the best
is always yourself.
我们总在自我凌迟。
别人一句无心的话，
就能让我们纠结很久。
We often torture ourselves inwardly.
A casual remark from others
can make us overthink for a long time.
自己一点小小的失误，
就会被无限放大，
狠狠指责，反复内耗。
A small mistake of our own
gets blown out of proportion,
followed by harsh self-blame and endless internal struggle.
我们用焦虑和自责，
一遍遍霸凌自己，
却忘了要好好爱自己。
With anxiety and self-reproach,
we bully ourselves over and over
yet forget to love ourselves well.
别再对自己那么苛刻。
允许自己不完美，
允许偶尔普通，允许偶尔脆弱。
Stop being so harsh on yourself.
Allow yourself to be imperfect,
allow occasional ordinariness and occasional vulnerability.
不霸凌自己，
是底线，也是温柔。
是与自己最好的和解。
Not bullying yourself
is your bottom line and your kindness.
It is the best reconciliation with yourself.
永远跟自己站在一起。
靠山山会倒，靠人人会跑，
只有自己最可靠。
Always stand by yourself.
Mountains may crumble, people may leave,
only you are the most reliable.
低谷时做自己的光，
迷茫时做自己的方向，
受伤时做自己的港湾。
Be your own light in low points,
your own direction when lost,
your own harbor when hurt.
永远保护好自己。
学会拒绝，守住边界，
远离消耗你的人和事。
Always protect yourself well.
Learn to say no, set your boundaries,
stay away from people and things that drain you.
你的善良要带锋芒，
你的心软要有底线，
别让真心被随意辜负。
Your kindness should have edges,
your softness should have limits,
never let your sincerity be casually betrayed.
永远让自己活得舒服。
不勉强，不讨好，不委屈，
按自己的节奏好好生活。
Always live comfortably.
Don’t force yourself, please others, or feel wronged.
Live at your own pace.
吃想吃的饭，见想见的人，
做让自己开心的事，
把日子过成喜欢的模样。
Eat what you crave, meet who you miss,
do what makes you happy,
and live life the way you like.
余生很短，别为难自己。
不内耗，不纠结，不痛苦，
把温柔和偏爱全都留给自己。
Life is short; don’t make things hard for yourself.
No internal friction, no entanglement, no pain.
Save all your tenderness and preference for yourself.
从今天起，做自己的盟友。
不霸凌，不放弃，不辜负，
好好爱自己，比什么都重要。
From today on, be your own ally.
No bullying, no giving up, no letting down.
Loving yourself well matters more than anything.
愿你往后余生，
自在舒心，安稳欢喜，
永远做自己最坚实的靠山。
May the rest of your life
be free, peaceful and joyful,
and may you always be your strongest support.
嗨，我是阿莲。
喜欢写写心情、聊聊生活，
遇见同频又有缘的朋友。
人世间所有的相遇，都是久别重逢。
很高兴在这里遇见你，与你相识相伴。
全网同名《阿莲漫生活》。
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