This article is written for yesterday's English corner.
When the topics were emerging on the black board a kind of complicated feeling has arised to us even including a high school young boy.
The topics are like this: have you ever loved somebody who didn't love in turn, what was it like?have you ever been loved by somebody who you don't love ,What was it like?
You who is reading these topics can answer these interesting questions by yourself.Love is permanent topic we always talk. Everyone has had to give their personal opinions and or real experience about these topics . Most of them said yes and described what was it like. The young boy said he has fallen in love with a character who was not truly lived in this world. He has asked the teacher one question :do you love someone without a reason ? The teacher has replied no. I agree with it. Because if we love someone without any reasons. It's just an artificial feeling has been a flash in the pan. It's not reasonable.It seems he was confused about love in common in his age.I have remembered many of them said falling in love with someone during high school but not including me .My answer is someone who I loved he didn't love me and someone who loved me I didn't love before .The teacher George said I am a liar like other people who have replied with answers no. One man who is in middle age said it's a secret.
There are many kinds of love between people existing in this world.Love from parents are unconditional and pure and natural. However ,the love between male and female is complex.it's existed conditionally with purpose in some ways and it's extraordinary selfish but not in all the cases.
After attending the English corner, i have seen one of my colleagues who has trouble with her boyfriend recently. Actually they have already bought an apartment in this city and ready to get married and have their babies soon. But things have changed faster than their plans.They are going to break up now maybe forever I don't know.My colleague thought she was so tired getting along with him as she always did everything for him as long as he felt happy. But she hopes she can live a happy life to be her real. Her boyfriend is accustomed to everything she did for him. So I have comforted her with some ideas we have discussed with friends in the English corner earlier.Pure love is pure with kindness. However,If you are a good enough person you don't need to be afraid not to be loved by someone you also love.
In consideration of the young boy was engaged to think about this topic . Maybe he is confused about love between male and female in his young age. His mother said he should focus on his study.Also another mature boy has said he has felt very sad after breaking up with his girlfriend this feeling was lasted one year. But he believed that he has learned a lot from that relationship.Moreover, there are many other types of relationship I can't list them one by one.
In my opinion,there are three wrong types of understanding of love we should be sensitive to identify avoiding to make troubles or being in trouble.And these ideas are referenced from a book which I read a friend send it to me as a gift named tear down the wall of mind in Chinese .
Firstly,we like to consider dependency as love. I would like to tell your a story here.A boy who needs to go business travel often, but every time he is out of the downtown he always receiving calls from his girlfriend. His girlfriend always asks him whether he misses her or not . She got angry if he said everything was well. She has complained about why he was so happy without being with her . Some people also thought love someone means being together with she or he forever.She or he can't be alone but relies on each other. In ture love, we should give he or she freedom. It means giving your freedom as well. Like the poem says, open the cage and let's the birds fly, then return the freedom to the cage.
Secondly,we link loving yourself to others. I will tell you another story. You can see that have ever it happened to you before ? You have texted a love message to he or she without replying. You have become anxious and checking your cellphone three times within one minute. Because you were waiting for a love message in turn. Like the case of my colleague, she loves her boyfriend so much and requires love from him in turn. So we should not consider loving yourself as loving others.
Thirdly, we are confused about the concept of love and like. When your kids get a good performance at the examination like gaokao, you will be happy and say I love you baby so much. But when kids are failed you will be angry and say what happened and I don't like you so far. Your kids will learn that their parents don't love them but their examination scores. Another example, you like your friends but you may can dislike your friends who are smoking and even their ideas. In the same way, you can hate their behaviors . But in the mean time, you can love this individual.
What's your opinion about true love? You are in the same ages? You have same values? You are falling in love in the right time? Both of you are the right person for each other? And so on.
