那些为我们所压抑所忘记的特质，往往会极大的影响我们的生活，尽管这种影响是我们平时意识不到的。我们越是压抑某些特质，他们就越会在意想不到的地方冒出头来，努力唤起我们的注意。

        我们的心灵天生具有的防御机制。一旦我们刻意去压抑某种特质，就会吸引那些更容易表现出这种特质的人，让我们可以从他们身上看见我们自己的映像。

        我们需要理解接纳和包容自己身上的一切特质，因为如果连我们自己都接受不了自己的话，又怎么能期待世界接受我们呢？要想获得别人的爱，我们必须首先建立起自爱。有些人只注意修饰自己的外表，却不注重内心；有些人则太过关注内心世界，从来不肯对着镜子照一照。只有把内与外、积极与消极结合起来，找回一个完整的自我，你才能在不同的情境下控制自己所表现出的特质，达到“从心所欲，不逾矩”的境界。

Those qualities that we have repressed and forgotten often have a great impact on our lives, although this impact is not usually recognized. The more we repress certain characteristics, the more they will care about unexpected places and try to arouse our attention.

The innate defense mechanism of our mind. Once we deliberately suppress a certain trait, we will attract those who are more likely to express this trait, so that we can see our own image from them.

We need to understand and accept all the characteristics of ourselves, because if we can't accept ourselves, how can we expect the world to accept us? To win the love of others, we must first establish self-love. Some people only pay attention to their appearance, but not their heart; Some people pay too much attention to their inner world and never look in the mirror. Only by combining internal and external, positive and negative, and finding a complete self, can you control your own characteristics in different situations, and reach the state of "follow your own inclinations and do not exceed the rules".