Reading Journal - The Subtle Art of Not Giving  a F*ck

20180119-20  Chapter 3 You Are not Special

-Q & A-

1. What does “entitlement” mean? Can you give an example to explain it?

"Entitlement" means a state where people feel they have the official right to have or do something, and in this book sometimes means people think they deserve something better or more than others. For examble, one may think he or she can get what they want without strugglig for it.

2. What’s the point of telling Jimmy’s story?

The author told us the story of Jimmy to show us the danger of being entilted.

3. Do you think you are special? What’s wrong with feeling you are sepcial?

To be honest, I often thought I was special. Feeling special imparts an urge to be great to me, which makes me feel stressful and self-centerned sometimes.

4. If you are not special, how can we achieve greatness?

By getting rid of the stress of being perfect and special to live a life we really want and dedicate ourselves to what really matters in our life, we can achieve greatness even when we are not special.

-Take-away Message-

001 读完今天的内容，想起很久以前一位老师跟我说过的，“现在很多学生的问题就是他们把自己想得太重要了，说不得碰不得。” 其实我自己初中高中的时候也是一样，觉得自己遇到的问题太特别了，别人都不懂我的感受，自己是世界上最孤独的人。现在想起来这种想法真的可以称得上是“少不更事，为赋新词强说愁”了。我们没有那么特别，我们遇到的问题也没有那么特别，我们就是大多数普普通通的人一样，过着普通的生活。希望自己在今后的生活里也能继续摆正心态，遇事去看看别人的解决办法，尽早摆脱问题，而不是沉浸在自己一个人的世界里放着实际问题不去解决，为情绪所扰。

002 网络给我们提供的生活带来巨大的便利，但同时也带来很多心理上的问题，大众媒体为了吸引眼球而报道的极端信息随处可见，让我们错误地认为这个世界要么极好要么极坏，不愿接受处于中间地带的平凡，从而不愿意做一个平平凡凡的普通人，费尽心思要成为特别的人，于是什么能吸引眼球就去做什么，却根本不知道自己想要什么。比如最近很火爆的小视频拍摄里，就出现为了吸睛（吸金）而拿生命冒险的事情。

-Words & Expressions-

001 impart

原句: “And like all parents, my parents, with the best of intentions, imparted some of their problems to me, as I probably will to my kids.”

释义：v.  to give particular quality to something

用法: impart...to...

造句：Feeling special imparts an urge to be great to me, which makes me feel stressful and self-centerned sometimes.

002 crave

原句: “It wasn’t so much the sex I craved, although the sex was fun.”

释义：v. to have an extremely strong desire for something

造句：Some childern make troubles on purpose because they crave attention.

003 go-getter

原句: “Always pushing himself, always working an angle—a real go-getter, whatever the fuck that means.”

释义：n. someone who is likely to be successful because they are very determined and have a lot of energy

004 catch （熟词生义）(informal)

原句: “The catch was that Jimmy was also a total deadbeat—all talk and no walk.”

释义：n. a hidden problem or difficulty

造句：The catch is that if both of you choose to betral each other, you will lose the game, but if you two choose to cooperate, both of you will win.