最近几天一直很迷恋于TED上的一个演讲，演讲题目是《做勇敢的女孩》。

演讲者是位美籍印裔Reshma Saujani女士，她讲述了自己在33岁人生的时候做了一件勇敢但看似不完美的事情，从此改变了自己的人生。

我们社会一直都默认的教育方式是从小教小女孩要完美和谨小慎微，而男孩要勇敢和接受挑战。Saujani说有人担心我们的联邦赤字，但是她却担心我们的勇气赤字。我们的社会，我们的经济都在遭受损失，因为我们没有教育我们的女孩子们要勇敢做事，这也是为什么当今社会，哪怕在美国，在科学技术工程数学领域，在企业高管，在董事会，在国会，女性所占的比例依然很低很低。

一份惠普报告显示：男性会递出工作申请，如果他们只达到60%的要求；而女性，只有在达到100%工作要求的时候才会递出工作申请。也许这份研究报告会被认为女性需要更多自信，然而演讲者却认为女性由于长期被要求追求完美，缺少了更多勇气。

想想自己作为一名21世纪的新女性，自己的成长经历，不免也烙印上了这个社会的印记。还记得在我小学时候，成绩一直跟同伴的男生不相上下，甚至一度超越男生。然而一到了初高中，当时不仅老师，连家长大人们也都认为到了高中女生学习数理化的能力不如男生，他们甚至还美名其曰这是是天性，他们这样经常说，我们这些女生听多了，慢慢的也就认为女生在理科方面不如男生，慢慢的每当看到排名前三的都是男生时候也就麻木了，渐渐的也就失去了追赶的动力。

Saujani在演讲中说自己在2012年成立了一家公司，专门教女生编程。她发现其实女生非常善于编程，因为85%的消费者购物行为来自女性，女性使用社交媒体的频率是男性的600%，她们才是因特网的天下， 但是如果只是教她们编程是远远不够的。因为她发现编程是一个不断试错的过程，很多女性不是不会编程，而是很多人当她们自认为没有编程到她们心中完美的代码之前她们宁愿什么都不编，她们不愿意试错。她们心中，只有两种结果：完美和没有。

这个社会需要更多的女性参与到社会的建设和创新中来，如果缺少了这一半的人口，将会是这个社会资源的极大的浪费。Saujani在最后也呼吁大家，不能丢下半数的人口，社会应该从小就教育她们接受不完美的人生，从现在从此刻就开始做一个勇敢的女孩，学会与不完美和谐共处。

附上演讲原文内容：

So a few years ago, I didsomething really brave, or some would say really stupid. I ran for Congress.

For years, I had existedsafely behind the scenes in politics as a fundraiser, as an organizer, but inmy heart, I always wanted to run. The sitting congresswoman had been in mydistrict since 1992. She had never lost a race, and no one had really even runagainst her in a Democratic primary. But in my mind, this was my way to make adifference, to disrupt the status quo. The polls, however, told a verydifferent story. My pollsters told me that I was crazy to run, that there wasno way that I could win.

But I ran anyway, and in2012, I became an upstart in a New York City congressional race. I swore I wasgoing to win. I had the endorsement from the New York Daily News, the WallStreet Journal snapped pictures of me on election day, and CNBC called it oneof the hottest races in the country. I raised money from everyone I knew,including Indian aunties that were just so happy an Indian girl was running.But on election day, the polls were right, and I only got 19 percent of thevote, and the same papers that said I was a rising political star now said Iwasted 1.3 million dollars on 6,321 votes. Don't do the math. It was humiliating.

60 percent of thequalifications, but women, women will apply only if they meet 100 percent ofthe qualifications. 100 percent. This study is usually invoked as evidencethat, well, women need a little more confidence. But I think it's evidence thatwomen have been socialized to aspire to perfection, and they're overlycautious.   发生了什么。 

And even when we'reambitious, even when we're leaning in, that socialization of perfection hascaused us to take less risks in our careers. And so those 600,000 jobs that areopen right now in computing and tech, women are being left behind, and it meansour economy is being left behind on all the innovation and problems women wouldsolve if they were socialized to be brave instead of socialized to beperfect.  

2012, I started a company toteach girls to code, and what I found is that by teaching them to code I hadsocialized them to be brave. Coding, it's an endless process of trial anderror, of trying to get the right command in the right place, with sometimesjust a semicolon making the difference between success and failure. Code breaksand then it falls apart, and it often takes many, many tries until that magicalmoment when what you're trying to build comes to life. It requiresperseverance. It requires imperfection。

 We immediately see in our program our girls'fear of not getting it right, of not being perfect. Every Girls Who Codeteacher tells me the same story. During the first week, when the girls arelearning how to code, a student will call her over and she'll say, "Idon't know what code to write." The teacher will look at her screen, andshe'll see a blank text editor. If she didn't know any better, she'd think thather student spent the past 20 minutes just staring at the screen. But if

she presses undo a few times,she'll see that her student wrote code and then deleted it. She tried, she cameclose, but she didn't get it exactly right. Instead of showing the progressthat she made, she'd rather show nothing at all. Perfection or bust.   

 It turns out that our girls are really goodat coding, but it's not enough just to teach them to code. 

 My friend Lev Brie, who is a professor at theUniversity of Columbia and teaches intro to Java tells me about his officehours with computer science students. When the guys are struggling with an assignment, they'll come in andthey'll say, "Professor, there's something wrong with my code." Thegirls will come in and say, "Professor, there's something wrong withme."   ”

 We have to begin to undo the socialization ofperfection, but we've got to  combine itwith building a sisterhood that lets girls know that they are not alone.Because trying harder is not going to fix a broken system. I can't tell you howmany women tell me,  

"I'm afraid to raise myhand, I'm afraid to ask a question, because I don't want to be the only one whodoesn't understand, the only one who is struggling. When we teach girls to bebrave and we have a supportive network cheering them on, they will build incrediblethings, and I see this every day. Take, for instance, two of our high schoolstudents who built a game called Tampon Run -- yes, Tampon Run -- to fightagainst the menstruation taboo and sexism in gaming. Or the Syrian refugee whodared show her love for her new country by building an app to help Americansget to the polls. Or a 16-year-old girl who built an algorithm to

help detect whether a canceris benign or malignant in the off chance that she can save her daddy's lifebecause he has cancer. These are just three examples of thousands, thousands ofgirls who have been socialized to be imperfect, who have learned to keeptrying, who have learned perseverance. And whether they become coders or thenext Hillary Clinton or Beyoncé, they will not defertheir dreams.  

And those dreams have never been more important for our country. For the American economy, for any economy to grow, to truly innovate, we cannot leave behind half our population. We have to socialize our girls to be comfortable with imperfection, and we've got to do it now. We cannot wait for them to learn how to be brave like I did when I was 33 years old. We have to teach them to be brave in schools and early in their careers, when it has the most potential to impact their lives and the lives of others, and we have to show them that they will be loved and accepted not for being perfect but for being courageous. And so I need each of you to tell every young woman you know-- your sister, your niece, your employee, your colleague -- to be comfortable with imperfection, because when we teach girls to be imperfect, and we help them leverage it, we will build a movement of young women who are brave and who will build a better world for themselves and for each and every one of us.   Thank you.