Reading Journal - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
20180115-16 Chapter 1 Don't Try
-Q & A-
001 What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove?
It tries to prove that it's what we are rather than what we want to be that makes us successful. Even though we might seem to be a failiure sometimes, we should be comfortable with ourselves.
002 What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack?
The conventional life advice, which focuses on urging you to persue what you want (or sometimes what you think you want because other people think it's good and you just want to prove that you are better than them), always reminds you of what you lack, like your personal shortcomings and failures.
003 Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?
Feedback Loop from Hell is a situation where you become negative towards yourselves once you realize you are or likely to be in a bad mood, including being angry, worried, upset and so on. What's worse, your negative attitudes towards yourselves upset you more than the negative feelings themselves.
004 What are the subtleties of not giving a fuck?
1. To be comfortable with being different rather than to be indifferent.
2. To give a f*ck about more important things rather than adversity itself.
3. To learn to only give a f*ck about what's truly f*ck-worthy.
005 What’s wrong with being “perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times”? Can you think of an example to support your answer?
Being “perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times” will weaken your endurance of adversity and negative feelings.
Take students' attitudes towards words-memorizing in English-learning as an example. If they entitle themselves to a rather easy approach to memorizing words, not recognizing the necessity and significance of repetition in words-memorizing, they will regard the jod a kind of suffering so that it's gradually impossible for them to put up with the process.
-Take-away Message-
001 社会环境和和我们个人的心理素质导致我们一直关注那些我们没有的东西，觉得生活必须要拥有了这些大众眼中标志着成功的东西才算成功，并且由于社交媒体的普及，看起来周围的人都过着幸福的生活，这让我们更加无法忍受自己的负面情绪，陷入Feedback Loop from Hell 。
002 个人觉得Not Giving a Fuck 这标题定得稍微有点不合适，因为作者想告诉我们的不是真正的目空一切，到indifferent这个程度，而是抛开那些无聊的琐事，关注那些真正值得我们关注的东西，而不是那些别人觉得我们应该关注的东西。
-Words & Expressions-
001 warts and all (informal)
原句: We accept it, warts and all.
释义： including all the faults or unpleasant things
造句：Why not just put these warts and all aside?
002 screw （熟词生义）
原句1: My mother was recently screwed out of a large chunk of money by a close friend of hers.
释义： v. to cheat someone in order to get money from them
用法： screw somebody for something
造句：The evil-minded tour guide screwed the visitors for more than 1000 RMB.
原句2: I was pissed off. I said, " No, screw that, Mom. We're going to lawyer the fuck up and go after this asshole. Why? Because I don't give a fuck. I will ruin this guy's life if I have to."
003 cave in
原句: They imagine and aspire to be a person who is shaken by nothing and caves in to no one.
释义：to finally stop opposing something, especially because someone has persuaded or threatend you
造句：The president is expected to cave in to pressure from the media's critisim.
004 weather （熟词生义）
原句: When most people envision giving no fucks whatsoever, they imagine a kind of serene indifference to everything, a calm that weathers all storms.
释义： v. to come through a very difficult situation safely
造句：It's lucky that the country finally weathered the sandstorm.
005 slight（熟词生义）
原句: You will see every challenge as a faliure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal.
释义： n. 轻蔑,忽视,冷落
造句：The chairman regarded the quarrel as a slight to his authority.
006 Chances are...
原句: Chances are you've engaged in it more than a few times.
释义： It is likely that ...
造句：Chances are we can't make it if we don't hurry up.
