2019-2-19

I am constantly learning English. This process is very boring. I really want to give up and want to do something more fun. But I still forced myself to do it, forcing myself to learn English. But what is the purpose of learning English? When I think about this problem, I know that I should adjust my learning method. Isn't I learning English for communication and expression? Therefore, I should use English, write letters in English, and write articles in English.

2019-2-15

I recently encountered a concept that impressed me in the process of reading: socialization.If I analyze my problem from the perspective of "socialization", it can be said that the education I received from childhood has always violated socialization.

For example, when I was a guest, I exposed my own shortcomings. The host served the food, butI only chatted with my friend and didn't concentrate on eating. Later, the host reminded me "Shang, I think you should eat." I was not grateful for the hard work of the host to cook, I think this is a slight disrespect for the host. These seemingly insignificant habits will affect my interpersonal relationships unconsciously.

I have not learned table manners from my guardians, schools, relatives, friends, and other social relationships. For example, my parents will blow their noses to the ground, spit and go to the toilet without closing the door. Oh, yes, there is no door to the toilet. It is a dry latrine, regardless of gender. They taught me the strategy to live in the local area, for example, to acquaintances,get in by the back door, to rely on relatives, to obey the elders. Rather than the logic of living in the city, especially in big cities like Beijing, to learn rules and follow the rules.

And the schools that are exam-oriented ，it will not give me how to socialize and only teach me how to cope with the exam.

My previous reading range also made me unable to realize the importance of this knowledge. and so. I will be rude .I think I was born this way.being polite is unnecessary and overelaborate formalities. It has blocked my personal socialization process. If the socialization process is not going well, Then I can't play a good role in society and I will shrink. Many things that are very simple for adults are very difficult for me.

I really learned too much from my little niece, feeling that I have re-grown again, Help me reflect on the life of these years.. I realize that the education I receive does not make myself social. I don't want my niece to do the same. Therefore, I consciously cultivate her ability to socialize. For example, school education will let children write texts. However, I personally feel that the essays written by the school are too stylized and are routine. After I watched the movie with her, I guided her to write a film review. They like to watch idol dramas, and I guide them to write character analysis. If possible, I might teach her to write her own ideas , suggestions and ideas for a course. In this case, he gradually has his own influence, and she slowly gains strength. She learn reading from school education. But I guided her to read the museum visit guide, sharing bicycle user agreement, and scenic spot tour guide. In this way, her reading ability has played a role in social life.

If possible I want to help the little niece go to the bank herself to apply for a bank card. What are the abilities that need to be used?

1. Ability to search for information

2.Ability to read comprehension

The ability to search for information may be a bit demanding for her. But she is now perfectly capable of reading. What is the purpose of her literate? Isn't it just a better life? Now she can participate in social activities by doing things by herself, helping her integrate into society, and helping her to learn. Help her understand the purpose of school study, help her become an independent person.

I found myself benefiting a lot from her education. For example, I want to educate her about table manners. Then I need to learn first. But I didn't know it before. Therefore, I also need to re-learn the table manners. In this way, I can be better socialized. Helping me get along with others more smoothly.

For example, I want to teach her how to organize her bedroom, then I have to learn how to organize the bedroom by myself. In this way, I believe that I will slowly be less squalid. In that case, my relationship with my roommate will also become harmonious.

I suddenly think of a sentence "Buckle button the first button of life well" I feel that my first button is not buckled well. Getting along with my niece gave me the opportunity to make up my own lesson.

2019年2月13日

今天忽然冒出个想法，要帮助小侄女自己去银行办理银行卡。怎么办呢？需要用到那些能力呢？

1.信息检索的能力

2.阅读理解的能力

信息检索的能力可能对他要求有点高。但是，她现在完全有能力去阅读。她识文断字的目的是什么？不就是更好的生活吗？现在可以通过自己亲手做事来参与到社会活动中，帮她融入社会，并且，帮她学以致用。帮她理解上学学习的目的，帮她成为一个独立的人，帮她成为自己能够做事的人。

2019年2月9日。

我们上学的时候，会经常学习和阅读。学习如何进行阅读？那么，我们学习阅读的目的。我们为什么要学习？学了之后又睡什么用呢？学了之后有什么用呢？在我看来，学习的目的之一就是让我们能够阅读说明书，比如说我们买了一个新东西，我们需要学会这个东西怎么操作？往往需要借助说明书，所以我们放学时候，用到的阅读能力用到了，所以我们上学的时候训练的阅读的能力，在这个时候就用上了，所以，为了更好的，把自己上学时候阅读的能力用上，都可以多去阅读说明书，多去阅读操作说明，这样就可以把之前学到的，阅读的技能使用起来，比如说，我曾经写过一本书，how to read a book，我觉得这本书上学到的道理，完全可以知道我的阅读的，比如说，昨天一天的生活中，有很多需要用到阅读的地方，比如说，我需要参观博物馆，就需要，趣阅读，参观指南，和观众，手册，还有一些博物馆内部展出的一些文字资料，能阅读这些资料是我和其他不能阅读这些资料的人，很大的区别，能阅读这些资料，就可以知道如何做到守规矩，懂文明参观有礼貌有方法。

再比如说，我需要阅读，共享单车的，用户协议，这些用户协议阅读清楚之后，就可以知道自己的权利和义务，这样就可以在使用这项服务的时候，避免很多的纠纷也知道自己的权利。

2019年2月9日。

前几天我和小侄女一起去看电影，我希望教他们写影评。你怎么来了？也不是非常专业的影评。只是把自己看完之后的想法，给说出来。把自己想吐的槽给吐出来。我忽然想起，我们写作文，上学时候想学习写作文的目的是什么？不就是为了提升表达能力吗？那表达能力怎么体现呢？我觉得我可以提现在，能够。表达出自己对一件事物的看法。比如说一个电影。也就是说。通过看电影写影评。这样就把写作文的知识都用了起来。这样也能把自己写作时的知识，真正的用到实际的地方。我觉得，上学时候，写作文，只是一种，手段是一种锻炼写作和表达能力的手段。而写影评。看完电影之后写我们的影评，就是这种手段，背后的目的。如果只是专注于手段。而忽略了目的。那么可能会让我们不能够学以致用。