The Math of Love 2
Okay, so Top Tip #1: How to win at online dating.
So my favorite online dating website is OkCupid, not least because it was started by a group of mathematicians.
Now, because they're mathematicians, they have been collecting data on everybody who uses their site for almost a decade.
And they've been trying to search for patterns in the way that we talk about ourselves and the way that we interact with each other on an online dating website.
ps:他们一直试图通过我们谈论自己的方式和我们在网上约会网站上相互交流的方式来寻找模式。
trying令人厌烦的; 难对付的; 试图; 想要; 设法; 努力; 试; 试用; 试做; 试验; 审理; 审讯; 审判; try的现在分词
search for搜索，搜寻;访求;追索
patterns模式; 方式; 范例; 典范; 榜样; 样板; 图案; 花样; 式样; 构成图案; 使形成，促成; pattern的第三人称单数和复数
in the way阻碍，挡道
talk about这才叫…;真是
ourselves(we的反身形式)我们自己; (用于强调或代替we或us)我们自己，亲自
interact with与…相互作用
each other互相，彼此
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And they've come up with some seriously interesting findings.
But my particular favorite is that it turns out that on an online dating website.
how attractive you are does not dictate how popular you are, and actually, having people think that you're ugly can work to your advantage.
ps:但我特别喜欢的是，事实证明，在一个在线约会网站上，你有多吸引人并不意味着你有多受欢迎，事实上，让人们认为你很丑会对你有利。
particular专指的，特指的; 不寻常的; 格外的; 特别的; 讲究; 挑剔; 细节，详情; 详细资料; 详细介绍材料
online dating网上约会
attractive性感的; 妩媚的; 英俊的; 诱人的; 吸引人的; 令人愉快的; 有吸引力的
does not不; 不是; 否定就用
dictate口述; 指使，强行规定; 支配; 摆布; 决定; 命令; 规定
actually的确，真实地，事实上; 居然，竟然; 实际上
ugly丑陋的; 难看的; 令人不快的; 危险的; 险恶的; 凶险的
work to根据…行事; 伴随着…工作
advantage有利条件; 有利因素; 优势; 优点; 占先; 优势分; 使处于有利地位; 有利于; 有助于
Let me show you how this works.
In a thankfully voluntary section of OkCupid, you are allowed to rate how attractive you think people are on a scale between 1 and 5.
ps:在OkCupid的自愿部分，你可以在1到5分之间对你认为的人有多吸引人进行打分。
thankfully幸亏; 高兴地; 感激地
voluntary自愿的; 志愿的; 主动的; 自告奋勇的; 自愿性的; 无偿的; 义务性的; 义务的; 自发的; 仪式终始曲，即兴曲
section部分; 部门; 部件; 散件; 节; 款; 项; 段; 切开; 切断; 做切片; 强制入院治疗
allowed允许; 准许; 给予; 允许进入; allow的过去分词和过去式
rate速度; 进度; 比率; 率; 价格; 费用; 评估; 评价; 估价; 认为…是好的; 看好; 划分等级; 分等
how怎样; 如何多少，多么，多大
attractive性感的; 妩媚的; 英俊的; 诱人的; 吸引人的; 令人愉快的; 有吸引力的
think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法
between在…中间，介于…之间; 在…之间，在…中间; 介于…之间
Now, if we compare this score, the average score, to how many messages a selection of people receive, you can begin to get a sense of how attractiveness links to popularity on an online dating website.
ps:现在，如果我们将这一分数，平均分，与一组人收到的信息进行比较，你就可以开始了解吸引力是如何与在线约会网站上的人气联系在一起的。
score得分，比分; 分数，成绩; 总谱; 得分; 记分
how many多少
messages信息，消息，音信; 电邮信息; 要旨，要点，教训; 向传送; message的第三人称单数和复数
selection选择; 挑选; 选拔; 被挑选的人; 被选中者; 入选者; 可供选择的事物
begin开始; 启动; 起始; 开始存在; 起初是; 本来是
a sense of感; 的感觉; 观念
attractiveness吸引力；迷惑力
popularity受欢迎; 普及; 流行
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This is the graph that the OkCupid guys have come up with.
And the important thing to notice is that it's not totally true that the more attractive you are, the more messages you get.
