我是在1月27日清晨,从哥的口中得知科比离世的消息的。
那时刚刚睡醒,感觉这一定不是真的。How that could have happened?
这场意外让这个世界上关心科比的人都猝不及防。
回顾科比的职业生涯,他不单单在NBA的赛场上取得了辉煌的成就,而且他自己形成了自己的价值观和“生活哲学”。从下面他的名言中,我们不难感受到他的世界充满着取胜豪气和夺冠的斗志:
1. Have ever seen the scene of Los Angeles at 4am? I see often, because I have been starting training at that time.
你见过洛杉矶凌晨4点的样子吗?我经常见,因为我每天那个时候开始训练。
2. Heroes come and go, but legends are forever.
英雄是一时的,但传奇是一世的。
3. If you're afraid to fail then you're probably going to fail.
如果你害怕失败,那意味着你已经输了。
4. What I’m doing right now, I’m chasing perfection.
我现在所做的一切,都是为了追求更加完美。
5. Everything negative--pressure, challenges--is all an opportunity for me to rise.
压力、挑战,这一切消极的东西都是我成长的机会。
6. I don’t want to be the next Michael Jordan, I only want to be Kobe Bryant.
我不想做下一个迈克尔·乔丹,我只想做科比·布莱恩特。
7. Losing is losing, there aren't different degrees of losing. You either win a championship or you're shit. It's very black and white to me.
输球就是输球,没有程度高低。你要么赢得冠军,要么两手空空,就这么简单。
8. Boos do not block dunks.嘘声又盖不了我帽。
9. Somebody has to win, so why not be me?总是有人要赢的,那为什么不能是我呢?
10. Mamba Out. 江湖再见。(科比版)
昨天晚上我看了科比的纪录片Muse。科比在这个纪录片中坦言,自己最恐怖的噩梦是在湖人的主场对阵勇士的时候。35岁的年纪,在联盟中征战了18年,但这一次严重的跟腱断裂可能是自己职业生涯的终结。而生涯终结,是他最害怕的事情,甚至超过死亡。
回顾科比的职业生涯和经历,在我个人看来,科比有这样四个方面的“生活哲学”是超越常人的。
本文既是一种分享,也是我个人对于科比先生的致敬。
1强大的意志力
我们都熟知科比的“洛杉矶凌晨四点”“曼巴精神”“81分”等等他刻苦和付出的故事。科比之所以能有如此强大的意志力,是他清楚的明白自己想得到的是什么。在面对一些小伤,训练的疲惫的时候,他会告诉自己这些痛苦对自己来说不重要。他知道自己要想成为伟大,必须忍受走上夺冠之路的所有肉体的痛苦和训练的枯燥。
2情绪的化解-- 宣泄在篮球场上
科比打球是有怒气的。他坦言,这和他6岁跟随父亲来到意大利,来到语言不通的地方,不断的切换着自己的环境有关系。后来回到美国之后,没有朋友的他倍感孤独。但他不想让自己的情绪在生活中爆发,所以这样对生活沮丧的情绪,转化成为了他打球的动力。在赛场上用专注的比赛冲淡烦恼。在最喜欢的篮球运动上,投入自己全部的时间。他知道自己比别人在这一件事情上,投入了更多的时间,所以他更有自信成为赢家。在球场上也更有自信和杀气。
3走出低谷---通过黑曼巴身份转换
03年因为“鹰郡事件”,科比从当年的得意新星跌入谷底。他需要面对自己造成的家庭危机和舆论危机。也正是在这时候,他自己提出来使用“黑曼巴”的自我切换的称呼。黑曼巴是一种非洲最厉害的毒蛇,不但体型凶悍(最大可达4.48m),而且是蛇类中的爬行速度最快的(最快可达20KM/h),且生性残暴好斗。曼巴是他在场上显示自己实力的象征。他希望在场下科比是科比,需要面对各种纷繁复杂的事情;但在篮球场上,他不是科比而是黑曼巴,打球是自己发泄和证明自己的一种手段,得分是自己唯一需要做的。
通过身份的转换,他让自己更加专注到手头做的事情,确实是一个走出情绪的办法。
4面对失败---不灭的赢球欲
在我看来,科比是使用“一万小时定律”到极致的人,他的all in the game的态度,让他成就了自己。科比有很多值得羡慕和敬佩的地方,比如他在非常年轻的时候找到自己所热爱的东西-篮球,并专注的投入自己的所有;比如他遇到了与他有相同价值观的妻子;再比如他实现了自己的梦想超越前辈,总得分超过乔丹,并取得了很多NBA明星望尘莫及的成就(5次NBA总冠军,入选18次全明星,2次奥运会冠军……)
科比职业生涯有很多场比赛令人印象深刻。比如说在10年的总决赛G7,湖人对阵凯尔特人总决赛的最后一场。面对之前湖人曾在总决赛中输给的拥有有雷阿伦,加内特,皮尔斯的“三巨头”凯尔特人队,科比没有让08年失败的结局重演。最后时刻他选择将球传给队友阿泰斯特,后者投中了致胜三分球。这是科比第五次捧起总冠军奖杯,也是最后一座。
而之后,在他的告别赛上,科比50投22中一共得到的60分,最终帮助球队以101比96最后反超取得胜利。那个场面现在看视频,刚刚我重温的时候依然激动不已。当时堪称完美落幕。
科比在世间是独特的存在。
他用行动和“曼巴精神”向我们证明了刻苦和努力的价值,教会了很多少年如何勇敢的追逐自己的梦想。当然科比的生活哲学也有不完美的地方。如果在赛场上,这样的拼杀的态度自然没错。但是在生活中苛求一定成为“赢家”的思维,对于结果的执念会使生活与家人变得过于紧张和严肃。而独来独往,锋芒毕露的性格可能会错失很多良师益友的帮助。我们也需要辩证的看待。
不过我知道科比并不在乎,他早已在自己的领域里成为了伟大。
而我所能做的就是不要忘记“曼巴精神”的价值,不断激励自己成为更出色的自己;
他的故事更会激励一代代了解他的人在自己所热爱的领域里面,勤奋练习,不畏恐惧,相信自己,不低估自己梦想的价值。
科比说过:一个人最大的恐惧,是来源于自己。不是外部的,不是超自然的,而是来自自己的。在面对任何困难的时候,选择退缩那将意味着你选择了失败。不是所有付出的人都会成功,也不是所有成功的人都会被永远铭记,想要成为那个被永远记住的人,就要时时刻刻勉励自己,让自己战胜自己的内心,只有内心足够强大,才不会被历史所遗忘。
