李欣频老师在《爱情觉醒地图》一书中有这样一段话：
爱的流动与成长并不需要完美，爱跟另一个人无关，一个充满爱的人只是去爱，就像一个活生生的人会呼吸、吃饭、喝水、睡觉一样，你不会说“除非有完美的空气，否则我就不呼吸”。
“爱”其实就是一种本能。
爱是本能，爱是能量，爱是频率。
爱，只和我自己有关！
我爱，
因为如果不爱，我会像没有吃饭喝水那样缺少生命源动力
我爱，
因为爱的能量从我的内心溢出，自然的流淌在我能触及的每个空间角落
我爱，
因为爱就是我生命的频率，没有爱的震动频率，生命也就失去了优美的旋律
所以，我“爱”，是我的事情
跟对象没有关系，跟物质没有关系，跟压力没有关系
如果一定要一本正经的为“相爱”找一个理由，
那应该是我们的频率连接上了。
很喜欢Roy Croft写的一首关于“爱”的诗，
《Love》
by Roy Croft
I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
After all.
后半段，诗人说：
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By BEING yourself.
Being, 表示成为的意思，也可以表示存在于或者处于某种状态。这里的By being yourself可以理解为：通过你做最真实的自己。但我更喜欢把它理解为：通过处于你最本然的状态，而你最本然的状态也就是爱的状态，也就是爱的频率。
谢谢你！
我爱你！