But the question arises then of what is it about people up here who are so much more popular than people down here, even though they have the same score of attractiveness?
ps:但问题是，为什么这里的人比这里的人受欢迎得多，即使他们有同样的吸引力？
question问题; 疑问; 事情; 议题; 课题; 怀疑; 困惑; 正式提问; 质询; 问; 表示疑问
arises发生; 产生; 出现; 引起; 发展; arise的第三人称单数
then当时，那时; 到那时，届时; 然后; 接着; 其后; 后来; 那么; 因此; 既然如此; 当时的
what is是什么; 什么是; 什麽
down向下; 朝下; 在下面; 下; 在较低水平; 下降; 下跌; 向下，往下; 沿着; 顺着; 朝着; 贯穿…时间; 遍及…时期; 喝下，吃下，咽下; 使倒下; 击倒; 悲哀; 沮丧; 情绪低落; 停机; 停止运行; 绒羽; 绒毛; 软毛; 汗毛; 进攻分段，10码进攻(球队可向前推进10码持球进攻的四次机会。球队在连续四次进攻中失球或未能推进10码即不能继续)
even though即使; 尽管; 纵然
they have他们有; 他们刚点了吃的; 他们在家吃早餐
same score得分相等
attractiveness吸引力；迷惑力
And the reason why is that it's not just straightforward looks that are important.
ps:而原因是，不仅仅是直白的外表才是重要的。
And和; 与; 同; 又; 而; 加; 加上; 然后; 接着
why为什么，为何; 何必; 为什么，…的原因; 哎呀，呦，哟，嗨; 原因;理由;说明;难解的问题
not(构成动词be、do和have及情态动词can或must等的否定形式，常缩略为n't)不，没有; 不; (用于hope、expect、believe等动词后，作为否定的回答)不
just正好; 恰好; 正当…时; 不少于; 同样; 公正的; 正义的; 正当的; 合理的; 正直的人; 公正的人; 合适的; 恰当的
straightforward简单的; 易懂的; 不复杂的; 坦诚的; 坦率的; 率直的
looks看; 瞧; 查找; 眼神; 表情; 神情; 脸色; 寻找; 寻求; 注意; 留心; 留神; look的第三人称单数和复数
important重要的; 有重大影响的; 有巨大价值的; 影响很大的; 权威的
So let me try to illustrate their findings with an example.
So if you take someone like Portia de Rossi, for example, everybody agrees that Portia de Rossi is a very beautiful woman.
Nobody thinks that she's ugly, but she's not a supermodel, either.
If you compare Portia de Rossi to someone like Sarah Jessica Parker, now, a lot of people, myself included, I should say, think that Sarah Jessica Parker is seriously fabulous and possibly one of the most beautiful creatures to have ever have walked on the face of the Earth.
ps:如果你把波西娅·德罗西比作莎拉·杰西卡·帕克，那么现在，包括我自己在内的很多人，我应该说，都认为莎拉·杰西卡·帕克是一个非常了不起的人，可能是世上最美丽的生物之一。
a lot of许多
Jessica洁西卡; 女子名
fabulous极好的; 绝妙的; 很大的; 巨大的; 寓言中的; 神话似的
one of…之一
most beautiful美丽的; 美好的; 很好的; 出色的; 巧妙的; beautiful的最高级
creatures生物; 动物; 人; creature的复数
walked走; 行走; 步行; 徒步旅行; 散步; 陪伴…走; 护送…走; walk的过去分词和过去式
on the face of表面上看来
But some other people, most of the Internet, seem to think that she looks a bit like a horse.
Now, I think that if you ask people how attractive they thought Sarah Jessica Parker or Portia de Rossi were, and you ask them to give them a score between 1 and 5, I reckon that they'd average out to have roughly the same score.
ps:现在，我想如果你问人们，他们认为莎拉·杰西卡·帕克或波西娅·德罗西有多吸引人，你让他们给他们1到5分，我估计他们的平均分大致相同。
ask问; 询问; 要求; 请求; 恳求; 征求
attractive性感的; 妩媚的; 英俊的; 诱人的; 吸引人的; 令人愉快的; 有吸引力的
thought想法; 看法; 主意; 记忆; 心思; 思想; 思考能力; 思维过程; 思考; 思维; 认为; 以为; 想; 思索; 琢磨; think的过去分词和过去式
score得分，比分; 分数，成绩; 总谱; 得分; 记分
reckon想; 认为; 被普遍认为是; 被看作是; 料想; 预计; 指望
average out平均为
roughly大约; 大致; 差不多; 粗暴地; 粗鲁地; 粗糙地; 凹凸不平地
same score得分相等
But the way that people would vote would be very different.
