心理研究表明，人在对另一个人表露内心的时候，会不自觉对对方产生信任感、安全感，从而激发依赖感。而依赖感是爱情的产生条件之一。
但不是所有人都会主动对别人、甚至你的另一半袒露内心的想法，但不用担心，别人不主动不代表没有进展——我们可以主动，采取提问的方式，让对方根据问题回答，触碰内心声音。
36个问题，需要你们互相提问，真诚回答。彼此空出30分钟，面对面坐在一起，看着对方的眼神。选择放松的温馨的环境更能打开心扉。
问题分为三个部分，问题的回答含括多个心理领域：彼此的三观，兴趣与喜好，对生活的规划，自己的习惯，对另一半的期望，对未来的设想，对过去快乐的或悲伤的回忆，对害怕事情的恐惧，搜寻对方的优点、缺点（促进更进一步的了解），与对方分享秘密，让对方说出想对你说的话，等等
开始测试吧～
Set III
第一部分
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1. 世界上所有人当中，你愿意选择谁来共进晚餐？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2. 你想成名吗？以什么方式？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3. 打电话之前，你会排练要说的话吗？为什么？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4. 对你来说“完美”的一天的构成元素有哪些？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5. 最后一次唱歌给自己听是什么时候？给别人呢？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6. 如果你能活到90岁，在生命的最后60年你是愿意保持30岁的身体呢还是30岁的头脑呢？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7. 对自己是怎么死的有没有某种预感？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8. 说出你和同伴的三个共同点。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9. 你的生活中，你最感激什么？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10. 如果你能改变，你愿意以何种方式被养大成人？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11. 花点时间，尽可能细的告诉同伴自己的故事。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12. 如果你明天醒来你能够获得一项品质或者能力，想要哪个？
Set II
第二部分
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13. 若果有一个水晶球可以告诉你事情的真相，关于你自己，你的生活，你的未来或者别的任何事情，你想知道什么？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14. 有没有什么事情你想做很久了？为什么还没有做？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15. 你一生中最大的成就是什么？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16. 你最看重友谊中的什么品质？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17. 你最珍贵的记忆是什么？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18. 你最可怕的记忆是什么？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19. 如果你知道一年内你会突然死去，这回改变你的生活方式吗？为什么？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20. 友谊对你意味着什么？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21. 爱和感情在你的生活着扮演什么样的角色？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22. 轮流分享对方的好品质。一共五个。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23. 你的家庭亲密温暖吗？是否觉得你的童年比别人开心？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24. 你觉得自己和妈妈的关系怎么样？
Set III
第三部分
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... ”
25. 用“我们”造三个表示事实的句子，比如说，“在这个房间里，我们感觉……”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... ”
26. 完成这个句子：“我真希望有个人我能分享……”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27. 如果你想和同伴成为密友，请分享一下他/她最好应该知道的事。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28. 告诉同伴你喜欢他们什么；这个时候诚实点，说点儿你不会告诉那些你刚刚见到的人的话。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29. 和同伴讲讲你生活中的尴尬时刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30. 最后一次在人前哭泣是什么时候？自己哭呢？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31. 告诉同伴，你已经喜欢他们什么了。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32. 如果有的话，什么事情是不能拿来开玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33. 如果你今晚就要死了，并且没有机会跟其他任何人交流，你会后悔没有告诉别人什么？为什么你还没有说？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34. 你的房子着火了，你所有的东西都在里面。救了你爱的人和宠物之后，你有最后一次机会可以救出任何一样东西。会选择什么？为什么？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35. 你家里的哪个人的死会让你最不安？为什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36. 分享一个私人问题，请教同伴他会怎么做。并且让他反馈一下他对你在所选择的问题上给人的感觉。
——摘自心理研究录
