I love you money !! Oh no..I mean honey ...

在这个遍地都是花式虐狗cp的世界里，偶尔也有一件事多多少少有些尴尬，那就是！约会谁买单？

（敲黑板！！这道题是必考题！！划重点！！）

世界上最动听的情话，不是 I love you 而是 can I pay for you？

试想你和你的男神第一次约会，在一家别具情调的西餐厅刚刚吃完一顿浪漫的烛光晚餐，音乐萦绕，香氛正好，这时，他拿出一个小小的计算器敲敲敲，敲完对你说：“Darling ,这顿饭你付521.25元，给你抹个零，给我521就好，爱你哟！么么哒！

(╯°□°）╯

就这样，谈笑间，爱情灰飞烟灭。。

当然DAKA酱不是迫害我们广大男性同胞，我们女生不会把你吃穷的。那么约会到底应该谁来买单呢？DAKA酱作为一个软妹来告诉你，这个问题没有准确的答案，it depends…想知道吗？往下看！有彩蛋～

在解决问题之前，先来翻开我们的DAKA小百科，你知道AA制是怎么来的吗？

AA是Algebraic Average的缩写，意思是代数平均，也有人认为是All Apart（全部分开）的缩写。用于表示各人平均分担所需费用～

其实表达分开付账除了AA外，还有另外一种地道的说法－－go Dutch

eg. Let's go Dutch this time.

这次我们各自付账。

这要追溯到16~17世纪时的荷兰和威尼斯，那里是海上商品贸易和早期资本主义的发迹之地。终日奔波的意大利、荷兰商人们已衍生出聚时交流信息、散时各付资费的习俗来。因为商人的流动性很强，一个人请别人的客，被请的人说，说不定这辈子再也碰不到了，为了大家不吃亏，彼此分摊便是最好的选择了。而荷兰人因其精明、凡事都要分清楚，逐渐形成了let's go dutch（让我们做荷兰人）的俗语。

（荷兰人就这样永远地躺枪了，默哀一秒钟）

好，小百科时间结束，让我们开始打怪吧！！

To help clear up the confusion, here are some tips that will help you figure out who pays for the first date in certain situations.

If you ask her out… 如果你约妹子出去玩

If you ask a girl out then the answer to the “who pays on a date?” question is a simple one.It’s you.  When you invite a girl on a date it’s your responsibility to take care of her.  So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date.  After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you.  And that will be difficult if she’s worried about the money she’s spending.

如果你约妹子出去玩那么谁买单呢，毫无疑问，是你。因为作为一个爷们儿，你约妹子出去玩，你就有责任照顾好她。让她放松并享受和你在一起的时光，而不是为了谁付钱的问题感到尴尬或者烦心。

Another reason it’s important for men to pay for a date is that it sends a clear message of your intentions.  If you have a womansplit the tabwith you she may no longer see this as a “date”.  She may instead get the message that the two of you arenothing more thanfriends.  If you want to avoid her seeing you in that light then paying for the date will go a long way.

另外一个重要原因是，你来买单会很明确的表示出你的心意。如果你要求姑娘分开付账的话她会觉得你们不是在约会而不过是普通朋友一起出来玩而已。如果你不想让她这样认为的话，买单会让你们的关系更长久。

In fact, girls don’t expect you to pay EVERYTHING for her ,she just need to know that you care about her ,that you WANT to pay for her. Maybe the first time you pay and next time she will pay.

事实上女生并不要求你为她付所有的帐，重要的是态度，你要让她知道你在乎她，你愿意为她付钱。可能第一次是你付钱，下次她就会付钱了。

What if she offers tochip in?  如果她提出要出钱呢？

The woman you date may offer to pay for herself.  She mayreach forher purse and suggest once or twice that she can pay half the bill.  This may just be acourtesy, and her way of showing that you don’t have to pay for her.  But in these situations you want to tell her to put the purse away.Let her see that you want to pay for her.  That spending time with her and seeing that she is taken care of is more important than the handful of dollars you’re spending.