So Portia's scores would all be clustered around the 4 because everybody agrees that she's very beautiful, whereas Sarah Jessica Parker completely divides opinion.
ps:所以波西娅的分数都集中在4分左右，因为大家都认为她很漂亮，而莎拉·杰西卡·帕克则完全不同。
Portia波希娅
scores得分，比分; 分数，成绩; 总谱; 得分; 记分; score的第三人称单数和复数
clustered成群的; 成簇的; 群聚; 聚集; cluster的过去分词和过去式
everybody同 everyone; 每个人; 所有人; 人们
agrees同意; 赞成; 取得一致意见，一致同意; 应允; 答应; agree的第三人称单数
very beautiful非常漂亮; 很漂亮; 很美
whereas然而，但是，尽管; 鉴于; “鉴于…”：正式文件的介绍性陈述; 开场白; 条件性陈述
divides分开，分散，分割，分成…; 分配; 分享; 分担; 把分别用于; divide的第三人称单数
opinion意见; 想法; 看法; 观点，信仰; 专家意见
There'd be a huge spread in her scores.
ps:她的分数会有很大的差距。
huge巨大的; 极多的; 程度高的; 非常成功的; 走红的
spread in在…中传开
her她; 她的
scores得分，比分; 分数，成绩; 总谱; 得分; 记分; score的第三人称单数和复数
And actually it's this spread that counts. It's this spread that makes you more popular on an online Internet dating website.
ps:事实上，正是这种扩散才是最重要的。正是这种传播让你在网上交友网站上更受欢迎。
actually的确，真实地，事实上; 居然，竟然; 实际上
spread展开; 打开; 摊开; 使散开; 张开; 伸开; 传播; 散布; 扩展; 蔓延; 广泛; 多样; 抹在面包上的东西
counts数数; 计算总数; 把…算入; 包括; 数出总数; 总数; 数数，点数; 量的计数; count的第三人称单数和复数
makes制造; 做; 组装; 写; 出产; 制订; 铺床; make的第三人称单数
more更多的，更大的; 更; 更强，更多; many的比较级; much的比较级
popular受喜爱的; 受欢迎的; 当红的; 通俗的; 大众化的; 普遍的; 大众的; 流行的
online在线的; 联网的; 联机的
Internet互联网; 因特网
dating介绍约会的，婚介的; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行; date的现在分词
website网站
So what that means then is that if some people think that you're attractive, you're actually better off having some other people think that you're a massive minger.
ps:所以这意味着，如果有人认为你很有魅力，你最好让其他人认为你是个大混血儿。
So what那又怎么样，你管的着吗; 那又怎样; 那又怎么样
means方式; 方法; 途径; 财富; 钱财; 表示…的意思; 意思是; 本意是; 打算; 意欲; 有…的目的; mean的第三人称单数和复数
some people某些人
think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法
attractive性感的; 妩媚的; 英俊的; 诱人的; 吸引人的; 令人愉快的; 有吸引力的
actually的确，真实地，事实上; 居然，竟然; 实际上
better off境况较好的
having有; 持有; 占有; 由…组成; 显示出，带有; have的现在分词
other people别人；他人；物；旁人
massive巨大的; 大而重的; 结实的; 非常严重的
That's much better than everybody just thinking that you're the cute girl next door.
Questions:
1.Why has OkCupid phrased favorite online dating website?
It is run by mathematicians who have collected a lot of data.
2.According to the data what kinds of users receive the most messages ?
those whose attractiveness ratings vary.
3.a cluster is a group of things of the same type that are close together.
4.what discovery did OkCupid's researches find from their data?
a user's attractiveness does not completely determine their popularity.
5.why did she compare the data with two celebrities?
to demonstrate how attractiveness affects popularity.
6.to illustrate means
to show the truth of something more clearly .
Fill in the blanks :
it turns out that on an online dating website, how attractive you are does not dictate how popular you are, and actually, having people think that you're ugly can work to your advantage.
Now, if we compare this score, the average score, to how many messages a selection of people receive, you can begin to get a sense of how attractiveness links to popularity on an online dating website.
