You really need to work with your attachment to your own body. If you release yourself from this, you are free from everything.
你真正需要处理的是你对你身体的执着。如果你从这当中释放，你就能从一切中解放。
It must be understood that your deepest sense of attachment is not to your money, house, wife or child. Your deepest sense of attachment is to your own thought and emotion. You may feel your wife, job and child are dear to you, but please see, when your wife, child or the situations around you really go against the way you think and feel, you will drop all of them. You will not drop your ways of thinking and feeling, but you will drop the other person because the other person has stopped fitting into your life. They are in your life only because they have made the compromise to agree with whatever you think and feel.
你需要了解的是，你最深的执着不是你的金钱、房子、妻子或小孩。你最深的执着来自于你的思想和情感。你可能会感觉你的妻子、工作和小孩对你自己而言十分宝贵，但是你需要看到的是，当你的妻子、小孩或你周围的情形与你所想所感的背道而驰时，你会将他们通通放弃。你不会放弃你的思考和感受模式，但你会放弃他人，因为他们不再契合你的生活。他们存在于你的生命中，仅仅是因为他们做出了妥协而同意你所想所感的一切。
You are just using someone as a means or as a victim. It is because you are deeply attached to your body that you get attached to somebody. If you are not attached to your own body, you can be deeply involved but unattached. So, you do not have to work on your attachments with people around you. You really need to work with your attachment to your own body. If you release yourself from this, you are free from everything.
你将他人只是视为一种手段或牺牲品。正因为你深深地执着于你的身体，才使得你执着于某一个人。如果你不执着于你身体，你可以深深投入但却无挂碍。所以，你不需要试图改变你对身边人的依附感。你真正需要处理的是你对你身体的执着。如果你从这当中释放，你就能从一切中解放。
