THE WAY YOU BE WITH YOURSELF IS THE WAY YOU GET ALONG WITH THE WORLD
There is nothing out there but yourself, and it is the attitude you hold toward the things you come across that shapes the world in your eyes. And that's why we fail every time we intend to get things settled without a quiet reflection within ourselves. We ignore the need within but care too much about what others might think of us. We are hurried to judge our feelings and behavior but seldom try to figure out the reason behind with a mind not eager to make any comment. So we have been seeking the resolution outside around the world, asking people about their opinions and tips but none of them 100% applicable to ourselves without the adjustment based on individual differences, imitating examples stunning around but things seem standing still since we stand against our inner demand or seldom hear ourselves out so we just move around inefficiently ignoring the motivation sleeping inside.
How I may get along with myself to make reconciliation with the world.
Be a parent of myself, admit and accept the moodiness, impatience, aggressiveness, everything not currently ideal within me and help identify the need behind each negative phenomenon, since it may be a reflection of the demand inside that hasn't been satisfied yet. I may be lack of sense of safety so I act emotionally even though I don't mean it. It may be a running out of inner strength to guarantee a peaceful mind that I lost patience at the edge of a certain moment. I become aggressive because I can't help feeling powerless and helpless within, allowing the things unexpected get on my nerve. Right at these moments, I should regard myself as a baby, someone in need of good care and with unlimited potential for further improvement. I am supposed to be patient enough to take everything that is not perfect or even awkward, covering all the flaws with a softly and warm palm, until things get healed with a resolution. Accept you as you are and help you through everything unpleasantly difficult. That is what a parent may do to her child, and that's exactly what I would like to do to myself.
Be a loyal companion to myself, talk to myself and be the most patient audience to the soliloquy inside. Do things alone, enjoying being by myself, but image that there is another me stay around, silently keep an eye to myself and follow me everywhere. So I am not afraid of the dark or uncertainty, and no longer try to fit in with the others only to find that I am trying to stay away from loneliness in vain by putting people not knowing about me around me. Get to know myself as an old friend does, and I finally find that it feels good to be with myself, as if warming my left hand with my right hand.
Be a negotiator to myself, try to have a negotiation with myself every time I want to put things off, I want to satisfy my desire before I get things done. Try to persuade myself from doing the things that I may regret later and convince myself to do the things right away with bonus motivated. Stay communicating and negotiating with myself to see how much more I could do to become a little bit better than yesterday. The minute I succeed in getting a yes from myself, I am away from the chaotic battle between the different voices inside me. I know that I am on the right way once my intention and action stay as one.