Now, I think this begins makes a bit more sense when you think in terms of the people who are sending these messages.
ps:现在，我认为，当你从发送这些信息的人的角度来思考时，这个开始就更有意义了。
think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法
begins开始; 启动; 起始; 开始存在; 起初是; 本来是; begin的第三人称单数
makes制造; 做; 组装; 写; 出产; 制订; 铺床; make的第三人称单数
a bit一会儿，片刻（英国英语中亦用for a bit）; 稍微; 稍稍; 有点儿
sense感觉官能; 感觉，意识; 理解力; 判断力; 感觉到; 意识到; 觉察出; 检测出
who谁，什么人; 表示所指的人; 进一步提供有关某人的信息
sending邮寄; 发送; 传达; 转致; 告知; 派遣; 打发; 安排去; send的现在分词
messages信息，消息，音信; 电邮信息; 要旨，要点，教训; 向传送; message的第三人
So let's say that you think somebody's attractive, but you suspect that other people won't necessarily be that interested.
That means there's less competition for you and it's an extra incentive for you to get in touch.
ps:这意味着对你来说竞争少了，这对你联系是一种额外的激励。
means方式; 方法; 途径; 财富; 钱财; 表示…的意思; 意思是; 本意是; 打算; 意欲; 有…的目的; mean的第三人称单数和复数
less较少的，更少的; 较少; 较小; 更少; 更小; 没那么多; 少; 减去; 扣除; 小的; 比较小的; 可爱的，可怜的，讨厌的; 年幼的; 幼小的; little的比较级
competition竞争; 角逐; 比赛; 竞赛; 竞争者; 对手
for you为了你; 为你; 给你
extra额外的; 分外的; 外加的; 附加的; 额外的事物; 另外收费的事物; 临时演员，群众演员; 额外; 另外; 外加; 特别; 格外; 分外
incentive激励; 刺激; 鼓励
get in touch取得联系
Whereas compare that to if you think somebody is attractive but you suspect that everybody is going to think they're attractive.
ps:相比之下，如果你认为某人有吸引力，但你怀疑每个人都会认为他们有吸引力。
Whereas然而，但是，尽管; 鉴于; “鉴于…”：正式文件的介绍性陈述; 开场白; 条件性陈述
compare比较; 对比; 与…类似; 表明…与…相似; 将…比作
think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法
somebody同 someone; 某人;有人; 重要人物，大人物
attractive性感的; 妩媚的; 英俊的; 诱人的; 吸引人的; 令人愉快的; 有吸引力的
suspect疑有，觉得; 怀疑; 感觉有问题; 不信任; 嫌疑犯; 嫌疑分子; 可疑对象; 不可信的; 靠不住的; 可疑的; 可能有危险的; 有违法嫌疑的
everybody同 everyone; 每个人; 所有人; 人们
going离去; 去; 离开; 进展速度; 难度; 地面状况; 常去…的; 走; 移动，旅行，行走; go的现在分词
they他们; 她们; 它们; 用以代替he或she，指性别不详的人; 人们，人人，众人
Well, why would you bother humiliating yourself, let's be honest?
ps:好吧，老实说，你为什么要自取其辱呢？
why为什么，为何; 何必; 为什么，…的原因; 哎呀，呦，哟，嗨; 原因;理由;说明;难解的问题
would you行吗; 你想; 你会不会
bother花费时间精力; 使烦恼; 给造成麻烦; 打扰; 搭话烦扰; 麻烦; 困难; 令人烦恼的情况; 表示对某事或某人烦恼
humiliating使人蒙受耻辱的; 让人出丑的; 丢脸的; 羞辱; 使丧失尊严; humiliate的现在分词
yourself你自己; 您自己; 你们自己; 强调说话对象做某事; 你; 您
let允许; 让; 准许; 许可; 同意; 擦网球; 出租; 租借
be honest清清白白；平心而论
Here's where the really interesting part comes.
Because when people choose the pictures that they use on an online dating website, they often try to minimize the things that they think some people will find unattractive.
ps:因为当人们选择他们在网上约会网站上使用的图片时，他们往往会尽量减少那些他们认为有些人会觉得不吸引人的东西。
choose选择; 挑选; 选取; 宁愿; 情愿; 决定
pictures图画; 绘画; 相片; 照片; 电视图像; 想象; 设想; 忆起; 描述; 描写; 显示在照片上; 用图片显示; picture的第三人称单数和复数
online dating网上约会
often时常; 常常; 往往; 大多
try to设法; 试图; 试着
minimize使减少到最低限度; 降低; 贬低; 使显得不重要; 使最小化
things东西; 物; 物件; 物品; 事物; 用品，衣服; 用具; thing的复数
think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法
some people某些人
unattractive不悦目的; 不漂亮的; 难看的; 不好的; 无趣的; 令人反感的
The classic example is people who are, perhaps, a little bit overweight deliberately choosing a very cropped photo, or bald men, for example, deliberately choosing pictures where they're wearing hats.