如今是我国抗击疫情的特殊时期,我们谈论和纪念科比,并不是不爱国。在当前我们国家疫情狙击的攻坚战最重要阶段,科比这种不畏伤痛的坚定意志的也是我们赢下这场“战役”所需要的。相信我们一定可以早日战胜疫情,天佑中华!
最后我们一起回顾一下科比球衣退役时的演讲吧,科比对于篮球的热爱值得尊重。
【科比球衣退役演讲全文】:
I want to say, thank you so much for tonight. But it's not about my jerseys that are hanging up there for me. It's about the jerseys that were hanging up there before. Without them, I couldn't be there today. They inspired me to play the game at a high level: Magic [Johnson], Cap [Kareem Abdul-Jabbar], Shaq pushing me every day. [Elgin] Baylor. [Walt] Chamberlain. [Gail] Goodrich. [Jerry] West. [James] Worthy. It goes on and on.
And secondly, it's about this class organization... and it's also about the next generation, this current Lakers roster that we have here. It's about embodying the spirit that exists in those jerseys up there and carrying this organization forward so that the next 20 years are better than the past 20 years. That's what it's about.
It's also about the fans. The media ... I don't think you guys understand how present you guys were with me. You guys were there with me at 5:30 in the morning when I was running the track and I was midway through my workout. I didn't know if I could make it through, and I thought about the expectations you guys had for me, you had for our team. And it pushed me through.
And it's about family. It's about my wife, Vanessa. You guys don't know this, but my last game that we had here against the Utah Jazz, I was really tired. I got home, and I was like, 'I don't know if I can do this thing. I got one more game left, but I don't have any legs.' And she said, 'I want to show you something. I got a gift for you for your last game.' And she proceeded to show me the row of retired jerseys from Baylor, from Magic, from Shaq, from Cap, all with personal messages signed to me, including from Michael Jordan, including from the great Bill Russell, including from the great Larry Byrd. When I saw that, I knew then that I had to turn it up.So, thank you, baby, for being an inspiration to me.
And lastly, our daughters, Natalia, Gianna and Bianka... you guys know that if you do the work, you work hard enough, your dreams come true. You know that. We all know that. But hopefully, what you get from tonight is the understanding that those times when you get up early and you work hard, those times when you stay up late and you work hard, those times when you don't feel like working, you're too tired, you don't want to push yourself, but you do it anyway -- that is actually the dream. That's the dream. It's not the destination, it's the journey. And if you guys can understand that, then what you'll see is you won't accomplish your dreams. Your dreams won't come true. Something greater will, and if you guys can understand that, then I'm doing my job as a father.
Thank you guys so much. I love you. Mamba out.