All of us socially narrow in our lives, in our school, in work. It makes us comfortable to be around people who are similiar.
The problem is when we're on a precipice, when we're in trouble, when we need new ideas, when we need new jobs, when we need new resources. This is when we really pay a price for living in a clique.
怎样扩大我们的社交圈？
How can we be a little bit more intentional about traveling our social universe?
(1). To use a more imperfect social search engine.使用不完美的社交搜索引擎。
The social search engine is how you are finding and filtering your friends.
You can force yourself to see what you don't want to see,to connect with who you don't want to connect with,to widen your social world.
To truly widen,what we have to do is.we've got to fight our sense of choice.
(2).Be courageours in traveling your social universe.积极主动扩大社交圈。
We are not courageous when we reach out to people.When your psychological world is breaking down,the hardest thing to do is to try and reach out and build up your social world.
Imagine that you were being spontaneously unfriended by everyone in your network,other than your mom,your dad and your dog.
We are mentaly compressing our networks when we are being harassed, when we are being builded , when we are threatened about losing a job, when we feel down and weak,we are closing ourselves off,isolating ourselves, creating a blind spot where we actually don't see our resources, we don't see alies, we don't see our opportunities.
How can we overcome this?
The strategy is simply to work at your list of friends just so you remind yourself of people who are there beyond those that automatically come to mind.
(3). Reach out to people as partners rather than resouces.找到一个同伴而不是一个利益相关者。
When we think about human reltions in a transactional way.it is fundamentally uncomfortble to us as human beings.
We must think about human relations and reaching out to people in more human ways.
How do you think about this ticket that you have to travel your social universe?
Being a passenger on that train,and it's quite linear. You're off to some particular destination. Why not instead think of yourself as an atom, bumping up against other atoms, maybe transferring energe with them, bonding with them a little and maybe creating something new on your travles through the social universe.