有时候姑娘们会提出要分开付，甚至一两次地伸手去拿钱包。但是这可能只是出于礼貌，表示你不用一定要帮她付。但是这种情况下你一定要拿出霸气总裁的风范，让她把钱包拿开，让她知道，你愿意为她付钱，让她知道和她在一起，照顾她，远比那几块钱重要。

What if she’s really insistent?  如果她坚持要付钱呢？

It’s not often butevery once in a whileyou may go on a date with a woman who absolutely refuses to let you pay for her.  If that’s the casethere’s no pointfighting it.  Offer to pay for her but if she is really persistent about it then just split the bill.

虽然不常见，但是偶尔也会有这样的妹子，坚决拒绝你为她付钱，这个时候就没有必要坚持付钱了。只要表示出你愿意为她买单，当她坚持拒绝的时候分开付钱就好了。

There are some good reasons why a woman may insist on paying for herself.Maybe she sees it as a point of pride that she can take care of herself.Maybe she doesn’t want to feel like she “owes” you anything.

女生坚持自己付钱可能是出于一些合理的原因。她会把这种行为看作是一种女性的尊严，表示她有能力自己照顾好自己，不依靠男人。或者她不想“欠”你什么。

Or maybe she feels guilty when guys buy her things and she doesn’t want to feel that way.  If her reasoning is anything like the points mentioned above,you can actually be doing her a favor and showing you respect her values by allowing her to pay for herself.

也可能是男生为她付钱会让她感觉很愧疚。无论出于什么原因，这个时候你都应该顺着她的心意，答应让她付钱，表示你对她的尊重。

What if she asks you on a date? 如果是妹子约你呢？

Now the question of “who pays on a date” can be a little trickier if the girl invites you out.  If that’s the case you don’t necessarily have the sameobligationas you would if you invited her out.So in these instances you’re fine splitting the tab.

那这个问题可能会有些棘手。这种情况下你就没有必须要照顾她让她开心的义务了，分开付账是合理的。

Of course you can always be the super-gentleman and still pay for her anyway.Not only would that be appreciated, but it would send a clear message of your interest and desire to be more than friends.

当然你仍然可以绅士地为她付款。这不仅仅会让她更欣赏你，也传达了明确的信息表示你对她有兴趣并想继续交往下去。

所以，正常情况下，买单的时候是这样的。

He grabs the check immediately.

他立即拿过账单

She does the “fake reach.”

她假装掏钱包

He waves her off and insists on paying.

他大手一挥直接付钱

She thanks him for hisgenerosity.

她谢谢他的慷慨

End of scene.场景结束

HOWEVER:

You, as a man, can’t get mad if she doesn’t make the offer to split. If you offer to take her out, expect to pay for the whole thing, and be pleasantly surprised if you don’t have to.

作为男生，如果对方没有提出要分开付账，别生气。你约她出去，是做好了请她的准备。如果她表示不用你请，那么你应该感到惊喜，而不是理所应当。

You, as a woman, can’t get mad if he accepts your reach. If you offer to split, and he lets you split (or even pick up) the check, he has done absolutely nothing wrong. It’s not a game or a test, unless you treat it like one.

作为女生，如果你假装掏钱包的时候他真的让你付了，也别生气。因为你表示你可以付钱，他就让你付了，这样他没做错任何事。不要把谈恋爱和约会当成游戏或者考验。

One final, overriding note for men: It doesn’t matter if it’s coffee or dinner, whether you make more or she makes more, whether you asked her out or she asked you out. You can never go wrong by paying.

最后，各位广大男性同胞，最重要的提醒：无论是咖啡还是大餐，无论是你花的多还是她花的多，无论是你约她还是她约你，买单永远没有错。

So，我们来看一看各国男女约会谁买单？

（这就是传说中的彩蛋！！！）

看了这么多，让我们假装不是单身狗，做个选择题吧。

DAKA酱认为，人生呐，最重要的是开心！ 你饿不饿呀，我给你买个单？

乖～先去打卡