Should kids be paid to do chores?
When you reward a kid with money, it's an external form of motivation. What if one day, your child is no longer motivated by money? You might be in trouble. Furthermore, your kid might start expecting to be rewarded for everything. Money can be a motivator for your kid to do chores and may produce immediate results. However, he may not realize that it is also his duty to do the chores as a family member. Do you allow your child to figure things out by himself? Don't you know he can also learn life skills in the process of doing chores and get a great sense of achievement. You have to admit internal motivation is important for the long term.
Is your child refusing to do homework？
Many parents complained: "My child refuses to do homework." Even though they reason, lecture, and yell, nothing seems to change. Homework makes both children and parents upset and each night turns into a battle with no victors. If you are dealing with this now, I suggest you to stay calm at first. Try to avoid yelling because it's likely not going to help. Some kids are even able to manipulate parents as they know exactly how parents will react to their behaviors. Therefore, when you are about to lose your temper, just take a deep breath secretly, then talk with your child as usual. Homework is work, I do my job and you do your job, your job is to go to school and learn, including getting homework completed. Moreover, let your child know that you expect him to get his homework done on time. It's important and beneficial for your kid to learn how to manage his time well and get rid of procrastination. In addition, don't forget to praise your child sincerely for his good behavior. You need to be specific about what you are praising him for and he will subconsciously do the same thing again. Finally, support your child whenever he is in need. Remember not to tell him what to do, ask instead. Let your kid teach you even if you already know the answer. Gradually, you will be surprised to find that your child is becoming excellent If you follow my above suggestions. The relationship between you and your child will also be better and better.