ps:典型的例子是，有些人，可能，有点超重，故意选择一个非常不规则的照片，或秃顶的男人，例如，故意选择照片，他们戴着帽子。
perhaps可能; 大概; 也许; 或许; 假定; 猜想; 未定之事
overweight太胖的; 超重的; 超过限制重量的; 过重的; 使…装载过重; 使…负担过重; 在重量上超过
deliberately故意; 蓄意; 存心; 不慌不忙地; 小心翼翼地; 从容不迫地
choosing选择; 挑选; 选取; 宁愿; 情愿; 决定; choose的现在分词
cropped偏短的; 剪短; 剪裁，裁切; 啃吃; crop的过去分词和过去式
bald秃顶的; 秃头的; 无毛的; 无茸毛的; 光秃的; 不加赘述的; 简单的; 赤裸裸的
for example例如;比如
wearing令人精疲力竭的; 使人疲倦的; 令人厌烦的; 穿; 戴; 佩戴; 蓄，留; 流露，面带，呈现; wear的现在分词
hats帽子; 职位，角色; hat的第三人称单数和复数
But actually this is the opposite of what you should do if you want to be successful.
You should really, instead, play up to whatever it is that makes you different, even if you think that some people will find it unattractive.
Because the people who fancy you are just going to fancy you anyway, and the unimportant losers who don't, well, they only play up to your advantage.
ps:因为那些喜欢你的人无论如何都会喜欢你，而那些不重要的失败者，他们只会发挥你的优势。
fancy想要; 想做; 爱慕; 自负; 自命不凡; 想象的事物; 想象; 爱好; 花色小蛋糕; 异常复杂的; 太花哨的; 精致的; 有精美装饰的; 绚丽的; 花哨的; 昂贵的; 奢华的
anyway而且; 加之; 反正; 尽管; 即使这样; 无论如何
unimportant不重要的; 次要的; 无足轻重的
losers输者，败者; 屡屡失败的人; 受损害者; loser的复数
well好; 对; 令人满意地; 完全地; 彻底地; 全部地; 很; 相当; 大大地; 远远地; 健康; 身体好; 状态良好; 情况良好; 明智; 可取; 好主意; 哎呀，哟，啊，好啦; 唉，好吧; 嗯; 井; 水井; 楼梯井; 电梯井道; 律师席; 涌出; 冒出; 流出; 溢出; 涌起; 迸发
advantage有利条件; 有利因素; 优势; 优点; 占先; 优势分; 使处于有利地位; 有利于;
Questions:
1.what lesson did she suggest people take away from the data?
you should express yourself honestly online.
2.an incentive is
something that motivates a person to do something.
3.how was the data contrast with the conventional wisdom?
trying to fit in wiht everyone else won't make you as popular as being different.
4. if something is deliberate, it is
intentional or planned.
ps:
deliberate英 [dɪˈlɪbərət , dɪˈlɪbəreɪt] 美 [dɪˈlɪbərət , dɪˈlɪbəreɪt] adj.故意的;蓄意的;存心的;不慌不忙的;小心翼翼的;从容不迫的v.仔细考虑;深思熟虑;反复思考
intentional英 [ɪnˈtenʃənl] 美 [ɪnˈtenʃənl] adj.故意的;有意的;存心的
Fill in the blanks :
when people choose the pictures that they use on an online dating website, they often try to minimize the things that they think some people will find unattractive.
You should really, instead, play up to whatever it is that makes you different, even if you think that some people will find it unattractive.
Repeat & Read Sentences:
1.You should play up to whatever makes you different, even if some people will find it unattractive.
2.So let's say that you think somebody's attractive, but you suspect that other people won't necessarily be that interested.
3.it's not totally true that the more attractive you are, the more messages you get.
4.they've been trying to search for patterns in the way that we talk about ourselves and the way that we interact with each other on an online dating website.
5.That means there's less competition for you and it's an extra incentive for you to get in touch.
6. how attractive you are does not dictate how popular you are, and actually, having people think that you're ugly can work to your advantage.
